7 Signs your relationship is not meant to be
Ladies, if any of these sound familiar, it is time to walk out.
Bollywood actors Kareena Kapoor (L) and Shahid Kapur present creations by Indian designer Manish Malhotra at a fashion show on the final-day of the India fashion week in New Delhi September 3, 2006. REUTERS/Vijay Mathur (INDIA)
Relationships are precious but if your bond isn't bringing you utter peace and euphoric joy, then what's the point? Compiled from the Huffington Post, here are eight red flags that pretty much confirm that you are stuck with the wrong guy. If any of these pointers sound familiar - THIS should be your cue to walk out of the relationship before it's too late!
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1) There is a lack of trust
If you find yourself worrying about the whereabouts of your guy, and torturing yourself convincing that he is not cheating on you then it is too late to rebuild trust. Trust is something that develops at the head start of any relationship, and if you don't have that, then he is so not worth it.
2) It is emotionally draining
Occasional whining and sobbing is normal and acceptable, but if you find yourself constantly upset because of your partner and crying incessantly for reasons you don't even comprehend - and you feel inadequate, then he is definitely not the right guy for you. That is a major red flag, ladies. Walk out already!
3) You are not happy with his career
If you are hoping for a completely different career path for him, better financial circumstances and more leisure hours then there is no point to take the relationship forward - because things like this don't really change so don't fool yourself. The career ladder progresses, yes, but your relationship should not be contingent on your partner making life-changing career choices for you like a painter turning into an entrepreneur - that ain't happening!
4) Wishing he made more effort
If you are always hoping for thoughtful surprises and minor gestures that express to you how important you are for him - and find yourself being disappointed each time, then this guy is definitely not the one. Does he ask about your day daily? Is he interested in what you ate at work? Does he stop you from cracking your knuckles for your own sake? These little things may seem negligible but trust us, they're not! If he doesn't care about you, he'll never probe about these things - so bid farewell before you get hurt.
5) If you don't get enough compliments
When we say this we don't mean constantly fishing for compliments but feeling secure and being convinced by your partner that he's smitten. If he doesn't compliment you and make it a point to express to you that you're the most beautiful girl that ever existed - especially in the beginning of the relationship, it is harder to grow into it later. If he's not swooning over you now, there's no way he'll make you feel drop dead gorgeous later. So - move on and invest your time in somebody who is your biggest fan. Because why not?
6) If you don't accept him with his flaws
All of us have are set of flaws but we want to be accepted the way we are. Aspiring to grow as individuals and a couple is one thing, but wanting your partner to be an entirely different person from what he is and hoping he will ultimately exhibit qualities you know he lacks is never healthy in a relationship. If you find yourself wishing you could change him, he is not the one for you.
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7) You feel you are not a priority for him
If you are important for you partner he will find a way to prove it to you. If you feel he prioritises his life and his needs before yours, then it is probably smart to quit hoping for a future in that relationship. Disclaimer: Even if he argues that you are his priority it doesn't cut it - because it is YOU who is supposed to decide that - and more so, feel it! If you don't feel loved, you're probably not.
So ladies, be wise when choosing a partner and watch out for these signs before it gets messy!
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Why Bipasha Basu wants you to marry your best friend
1) There is a lack of trust
If you find yourself worrying about the whereabouts of your guy, and torturing yourself convincing that he is not cheating on you then it is too late to rebuild trust. Trust is something that develops at the head start of any relationship, and if you don't have that, then he is so not worth it.
2) It is emotionally draining
Occasional whining and sobbing is normal and acceptable, but if you find yourself constantly upset because of your partner and crying incessantly for reasons you don't even comprehend - and you feel inadequate, then he is definitely not the right guy for you. That is a major red flag, ladies. Walk out already!
3) You are not happy with his career
If you are hoping for a completely different career path for him, better financial circumstances and more leisure hours then there is no point to take the relationship forward - because things like this don't really change so don't fool yourself. The career ladder progresses, yes, but your relationship should not be contingent on your partner making life-changing career choices for you like a painter turning into an entrepreneur - that ain't happening!
4) Wishing he made more effort
If you are always hoping for thoughtful surprises and minor gestures that express to you how important you are for him - and find yourself being disappointed each time, then this guy is definitely not the one. Does he ask about your day daily? Is he interested in what you ate at work? Does he stop you from cracking your knuckles for your own sake? These little things may seem negligible but trust us, they're not! If he doesn't care about you, he'll never probe about these things - so bid farewell before you get hurt.
5) If you don't get enough compliments
When we say this we don't mean constantly fishing for compliments but feeling secure and being convinced by your partner that he's smitten. If he doesn't compliment you and make it a point to express to you that you're the most beautiful girl that ever existed - especially in the beginning of the relationship, it is harder to grow into it later. If he's not swooning over you now, there's no way he'll make you feel drop dead gorgeous later. So - move on and invest your time in somebody who is your biggest fan. Because why not?
6) If you don't accept him with his flaws
All of us have are set of flaws but we want to be accepted the way we are. Aspiring to grow as individuals and a couple is one thing, but wanting your partner to be an entirely different person from what he is and hoping he will ultimately exhibit qualities you know he lacks is never healthy in a relationship. If you find yourself wishing you could change him, he is not the one for you.
Ask Asad: Will my jealous lover always be like this?
7) You feel you are not a priority for him
If you are important for you partner he will find a way to prove it to you. If you feel he prioritises his life and his needs before yours, then it is probably smart to quit hoping for a future in that relationship. Disclaimer: Even if he argues that you are his priority it doesn't cut it - because it is YOU who is supposed to decide that - and more so, feel it! If you don't feel loved, you're probably not.
So ladies, be wise when choosing a partner and watch out for these signs before it gets messy!
Have something to add in the story? Share it in the comments below.