5 emotional stages of a break up explained
Down in the dumps because of your break up? Here's what you're probably going through
Down in the dumps because of your break up? Here's what you're probably going through. PHOTO: RADIOTIMES
Tears. Drama. Depression. And more tears.
We've all been there. It's not a pleasant sight, nor a pleasant state to be in. You're a slobbering mess and nothing helps cure the grief; but no, your life is not coming to an end.
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Let us explain the five emotional stages of a break up one goes through:
1. Denial - You're constantly questioning it, unable to register what happened. A terrible nightmare, possibly?
You try to block it out, hoping some miracle might prevent the inevitable from happening.
But you still can't get over the picture-perfect family you had planned with your 'soulmate'.
And even though your friends urge you to let it out, you dismiss all such notions; "perfectly capable" of dealing with your emotions.
No matter how much others tell you to stop dwelling in the past:
2. Anger - Now that it's slowly sinking in, you're enraged by it all.
You are furious with your ex and your anger gets the better of you.
And you want to hurt your ex the same way they hurt you.
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3. Bargaining - Rage subsides and is now replaced by attempts at reconciliation.
Maybe it was your fault. Maybe you could have tried harder.
And maybe your ex will take you back if you change.
4. Depression - It finally hits you. There's no going back. It.has.ended. It's going to kill you, but there's no other way than to cope with it.
It's not going to be easy, but you'll get there.
Even if it means binge-eating, and staying up with your best friend to watch your favourite TV shows.
Even if it tears you up and leaves you feeling empty inside:
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5. Acceptance - It wasn't meant to be and you finally learn how life was when you were single.
And you smile through it all, because you've made it this far.
And no matter what, you're going to be alright.
Because you don't need someone else to complete you.
Enjoy the single life while you can! One break up does not define you, nor should it tear you down.
We've all been there. It's not a pleasant sight, nor a pleasant state to be in. You're a slobbering mess and nothing helps cure the grief; but no, your life is not coming to an end.
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Let us explain the five emotional stages of a break up one goes through:
1. Denial - You're constantly questioning it, unable to register what happened. A terrible nightmare, possibly?
You try to block it out, hoping some miracle might prevent the inevitable from happening.
But you still can't get over the picture-perfect family you had planned with your 'soulmate'.
And even though your friends urge you to let it out, you dismiss all such notions; "perfectly capable" of dealing with your emotions.
No matter how much others tell you to stop dwelling in the past:
2. Anger - Now that it's slowly sinking in, you're enraged by it all.
You are furious with your ex and your anger gets the better of you.
And you want to hurt your ex the same way they hurt you.
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3. Bargaining - Rage subsides and is now replaced by attempts at reconciliation.
Maybe it was your fault. Maybe you could have tried harder.
And maybe your ex will take you back if you change.
4. Depression - It finally hits you. There's no going back. It.has.ended. It's going to kill you, but there's no other way than to cope with it.
It's not going to be easy, but you'll get there.
Even if it means binge-eating, and staying up with your best friend to watch your favourite TV shows.
Even if it tears you up and leaves you feeling empty inside:
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5. Acceptance - It wasn't meant to be and you finally learn how life was when you were single.
And you smile through it all, because you've made it this far.
And no matter what, you're going to be alright.
Because you don't need someone else to complete you.
Enjoy the single life while you can! One break up does not define you, nor should it tear you down.