Not looking for a husband: Anoushey Ashraf gives advice, talks toxic in-laws, being single, and more

Anoushey Ashraf recently held a Q&A session on her Instagram Story, with her fans sending in queries and her offering answers, insight, or advice. For instance, when one fan sent in a query asking Anoushey to marry them and keep them as her "house husband," the star replied, "I'm not rich enough to be your sugar mama. You have to get out there and work. Also, not looking for a husband at the moment. Send resume, will pass the word." 

To more sombre questions, such as one posed about the "wrong side winning" leading to "faith and beliefs" being rattled, Anoushey replied, "I hear you. It's a difficult time to have faith and believe in the good. But here is the catch, this is exactly the time you need to have the most amount of faith. Our only power is how we choose to respond to the chaos around us at the moment. We've got to keep hanging onto the good and know it will get better."

She added, "Perhaps the end is near or maybe it's not but know that the universe is in sync. We're out of it. But the world is unfolding exactly the way it has to. Have faith in this process. Accept our incapacity in the world around us and our capabilities in the universe within us. As Imam Ali says, the universe is within you, if only you reflect. Keep calm, carry on and things around you will get better God willing."

When a single individual spoke about people constantly telling them that God would make their fate better, despite being in a "good place" career-wise, Anoushey said, "When someone says that just look at them dead in the face and suddenly laugh hard, like properly hard, and then go serious again and say 'Ameen.' Walk away slowly. Don't look back."

One fan, plagued by the guilt of leaving their parents behind after moving to the United Kingdom was told, "Oh no. This is a tough call and I'm sorry you've had to make this hard decision. InshAllah, it will be for the best. For you to do better unto them and for you to do better for yourself and your family. Thank God for FaceTime. However, ensure you meet up at least a couple of times a year. Prioritise. Meet them halfway. As difficult as it is to be away from our parents, sometimes we have to make the best of the situation we have. Thank Allah for his blessings and swallow this hard pill and keep trudging. Bless your parents!"

When asked about managing loneliness, the star stated, "There is a difference between being alone and feeling lonely. Everyone wants someone to connect/bond with. It's only natural for you to want that. Don't be hard on yourself for craving companionship. Either, keep an open mind and meet people to see if you come across someone you truly like or else invest in solid relationships with a chosen few people who become long-term family. Harvest a small but tight group of good energies and souls. We all need to connect, don't deprive yourself of this blessing."

Anoushey also spoke of schools becoming "mean businesses," when asked about fee increments. Moreover, when posed with a question about a "narcissistic, toxic, dominating, judgmental, greedy, suffocating and always interfering" mother-in-law, Anoushey asked, "How's your husband? Hopefully, he is understanding? And then you can work towards creating a few boundaries in regards to your relationship with your MIL?" 

She further said, "Tell her nicely that it's best you'll stay courteous and kind but you cannot and will not let anyone who doesn't bring good energy to your life be an integral part of it. I hope your husband is supportive of this decision because most men demand 'you put up with my parents' and you should. There shouldn't be any [disrespect] but there can be an honest conversation about how you can't be emotionally invested in a relationship that doesn't help you grow. So without any animosity, move into a neutral zone. Tune her out, mentally. Hope it can happen for you!"

When a recently divorced fan spoke about "lack of companionship," Anoushey replied, "According to your message the only lack of companionship you're experiencing according to me is your own. Give yourself a break post-relationship? Invest in time yourself? Loving yourself? Instead of looking for the same from another person so soon? We all have deep-rooted insecurities and sometimes we look for love for all the wrong reasons. Please don't get me wrong but your reasoning at this point in time seems lacklustre."

She added, "Work on yourself, reevaluate where you are a few months down the road. There is so much fun in being single too, trust me. Be comfortable with yourself. Love will eventually find you when you stop selling yourself short."

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