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A tale of two wives: Out with the old, in with the new

Published: July 26, 2011

Muhammad Akram openly flogged his first wife Kalsoom in front of a crowd of over 50 people following his wedding to Masooma.

MULTAN: 

A man beat up his wife and shaved her head for not welcoming his second wife ‘properly’.

According to eyewitnesses in Mumtazabad, Muhammad Akram openly flogged his first wife Kalsoom in front of a crowd of over 50 people following his wedding to Masooma. “He was still dressed up and his new bride was standing behind him. told police officials.

“Everyone just stayed silent and looked on. Then he shaved her head and eyebrows and painted her face black.

He kicked her out of the house with her three children,” said a servant at the house Humayun Basit Khan.

According to Akram’s relatives and neighbours, he often beat his wife and the couple had quarrelled several times over his contracting a second marriage. “Kalsoom eventually caved in and gave her permission.

She even agreed to stay with him with his second wife but he wanted her to be happy about it. He humiliated her for not smiling and celebrating the union!” said Kalsoom’s younger brother Dawar Khan.

“My sister came to us begging for help. She had been publicly humiliated and he turned out his three children with her.

We have approached the police to register a case,” Khan said, adding “Everyone there just stood by and watched him hit her.”

Kalsoom said that she had eventually acceded to the union.

“I was scared that if I refused him permission he would kill me and my children. He had threatened to do so several times so I said I wouldn’t oppose the second marriage,” she told Mumtazabad Police.

“I was in my room with my children when he brought his new wife to the house and then he dragged me by my hair because he wanted me to stand and receive the couple with smiles and flowers,” she told police.

Mumtazabad Police Station House Officer (SHO) Kareemullah Bukhsh said that he had registered a case against the accused and his family on Kalsoom’s complaint.

“He has left his home with his new wife and we are searching for the couple. I have questioned several workers and servants in the area and they all confirm Kalsoom’s story,” he added.

Kalsoom said that she had initially approached a police chowki but the police officials had refused to register her case.

“They turned me out but when I threatened to approach the media with my story they said they would register the case and pursue it,” she said.

Kalsoom has appealed to the chief minister and Supreme Court chief justice for help.

“If these men are not punished I will set fire to myself and my children outside the Parliament House in Islamabad,” she said. “My husband cannot get away with this.

I was humiliated and beaten because I was not happy about his second marriage. How can someone expect me to celebrate such an occasion?” she said.

The name of the victim has been changed to protect her identity

Published in The Express Tribune, July 26th, 2011.

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Reader Comments (23)

  • sadiq saleem
    Jul 26, 2011 - 11:03AM

    Polygamy is a sick and vile practice.it should be banned immediately.
    Why is it that a man is allowed to have multiple wives at one time,but a woman is not allowed to have multiple husbands at one time? this is outright dicrimination and bigotry against women.

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  • Jul 26, 2011 - 11:40AM

    What a sick and vile man! I’m glad she finally stood up…unfortunately, i have no faith in the police, it will be a miracle if they get him!

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  • Javeria Mahmood
    Jul 26, 2011 - 11:42AM

    This is really inhumen. He should be beaten up and should be humiliated in same way he did with his first wife. And how come his second wife trust this guy who have already left his first wife and his three children for another woman. Such pevert

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  • blah
    Jul 26, 2011 - 11:43AM

    @Mr.Sadiq: fear the fundos as they will soon lable you as a non muslim :p

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  • Iftekhar
    Jul 26, 2011 - 11:45AM

    Polygamy is not sick, the person referred to in the article is sick and our people need to be educated. The reason polygamy is halal is mentioned in various places on the internet and books and the logic behind polyandry being haram is also stated so I wont argue on that.

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  • Jul 26, 2011 - 12:13PM

    Somebody slap this man tight on the face for he deserves nothing less.

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  • observer
    Jul 26, 2011 - 12:31PM

    a wife is supposed to obey her husband.. if the husband wanted her to greet his new wife, she should have done so..

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  • Karka
    Jul 26, 2011 - 12:34PM

    He must be dealt with Iron hand law!

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  • IR4M
    Jul 26, 2011 - 12:56PM

    Someone must provide a respectable work to this lady so she can earn some mony for her children and grow again her self respect (which she lost unfortunately) in front of “brave” people…PEOPLE whom just see see and see …rather someone is going to die, rather somone is going to burn, rather a women getting rapped or humilated…”brave” people of Pakistan…how much entertainment they get while looking someone in trubble. Morally we are dead. Economic assistant is absulutely neccesory for these type of cases. When this type of men want to get rid of his resposibilities he start to humilate and hitting children and wife without solid resones. He must go to prison and polygamy must be stop by law. Women must be more strong rather to provide occasion of being victom in front of people they must try to getting release from situation for the sake of her and childern (because to see mother hitting is very bad effect on childern brain). Recommend

  • Ashail
    Jul 26, 2011 - 2:20PM

    Polygamy IS sick!! It was considered “halal” at a time and place where a lot of men had been killed in war and women greatly outnumbered men. Pakistan has more men than women! There is no logical reason for this practice to persist!!

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  • doumat
    Jul 26, 2011 - 4:07PM

    @sadiq saleem:
    just one simple question, r u muslim??
    Fyi i ‘m not in a favor of that dumb old man and he should b penalized for this ill treatment..

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  • Sara K
    Jul 26, 2011 - 4:07PM

    This guy should be striked out and so does this observer guy….and I have read a lot about polygamy. It has no logic at all, yes it had some logic back in the day but not anymore, women are very much capable of supporting theirselves, they do not need a man’s “protection” to be saved from the world and beaten by him (I am talking abt men who go for polygamy). And as far as this argument goes, there are more men in the world then women……so Islam gives this polygamy as a solution to that, this is pure insanity. Its Islam and ALLAH (SWT) we are talking about, ALLAH can fix this, he has the power to. Recommend

  • Jul 26, 2011 - 4:18PM

    Ah here we go again. We denounce things as if we have a complete in depth understanding of every circumstance that could make compromise necessary. People should refrain from dragging religion at the drop of a hat as if they’re some kind of authority on the matter. We “Liberals” (also self-proclaimed “Rationals”) have learnt not to drag anyone else’s religion but it seems as if we all have a ticket to judge/ridicule Islam in a snap.
    As for the man, he’s a monster! I don’t care what religion he’s from.. he’s simply evil-natured.

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  • M
    Jul 26, 2011 - 8:12PM

    Express tribune readers are mainly secular liberals who need excuses to attack Islamic practices why don’t you move to USA/ Europe?? Probably not got a visa anyone calling polygamy sick needs to consider whether they are still muslimRecommend

  • Hassan
    Jul 27, 2011 - 12:47AM

    No doubt what this man did was more than mental…but those who jump to the conclusion that polgymony is the problem…seem to be suffering from the all too common “wannabe, self hating and apologetic Muslim syndrome” P.s. It doesn’t make you any more acceptable! Stick to the issue – which is the actions of this particular individual without trying to tarnish a religious ideology you are so keen to distance your confused self from….

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  • cnomaan
    Jul 27, 2011 - 1:39AM

    Can ET ever publish a story with Justice occuring to counter the non-justices? Just saying…Recommend

  • Ali R
    Jul 27, 2011 - 3:27AM

    This woman should actually set fire to herself in front of the parliament house to make a statement, this might actually start a revolt in Pakistan and lead us out of the stone age and into a new modern Pakistan lead by Imran Khan!

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  • najib moha
    Jul 27, 2011 - 6:43AM

    @doumat:
    yes, enlighted muslim.. what was good 1400 years ago is not good now, time changes and people should.

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  • najib moha
    Jul 27, 2011 - 6:45AM

    @Hassan:
    Liberals are not confused shelves as you say. THey just believe in an 21st century version of Islam not 14th century one.

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  • Mehar
    Jul 27, 2011 - 1:13PM

    What exactly is the 21st century version of islam? This man did exactly what the quraish used to do 1400 years ago so whats the difference between us?

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  • Hassan
    Jul 27, 2011 - 2:02PM

    @najib – there is only one Islam…there is no “new improved” version that is more acceptable to modern western ideology…take it or leave it…you cannot change Islam to suit your own tastes and appease your western masters…p.s. Try and maintain a difference between being a liberal and a sell out….and I never accused liberals (didn’t even use the word in my comment) of being confused shelves…planks maybe….but not shelves…..

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  • I write U read
    Jul 28, 2011 - 10:03AM

    @observer:
    Islam doesnt allow him to beat her except hardness can be shown if disobeying Allah and that too in a manner that there should be no mark.
    I abhor the fact that you and alikes are in our society!Recommend

  • I write U read
    Jul 28, 2011 - 10:15AM

    @Hassan:
    He got a second wife because religion allows polygamy. Polygamy has not always been favoured by prophet Muhammad. When he was married to bibi Khadija he dint remarry. After her death and after wars when there were women captured who were learned and prophet Muhammad wanted the Madinites to learn from them. Hence, to give them shelter men were requested to marry them.
    Also, in his life when Hazrat Ali wanted to remarry–he had shown his unhappiness over the issue and so Hazrat Ali refrained from a second marriage.

    So yes, polygamy was only allowed to solve a certain problem. All the women prophet Muhammad were old aged ladies. Except bibi Ayesha whom Hazrat abu Bakr wanted to give in prophet’s custody.

    Men like him not only disgust normal beings but also are a bad influence on our society.
    And, we are not secular apologetic muslims–instead we are tolerant muslims because quran says even if you dont like your wife Allah has hidden some good traits in her for your betterment.—catch up on Surah Nuh lest you call others non muslims.

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