Does unfriending your spouse on Facebook help your marriage?
At least 20 per cent of internet users believe the internet impacts their marriage negatively
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According to a New York based therapist, everyone should unfriend their spouse on the popular social media platform, Facebook.
After unfriending his wife on Facebook, Ian Kerner said his married life improved remarkably and he encouraged his clients to do the same.
"I realised for a little while with my own wife that I didn't really want her to be my friend on Facebook," Kerner said.
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"I didn't want all of that extra information. If anything I wanted less information — I wanted more mystery and more unpredictability. I didn't want to know that she was posting about being tired or having her third coffee for the day. So I specifically unfriended her during my brief tenure on Facebook. It's something that I do recommend to couples," he added.
According to a 2014 Pew Research Center study, 25 per cent of polled adults in long-term relationships saw their partner "distracted by their mobile phone while they were together," with 8 per cent arguing over time spent online. Those percentages spike to 42 per cent and 18 per cent, respectively, for respondents ages 18 to 29.
Licensed therapist and couples councelor, Kerner said that "unknowingness" can be an advantage in relationships.
"Put the devices down," he advises, adding that "Studies have shown that even if there's a device nearby, it can change the texture of a conversation."
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"When you add up all of the periods of distraction that devices give us, you might have a lot of time that you could put towards your relationship," Kerner said.
"We live in a culture where sex ruts are epidemic and people go to bed too tired to make love — they have no time for each other. And yet they're spending hours a day on social media, on blogs and on Netflix."
Kerner suggests that if unfriending your spouse seems a bit harsh then couples should spend less on internet-based entertainment together for some time.
This article originally appeared on Today
After unfriending his wife on Facebook, Ian Kerner said his married life improved remarkably and he encouraged his clients to do the same.
"I realised for a little while with my own wife that I didn't really want her to be my friend on Facebook," Kerner said.
Read: Facebook testing M, a personal assistant to Messenger app
"I didn't want all of that extra information. If anything I wanted less information — I wanted more mystery and more unpredictability. I didn't want to know that she was posting about being tired or having her third coffee for the day. So I specifically unfriended her during my brief tenure on Facebook. It's something that I do recommend to couples," he added.
According to a 2014 Pew Research Center study, 25 per cent of polled adults in long-term relationships saw their partner "distracted by their mobile phone while they were together," with 8 per cent arguing over time spent online. Those percentages spike to 42 per cent and 18 per cent, respectively, for respondents ages 18 to 29.
Licensed therapist and couples councelor, Kerner said that "unknowingness" can be an advantage in relationships.
"Put the devices down," he advises, adding that "Studies have shown that even if there's a device nearby, it can change the texture of a conversation."
Read: 4 problems faced by couples with a wide age gap
"When you add up all of the periods of distraction that devices give us, you might have a lot of time that you could put towards your relationship," Kerner said.
"We live in a culture where sex ruts are epidemic and people go to bed too tired to make love — they have no time for each other. And yet they're spending hours a day on social media, on blogs and on Netflix."
Kerner suggests that if unfriending your spouse seems a bit harsh then couples should spend less on internet-based entertainment together for some time.
This article originally appeared on Today