People claimed that I killed my baby for fashion: Amna Malik details trauma following 3 miscarriages
Actor and former morning show host, Amna Malik, shared her traumatic and deeply personal journey of enduring multiple miscarriages. She opened up on the emotional toll, societal pressures, and victim blaming surrounding such experiences, and revealed how even the well-educated people in our society still discriminate between a baby boy and a baby girl.
Amna, happily married and a mother of two beautiful daughters made a guest appearance on Nadir Ali's podcast and revealed that her journey of becoming a mother was not without its challenges. The Khaas actor lost three consecutive pregnancies in succession and heard many taunts and insults for “losing” her child three times.
"When my eldest daughter was four years old, I was expecting my second baby," Amna shared. "I was seven months pregnant when I had a miscarriage. It was a baby boy. I won't say that I didn't have any stress; I was going through a lot of things, and there were some problems with my in-laws and otherwise also. I was taking a lot of pressure,” she explained, adding that she would have mourned the loss the same even if it was a baby girl.
She further added that she didn’t even know that her baby had passed away within her womb. "One day, I was doing the daily house chores, and I didn't know that the baby had died inside my womb. When I went for an ultrasound, the baby was dead," she revealed. “The doctor said that she wouldn’t operate and I’d have to go through natural birth. It is very hard to deliver a dead baby, and I’m sure mothers who went through this understand. Those five days were the hardest days. It was an extremely painful delivery.”
Amna further explained the emotional turmoil she faced during those painful days. “People would blame me that I lost my baby boy on purpose. Some even said, and very well-educated people, that I killed my baby for my fashion,” she said, adding that her second and third pregnancies resulted in miscarriages as well and she went through the same painful ordeal, while dealing with blame and insults from her in-laws.
"After three miscarriages, I was blessed with a beautiful daughter, and I was super happy to finally conceive. Even then, people were still praying for the miraculous delivery of a son, but I was excited about the birth of my daughter," Amna shared with a sense of triumph. “I was shocked to see that even after so much pain, people do not see that I don’t control the baby’s gender or what happens inside my womb. People still discriminate between boys and girls.”
Amna's candid sharing of her personal experience sheds light on the often unspoken struggles faced by women who have endured miscarriages. Her story serves as a reminder of the strength and resilience required to navigate such difficult journeys. By speaking out, she has taken a significant step towards breaking societal taboos and encouraging open conversations surrounding miscarriages and pregnancy loss.