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Indian woman commits suicide over husband's 'abnormal sexuality'

Failed marriage, breach of trust and husband's secret sexual orientation cited as reasons for suicide

Web Desk April 20, 2015

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A 31-year-old doctor in India allegedly committed suicide, accusing her husband of torturing her after she discovered he was gay.

"She had mentioned her husband's sexual orientation in her note. She had written that since she found out about her husband's bisexuality, he would torture and harass her for dowry,” police said.

Dr Priya Vedi, a senior anesthetist at the All India Institute of Medical Sciences (AIIMS), wrote a note on her Facebook account and also left a suicide note, claiming that her husband was gay would torture her.

She was found dead with her wrist slit in a hotel room in Delhi , police said.

A failed marriage, breach of trust and her husband's concealment of his sexual orientation have been cited as reasons for her suicide, according to India Today.

"Officials broke open the door and found her lying in a pool of blood on the bed," a police official privy to the investigation said.

"She had slit her writs with a sharp-edged weapon and was lying in unconscious condition. She was rushed to a nearby hospital where doctors declared her dead," the official added.

Her husband, Kamal Vedi, 34, a dermatologist at the same hospital, was arrested on Sunday on the basis of the suicide note.

Police said Kamal had filed a missing complaint Saturday evening when he was unable to locate his wife.

According to police, the couple tied the knot five years ago and were serving at the AIIMS staff quarters in south Delhi.

Police received information regarding Priya's death during a search operation of several hotels in Paharganj.

"We are investigating the case from all angles and based on the suicide note, we have arrested Kamal from his residence at AIIMS quarters in the afternoon. He has been booked under relevant sections of the Indian Penal Code," police said.

Vedi’s last message on Facebook read: "Dr Kamal Vedi, I never wanted anything from you but due to your abnormal sexuality, you thought that I need sex from you. But it's wrong. I just wanted to be with you, accepting you and your sexual orientation because I loved you very much but you never knew importance of this. You are a criminal of my life. Dr Kamal's family is innocent but you are a devil."

COMMENTS (18)

Silent | 9 years ago | Reply It is very painful to see such insensitive remarks as are made here about this extremely painful situation which forced the lady to commit suicide. A woman's life with a gay husband is not as simple as many commentators seem to think. Closeted gay men have a very frustrated and complex personality, they are selfish narcissist people who have learnt to only love themselves after their lifelong frustration and struggle with their sexuality. Very often they are suffering from psychological disorders and syndromes which are the results of their closeted existence. Lack or absence of sex is not the only reason which can make the wife unhappy, I fact most women in our society are capable of giving up this right if rest of the things are bearable. But along with this a gay husband bring other problems like betrayal, lies, rejection, anger and frustration in marriage which become extremelyainful for the wife. She is forced to live her husbands lie and is treated like crap by the husband who is having a good time with his gay friends. Discovery of such secrets is devastating. It can rob a persons of their self worth, and women suffer from psychological trauma and Post Traumatic Disorder Syndrome, which if not treated or helped, can lead to suicide. So please instead of condemning the poor woman see what was the extent of her suffering and pain and what measures should be taken by us as a society to protect our children from such pain and suffering.

Guy | 9 years ago | Reply This, like all suicides, is an unfortunate event. This poor young lady ended her temporary pain with a permanent solution. With so much value placed upon being "educated" here in the subcontinent, this exemplifies that even the most educated succumb to matters of the heart. As a westerner this concept of a dowery is foreign and antiquated to me, but I know it is still in full effect here. I thought it was paid, by the family, at the marriage. A man can turn it down... it seems odd that he would have any legal right to stake a claim on it so far into the marriage.

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Rabiya | 9 years ago | Reply suicide seems quite unnecessary despite the circumstances. I'm wondering if there's a chance for psychopathology? Can't judge anything until the entire investigation is done and both sides of the story are viewed.

KamalKhanAfridi | 9 years ago | Reply @Neo: This is very common problem in KPK and Federal, but no one commits suicide...We should be sharer of love,,not to be possesive...

arsalan | 9 years ago | Reply this is not a suicide its a murder... my seventh sence is active...

Aschraful Makhlooq PK | 9 years ago | Reply Before marriage every man has to be tested medically so that it could be verified that is man sexually healthy or not so that woman's life could not disorder and sometimes sexual disability is due to psychological problems,tensions and depression.Therefore medical test of man before marriage has to be obligatory so that woman could feel her life satisfactory and safe after marriage and could not commit suicide and as far as this is concerned "he would torture and harass her for dowry,” police said." then dowry has been declared illicit and prohibited in Islam 1400 years ago and when we shall do all that what Islam forbids then we shall only face the difficulties in our life and our life shall become miserable.....

Jawad | 9 years ago | Reply @Raghu2: It seems like small jealous children sitting on web and commenting such news, everybody knows such incidents are prevalent everywhere in the world including so called advanced nations like USA etc. I am Pakistani but it rather boosts image of India in my eyes and the exemplary loyalty of South Asian women for their husbands which is rare to find anywhere in the world. However, it was not a wise decision to loose her precious life for such a pervert.

Neo | 9 years ago | Reply This is a common problem in India...but very few commits suicide this way.

Raghu2 | 9 years ago | Reply @Adrak. Because Pakistan likes such silly,no use ,time wasting all negative news from India so that Pakistan knows all ills of India and feel elated.

Adrak | 9 years ago | Reply ET, what is the importance / relevance of this news to us in Pakistan? Why waste our time with such 'masala' news which paints are neighbor in a negative way? Makes us look petty and cheap!!

observer | 9 years ago | Reply Stupid woman. Why kill herself for her husband being gay and harassing her? All she had to do was file for a divorce. Things don't add up here. It looks like this woman might be suffering from some deep psychological problems.

Baby Bhutto | 9 years ago | Reply Fool lady if he is a gay than she should get divorce and get marry with other one.Ending her own life will not end LBGT Community now he can marry any rahul gandi.She was beauty full but I love her husband

Schumaila | 9 years ago | Reply I never knew dowery is that much an issue in India

Shameel | 9 years ago | Reply @Bissmah Mehmud: The answer to this is simple. Accept such gay men and women in society so that they aren't feared of coming out and forced to marry the opposite sex unwillingly.

shehwar | 9 years ago | Reply She could have become lesbian, If she did need sex from him. Both lesbian and Gay can live together. That's a lame one. She could have spent time with him. Why did she opt for suicide? sighs............. Vedi’s last message on Facebook read: “Dr Kamal Vedi, I never wanted anything from you but due to your abnormal sexuality, you thought that I need sex from you. But it’s wrong. I just wanted to be with you, accepting you and your sexual orientation because I loved you very much but you never knew importance of this. You are a criminal of my life. Dr Kamal’s family is innocent but you are a devil.”

Hmm | 9 years ago | Reply Loss of a doctor...

breera | 9 years ago | Reply feeling sorry for girl,Young talent went vain. What if this doctor would have learnt some ethics, what if he would have learnt humanity besides MBBS. I always say that degree is mere piece of paper for many dafts living on this planet. Where comes the flaw? Either the education system is failed in ethical training or parents dont bring up children in perfect atmosphere. Keeping his sexual orientation aside, atleast he could hv given her emotional comfort, If he would have treated her with love and care life of a doctor could be saved

Bissmah Mehmud | 9 years ago | Reply Why do such men get married? If you know your sexual orientation then why drag a woman into your life and ruin hers?

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