Borderline Personality Disorder: ‘‘Every time I get angry or sad, I cut myself with a blade’’

Patients with BPD become mentally numb and use pain to come back to reality. They are constantly in crisis mode.

Hassan Majeed (MD) December 21, 2013
‘‘Every time I get angry or sad I cut myself with a blade. The pain and sight of blood helps me to calm down.’’

A 20-year-old patent told me this in a psychiatric emergency room while showing me her forearm which had multiple superficial cuts.
“Every time I feel numb from stress or emotional pain, I cut or burn myself. It’s not with the intent to die but it gives me certain pleasure.”

She kept explaining it to me without any emotion on her face.
“Life is like walking on egg shells for me, I mess up at every level. I have severe mood instability, problems in relationships, and I act impulsively and later pay the price for my actions.”

She was unable to regulate her mood and had frequent mood swings in a matter of hours. An event as mundane as receiving a text message could lift her mood to the sky and a neutral comment as simple as “you are not dressed appropriately for the weather” could throw her into depths of humiliation and sadness.

Short, intense and highly emotional relationships were common in her life. She had a clingy attitude, controlling and manipulative behaviour, and very high expectations from her partners. She lived in constant fear of abandonment and emptiness even though outwardly she had a charming social life. She kept talking about a recent breakup with her boyfriend. Without waiting for my response, she would burst into tears of emotional pain.

As she was articulating her symptoms, I was formulating different diagnoses in my mind. Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) was at the top of my list. BPD is manifested by a pattern of instability of interpersonal relationship, poor self-image and mood swings. It is also shown in a marked impulsivity beginning in early adulthood and from then on present in a variety of social and psychological contexts.

Patients with BPD permanently live in a crisis mode.

During their intense emotional pain, people with BPD become numb mentally. To bring themselves back to reality they choose painful measures. Cutting is the most common dysfunctional behaviour. Suicidal gestures are common, with the intention of manipulating others or just because of an inability to regulate their mood. Sometimes this can lead to an accidental death.

Family members, friends and even treating clinicians find it hard to have an empathic and meaningful relationship with these patients. Although BPD has strong genetic links, environmental factors such as early childhood trauma can contribute to the development of the disorder.

BPD is found in about 2.6 percent of the population, females predominating, in the US but it is one of the leading causes of psychiatry emergency room visits. There is no available survey of BPD in Pakistan but it is probably as prevalent there as well. Unfortunately, it is mostly undiagnosed and untreated because of the lack of awareness as well as conservative cultural attitudes in Pakistan. Because of shame and guilt, most cases of self harm, suicide, and erratic and irrational behaviours are not brought to medical attention. But sweeping BPD symptoms under the rug is not helpful for the patient; the lack of treatment can exacerbate symptoms, leading to death or permanent damage to the body from suicidal and self harm behaviour.

The diagnosis for BPD is based on a study of clinical histories and examinations of mental status. There is no laboratory test or scan to help to make the diagnosis. After establishing the diagnosis the next step is management.

An empathic and therapeutic relationship with the patient is the key element in treatment.

Dialectical Behavioural Therapy (DBT) is a special form of psychotherapy geared towards treating patients with BPD. Its primary goal is the safety of the patient, helping them avoid suicidal and para-suicidal behaviour. Once patients are psychologically stable, they are taught different interventions to deal with life stresses and to regulate their mood. With long term treatment most of the patients are able to live a meaningful life. They develop a better sense of self and control of their emotions and behaviours.  Medications are needed at times to treat mood, anxiety and other psychiatric concerns but most of the time patients can be managed without medication.

There is a great need at the present time to train professional people to diagnose and treat BPD in Pakistan so that a group, of significant size, in its population can be saved from emotional pain. It should be remembered that psychological pain, in many instances, is worse than any known physiological pain.

Disclaimer: The information provided in this article is for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for advice from your physician. You should not use the information for diagnosis or treatment of any health problem.
Hassan Majeed (MD) The author is working as a child and adolescent psychiatry fellow at Long Island Jewish Medical Center, NY. He is a marathon runner and his interests include art, culture, travel, gender, human rights, mental health, and education. He tweets @HassanMajeedMD (
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AA | 6 years ago | Reply | Recommend I was diagnosed with BPD a couple of years back. Cutting myself was actually the very least of it...and it was rare but sometimes in my fits of anger that was the only way I found relief and was able to take out my frustration. The worst of it though was the constant feelings of emptiness, of being alone and the constant fear and anxiety. I did some reading on BPD at the time to understand it better and felt that that's the most common feeling in people with BPD. Like Survivor below, I too had to hit rock bottom before I learned to pick myself up again and to become more self reliant. I'm not sure if I still have BPD, I guess it just gets better with age. But during the time I was really struggling, it would have been nice to have some help, and I'm sure there's many people out there who do need that kind of support. I tried a few different psychiatrists/ psychologists but didn't find them to be very empathetic or helpful...I really wish mental health was a concept people in our country people felt comfortable discussing and that it was easier for people who need help to find it.
Kate | 6 years ago | Reply | Recommend I inherited it from my mother who was misdiagnosed a couple of times. I got diagnosed 6 months back by my psychiatry professor during my psychiatry rotation. After years of misunderstood relationships, burning hands, I finally managed to face the situation and now try my best to change the thinking process. BPD can only be treated if you want to treat it.
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