People are impatient and do not communicate: Ayesha Omar, Kiran Malik on why divorce rates are high

Actors Ayesha Omar and Kiran Malik recently made an appearance on Tabish Hashmi’s talk show Hasna Mana Hai and shared their opinions on the increased rate of divorces and short-lived marriages nowadays – especially in the media industry. The Money Back Guarantee actors shared that a lack of patience, an abundance of awareness, and a communication gap are reasons for most failed marriages.

The women also shared what kind of men they would want in their lives. The host asked whether they “believe in the institution of marriage,” given how quickly some marriages have ended recently, referring to the year that passed that saw a bunch of celebrity couples calling it quits. “Of course, I believe in the institution of marriage. It’s a beautiful relationship,” exclaimed Omar. Malik, however, chimed in and blamed the lack of patience and tolerance in people now for the downfall.

“Everyone can have their own stories, but I think that people lack patience now and have huge egos. They think they’re perfect and they are right. So, taali toh dono haathon se bajti haina. (It takes two to make a quarrel)” she said. Malik further added that we can’t get angry about the smallest of things and have to make an effort. “Relationships are one of those bonds where – whether it's between kids, siblings, partners, parents, or anyone – you need to give them space and respect,” she said.

To which, the host asked Omar whether one should blame the lack of patience or an abundance of awareness. “Someone’s hitting me and you’re saying that I should sit with patience now?” Hashmi asked. “There’s more awareness now but I would also slightly agree with Kiran that there is less patience now. However, I also believe that there’s more awareness about the (problematic) things that we had normalised earlier saying ‘yeh toh chalta hai.’ Like abuse – ‘ek thappar hee toh mara hai’ is not okay now,” opined Omar.

Malik, who felt like her patience argument was misunderstood, clarified that she was not suggesting that women should endure abuse patiently but merely meant that couples should not give up very quickly because love and relationships require effort and communication.

“To all the women sitting here, I’ve been married myself too, so please, do not ever give permission to anyone to speak to you in an aggressive or inappropriate manner. Give them the respect that they deserve only. If they’re still doing something that is against your ethics, then that is not right. There’s no space for patience then.,” Malik emphasised.

“Patience, I meant, you can’t just say that things aren’t working out. Sometimes you have to sit and talk to each other,” she added, and Omar agreed. “That’s a beautiful thing. You’re right. Communication is key and we often fail to do that.”

On the work front, Omar and Malik are starring in Money Back Guarantee alongside Fawad Khan, Mikaal Zulfiqar, Gohar Rasheed and Hina Dilpazir. The Faisal Quraishi directorial also features the debut of Wasim Akram and Shaniera Akram. Omar can also be seen in the 1971 partition love story Huey Tum Ajnabee.

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