Farhan Saeed challenges stereotypes around male trauma, vulnerability

Actor and singer speaks on his role in upcoming film, says 'people think men aren’t tortured? That’s very insensitive'

In a recent interview, actor and singer Farhan Saeed drew widespread attention for his comments on the stereotypical expectations surrounding men expressing emotions and dealing with trauma.

While discussing his role in the drama Bas Tera Saath Ho, Saeed reflected on portraying a young man who experiences physical abuse and emotional torture. “Playing the role is not a brave choice for me. It is unfortunate that people think that," he said.

He further addressed the common perception surrounding abuse and emotional suffering among men; “People think men aren’t tortured? That’s very insensitive. I have been hearing this: men get abused, women get abused. It’s the same. That is the most stupid thing I have ever heard.”

Saeed went on to explain how men process emotions differently and are often discouraged from expressing vulnerability. “How the man will deal with it is a totally different thing. Men can’t cry but does anyone say women can’t cry?” he questioned.

 

 

 

 

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The actor also revealed how deeply audiences connected with his performance.

“I’m getting goosebumps just thinking about the first two episodes and people saying to me that this is their story. Do you think a man will come and say this is [his] story and it used to happen to him in his childhood?” he added.

Discussing his on-screen image, the host pointed out that Saeed often takes on roles of an ordinary or relatable man, unconcerned about appearing bruised, messy, or less glamorous on screen.

“I get glammed up for the stage to perform every week. I don’t have any insecurities so I like doing it,” he stated, comparing his acting to his performances as a musician.

He also opened up about emotionally demanding scenes and how certain performances affected him personally.

“In some scenes, I needed water. I used to have anxiety and vibrations all day. On Mere Humsafar, that was just me playing,” he said, while clarifying that his role in Bas Tera Saath Ho required a very different emotional approach.