Pakistani father of 35 aims for 100

By AFP
Published: June 3, 2016
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In this photograph taken on March 23, 2016, Pakistani father Sardar Haji Jan Mohammad Khilji poses with some of his children at his residence in Quetta. PHOTO: AFP

In this photograph taken on March 23, 2016, Pakistani father Sardar Haji Jan Mohammad Khilji poses with some of his children at his residence in Quetta. PHOTO: AFP

QUETTA: A Pakistani father of 35 is now searching for a fourth wife as he romps towards his goal of 100 children, a dubious ambition in the conservative Muslim country where polygamy is rare but still practiced.

Sardar Jan Mohammad Khilji, 46, says he believes it is his religious duty to have as many children as possible.

Insisting it is “very rare” that he mixes up his children’s names, the medical technician said he juggles their affections by taking turns to attend family events with them and their mothers, such as weddings.

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His three current wives support his procreational and matrimonial goals, he said, adding that they all live in harmony together — though he would not allow AFP to speak with them.

Rights activists warn it is women and children who suffer most in polygamous marriages.

PHOTO: AFP

Pakistani men are permitted to take up to four wives under Islam, though to do so they must seek permission from their first wife and an arbitration council.

It remains rare for men to take multiple wives in the country, but when polygamy does take place, studies have shown it can result in “depression and despair” among wives, while children often struggle to know their father, said Rafia Zakaria, a women’s rights activist.

The Quran, she told AFP, dictates that multiple wives may be taken only when a husband can do “perfect justice” among them.

“Well, perfect justice is impossible, and for this reason polygamy is never a good situation,” said Zakaria, who campaigns against the practice.

“Someone always suffers and almost always it is the women and children,” she added.

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Family lawyer Mohammed Bilal Kasi, who deals with polygamy cases in Quetta agreed.

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“We lawyers are well aware of social problems surrounding polygamy,” he said. “Women and children undergo mental agony due to these affairs.”

The tension can lead to serious legal disputes over property and rights after the father’s death, he said.

Denied his permission to speak, Jan’s wives could not describe what life is like for his sprawling dynasty, who all live together in a five-bedroom mud hut in the outskirts of Quetta in restive Balochistan province.

At least two of his children appear to support his goals, however, including his eldest child Shagufta Nasreen.

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“A large family is like Allah bestowing a case of mangoes,” the 15-year-old explained, adding that she hopes to go into medicine like her father.

Jan’s eldest son, 13-year-old Mohammed Esa, also wanted to emulate the patriarch — but he has set his sights even higher, resolving that he will have more than 100 children.

Jan, who claims he is a qualified medical technician, runs an unregulated clinic where he treats people for minor ailments such as headaches, adding that as he is “serving humanity” he charges just 250 rupees ($2.30) per patient while providing his services to the poor for free.

He also runs a seminary funded by donations where nearly 400 students — including four of his sons — are studying the Quran, and says he pays for 20 of his 35 children to attend private school.

The household expenditures of his growing empire, however, can reach up to 120,000 rupees per month — more than ten times Pakistan’s average — in a neighbourhood that lacks basic amenities such as tap water and sewage, he said.

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He insisted he has never faced any financial problems trying to care for his brood, but did not explain how he could cover all the expenses with just pay for his medical work.

Jan conceded that his needs may increase as his children grow and so is calling on the government to allocate funds for the food, education, and healthcare of his family — a request that is unlikely to be fulfilled.

But Jan has faith. If the government does not listen, he said, he trusts in God to provide.

Pakistan has the highest birth rate in South Asia — around three children per woman according to World Bank and government figures — though an accurate census has not been conducted in more than 30 years.

Jan put his fertility down to daily doses of fresh and dry fruits, milk and meat; as well as reciting the Holy Quran and praying five times a day.

While his eldest child is 15, his youngest is just a few weeks old. At the beginning of March he was still a father of merely 33, but that month two more daughters were born within six days of one another, he says.

His marriages were all arranged by his parents. “I married the first one…when I was 26 years old, and the next year wedded the other two within a gap of five months,” he told AFP.

His next wedding, however, could be arranged via Facebook: since his story aired in Pakistani media, he says, he has had a slew of marriage offers via the social network.

A large poster on the wall at Jan’s house carries the symbol he used when he ran for provincial office in 2013: a double bed, which, he told AFP, “denotes special pleasure and meaning in my life”.

That time at least, his ambition fell short: he garnered 980 votes, not nearly enough to win.

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Reader Comments (35)

  • Last Man Alive
    Jun 3, 2016 - 10:22AM

    AnimalRecommend

  • Anon
    Jun 3, 2016 - 10:41AM

    “Requesting the government to allocate funds”….really!? Does the government has nothing better to do than to allocate funds for his 100 children. He needs to be neutered.Recommend

  • Haji Atiya
    Jun 3, 2016 - 11:22AM

    @Last Man Alive:
    Animal x 4 = 100Recommend

  • Sid
    Jun 3, 2016 - 11:37AM

    The only progress Pakistani Muslim men are showing.Recommend

  • Raw is War
    Jun 3, 2016 - 11:54AM

    he can declare his home as an independant nation.Recommend

  • Rollin & Trollin
    Jun 3, 2016 - 12:05PM

    @Anon:
    Who knows, maybe 5 or 6 Einsteins will emerge from his budding village…? Conversely, we may get 20 OBLs….. ? Recommend

  • Sunny
    Jun 3, 2016 - 12:40PM

    Children look well fed, how is he able to provide for them ?Recommend

  • imran
    Jun 3, 2016 - 12:45PM

    This quack should not be allowed to see pts and then tell him to look out for the 4th wife . Such a disgusting fellow. Recommend

  • Ali S
    Jun 3, 2016 - 1:00PM

    So he runs a clinic as a quack along with a seminary of 400 students (I’m assuming the latter is his main source of income), makes enough to cover expenses of 120,000 a month from it while his children run around wearing caps with insignia of Pakistani cricket team and the FBI (which I found hilarious). This is what what the average Pakistani man aspires to.

    While the rest of the world moves forward, we’re going backwards in turbo reverse gear – and the worst part is that we boastfully like to attribute Islam to it.Recommend

  • Wassup
    Jun 3, 2016 - 2:15PM

    He seems to be raising a brand new battalion. On a more serious note, in a water stressed and resource crunched country like Pakistan how wise is it to procreate like this. Whether he’s looking after them or not is another matter. Pakistan already has the highest growth rate in South Asia. It is high time they started paying attention to family planningRecommend

  • Fahad Zia
    Jun 3, 2016 - 2:18PM

    I don’t understand these guys. Its their decision to have these many kids, why the heck do they want the government to fulfill their needs? why burden the government? Don’t have em if you can’t afford em.Recommend

  • farooq
    Jun 3, 2016 - 2:21PM

    he is dangerous for the country and should be on supervised release and not allowed to conjugate any more, also needs mental health check upRecommend

  • seriously
    Jun 3, 2016 - 3:40PM

    Crazy man – He should be stopped & his son too who has dreams of having more than 100 children Recommend

  • Acorn Guts
    Jun 3, 2016 - 4:50PM

    Only a man who runs a ‘charity seminary’ can afford to run his house on 120,000/month. Recommend

  • Sajid Qureshi
    Jun 3, 2016 - 8:45PM

    Should be given an Oscar award!Recommend

  • Shahid
    Jun 4, 2016 - 12:16AM

    Sterilize this guy before he does more damage. They keep producing, and keep asking others to support them. If his outlandish ideas are not scary enough, look at what his eldest children are thinking: more than 100 children. Banish this family to some remote outpost in Antarctica where the presence of homo sapiens is badly needed. Recommend

  • NBM
    Jun 4, 2016 - 12:17AM

    Pity the girl that gets the job!Recommend

  • Mudassir
    Jun 4, 2016 - 12:25AM

    He must be castrated immediately.Recommend

  • Iqbal
    Jun 4, 2016 - 12:25AM

    If a man has 4 wives he is depriving 3 other men of a wife – given that females and males are born in roughly equal proportions.
    Can someone explain what happens to the men who are without wives?. Remember women are not allowed to have 4 husbands and therefore this anomaly does not balance.Recommend

  • Najeebullah
    Jun 4, 2016 - 1:22AM

    This is the biggest problem of the future and yet a lot of people in the society must be glorifying him. Recommend

  • Trump
    Jun 4, 2016 - 1:35AM

    Stupid guy, who will provide education, security, etc. He is destroying the planet earth, he should be jailed for the rest of his life.Recommend

  • man like ouzzy
    Jun 4, 2016 - 2:12AM

    @sid atleast he dosent rape ppl like they do in india.Recommend

  • syed & syed
    Jun 4, 2016 - 2:16AM

    This quack Mulla running a seminary on donations can afford this luxury.. Will his wives vouch that he is doing JUSTICE with themRecommend

  • turbo
    Jun 4, 2016 - 2:53AM

    man seriously needs a vasectomy!Recommend

  • Haji Atiya
    Jun 4, 2016 - 8:55AM

    @Iqbal:
    Not necessarily; its up to the other men to prove their mettle, thru education, fitness, grooming, etc. May the best man win !Recommend

  • F Khan
    Jun 4, 2016 - 9:51AM

    Shame on the gentleman.We need to explain and re-define the definition of manhood to this man. Recommend

  • Adnan Siddiqui
    Jun 4, 2016 - 10:06AM

    I think in this case they should make an exception and let this man have 8 wives. He is the most productive man in Pakistan !!Recommend

  • Iqbal
    Jun 4, 2016 - 3:06PM

    @Haji Atiya:
    You have not explained the problem. Remember there are equal number of men and women on this planet. If men are allowed to have 4 wives but women are not allowed to have 4 husbands then there will be men left without wives. This only leads to adultery or men become gays. This is the reason why in the West it is illegal to have more than one wife.Recommend

  • Jk
    Jun 4, 2016 - 4:13PM

    Islam doesn’t require perfect justice, it requires one to be reasonable and fair.

    It seems it’s ok to have affairs and burden society with bringing up kids but its harmful for the father to do so responsibly in marriage.

    And maybe the author should consider the problems with single marriages and ban them too? Or maybe simply reaolve problems as they arise.Recommend

  • Haji Atiya
    Jun 7, 2016 - 6:58PM

    @Iqbal:
    You haven’t factored in the custom that quite a few Muslim men marry girls, at would one would consider a tender age. So while men have a wide distribution of ages to select a bride, women do not have that same distribution of selecting grooms. This therefore provides a greater opportunity for all men to be hooked up.Recommend

  • Shoaib Rafique
    Jun 9, 2016 - 6:20PM

    > AUTHOR

    It is not a MUST (as you have written) to seek permission from the first wife. It is better but not mandatory. Recommend

  • zobii
    Jun 16, 2016 - 1:34PM

    @imran: dont be jealous dude.Recommend

  • zobii
    Jun 16, 2016 - 1:36PM

    Don’t be jealousRecommend

  • freed
    Jul 1, 2016 - 7:55AM

    Feel sorry for children to have such a slefish father. Recommend

  • Aug 15, 2016 - 10:43PM

    If he is a Chinese, the government would have hanged him long back.Recommend

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