Silence on spousal sexual assault jarring: Doctors

Published: March 9, 2011

Gynecologists say that many of their patients suffer ‘marital rape’ but no one acknowledges it is even an issue

LAHORE: 

Gynecologists at several city hospitals have expressed their concerns over the growing number of married female patients who are forced into intercourse.

“The number of marital rape cases keeps going up but no one even acknowledges that the problem exists. We see dozens of patients coming in but they never acknowledge they have been raped; only that they were doing their duty,” says Ganga Ram Hospital consultant gynecologist Dr Shamsa Humayun. Dr Humayun said that she recently treated a mother-of-four, who had lost her pulse, consciousness and lots of blood pressure following a result of her third abortion. “I had warned her not to get pregnant because she had severe diabetes. I told her that her life was at risk but she chose abortion over contraception. Now she is dead,” Dr Humayun said.

Alviah Noor*, who is working on her PhD research paper and recently got married, said that she had severe vaginal infection for the last six months and was heavily medicated to treat an infection caused by her intra-uterine system (IUS or coil). “The coil ruined my health but it was the only contraception I could use without my husband finding out,” she said, adding that doctors had prohibited her from intercourse but her husband refused to listen to her. “I have no choice in the matter. I have to do whatever he tells me,” she said.

Nilofer Raja* complained that her husband had several extra marital affairs and that she had contracted an STD after he forced himself on her. “He abuses me but I cannot refuse him. My family told me that it was my religious duty to do as he demanded and that if I refuse the angels will curse me all night,” she told doctors.

Shirkat Gah representative Fauzia Vikar said “the concept of marital rape does not exist in our society.  She is thought to have signed a contract for sex. Even in US, the first marital rape case was reported in 1978. Most reports from battered women reflect that they do not think their spouses are guilty of a crime.” “Most women I have spoken to on the issue simply think that marital rape is natural.  We need to educate and economically empower women so that they realise it is not their duty to tolerate abuse,” she said. According to Vikar, most women consider it shameful and a sin to oppose non-consensual sex. “There is almost no local literature available on the subject and not a single reported case to my knowledge,” she said.

Dr Ambreen Ahmad, a clinical psychologist who teaches at Lahore School of Economics said “We need to introduce couples counseling, especially before marriage because women need to know their rights. Many women consider it their ‘religious duty’ to undergo this when there is nothing in religion that condones such assault.”

According to Dr Rabia Ameen of General Hospital said “There is no sex education before marriage. This often leads to women contracting horrible diseases from unprotected sex. I feel terrible when I see young girls dying of reproductory problems because of irrational social expectations.”

Dr Ameen said “On average we deal with five cases of spousal rape every week and 90 percent of these cases occur within the first two weeks of marriage. Young brides aren’t aware that they have the right to put a stop to intercourse and we often see severe tearing and heavy bleeding in young women.” “I have lost count of the number of times I have simply stitched a vaginal tear and prohibited the couple from having intercourse for six weeks. The women almost always come back with the same problem because their spouses refuse to listen,” she said, adding “I now recommend that the woman stay at her parents’ house to be safe.” Dr Ameen said that women seldom know that it is even possible to be raped by their husband. “They think that it is their duty to go along with whatever their husband wants and all we can do is recommend a course of treatment,” she said, adding that doctors often knew that their patients would not be allowed to rest.

Dr Shamsa Humayun, a gynecologist said that patients don’t complain of sexual abuse from their spouses even when the evidence is overwhelming. “I have examined women with severe vaginal tearing, enough that they needed stitches, but they still never admitted they were assaulted,” she said.

According to a gynecologist Dr Asmah Mehmood “Very few women in Pakistan actually have a healthy sexual relationship with their spouses. Abuse is common and so is violence.”  She said “I have seen a woman who was the victim of the constant rape by her spouse simply because he was addicted to pornographic films. She was abused so often that we eventually stopped even asking her what had happened.”

Dr Yasmeen Rashid said that in her 30-year career as a gynecologist she had never seen an official report relating to marital rape even though after delivery cases the most common cases she treated were related to women being sexually assaulted by their spouses.

The names of the victims, marked with an *, have been changed to protect their identity

Published in The Express Tribune, March 9th, 2011.

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Reader Comments (54)

  • junejo
    Mar 9, 2011 - 2:34AM

    this is jarring. disturbing. makes me sick to my stomach. Recommend

  • Raj
    Mar 9, 2011 - 7:35AM

    Please do not say that USA is behind this in Pure Land..Recommend

  • muhammad ashraf
    Mar 9, 2011 - 10:41AM

    sadly in pakistan we have no concept of marital rape as we think that our wives are our personal property,to do with as her ‘majazi khuda’ pleases.In our society men can beat up,rape,degrade his wife as the wife quietly takes it.

    our men know that their wives will go nowhere so they continue abusing their wives.This situation will only change when wives start leaving their husbands & getting jobs of their own & supporting themselves instead of begging their fathers,brothers or husbands for “pocket money”.Recommend

  • abdul moiz
    Mar 9, 2011 - 10:46AM

    The term “marital rape” doesn’t exist in the vocabulary of muslims.I know friends,neighbours who rape their wives as they are provided justification for this rape by maulvis who preach that women are the personal property of their husbands who are allowed by islam even to commit violence against their wives.

    I then found on the net hundreds of videos of maulvis from all over the muslim world,in arabic,in farsi,in urdu telling their listeners that Islam has allowed the abuse of women!!

    We need to address the root cause,when religion provides justification for horrible crimes then what can one do???Recommend

  • naeem akhtar
    Mar 9, 2011 - 10:54AM

    Islam allows abuse of women.The quran allows husbands to beat up their wives.Why don’t people protest this???Recommend

  • asif bawany
    Mar 9, 2011 - 10:58AM

    Islam allows abuse of women.The quran allows husbands to beat up their wives.Why don’t people protest this???Recommend

  • Safeer
    Mar 9, 2011 - 11:22AM

    It is good to see the Express Tribune has published this article. We need to write more on this issue and make people discuss it … Recommend

  • babar chaudhry
    Mar 9, 2011 - 11:28AM

    Why do our women not leave their rapists,their torturers ?? when a husband beats his wife black & blue she like a dheet,shameless,pathetic animal continues to stick to him,why don’t our women leave their husbands?? is his tankhwa so damn attractive??

    ladies,look up the term “self respect” in the dictionary.This society would be a much better place if our women started fighting for their selfrespect.

    it’s not sacrifice that you continue to beaten up,that’s not some heroic deed you’re doing,it’s just your pathetic desperation & dependency on his income.

    So either summon the courage to leave or stop crying,if you don’t leave him you’re enabling him & don’t ask society to shed a tear for you.Recommend

  • Disruptor
    Mar 9, 2011 - 11:42AM

    As long as our people listen to the mullahs and not use their own humanity and reason to figure things out, things like marital rape will continue to happen. The question to ask today is if religion really is a help or hinderance in protecting the weaker segments of society.Recommend

  • Shahzad S. Janjua
    Mar 9, 2011 - 11:53AM

    Beautiful article, ISLAM, does mention all this, if only we READ AND UNDERSTAND IT.

    I am quoting below some hadees in this regard for all the people reading it:

    The context of these hadees is:

    Don’t jump on your women while contacting them on bed.
    If your wife is ill or having period don’t force them.

    Islam is very clear on this issue, our issue is we just don’t read about it.

    This is an eye opener for all men.

    The main issue in this, is not the men but our society in general, Islam said to marry the children at an early age, which reduces the frustration which comes naturally.

    These days, when a person gets 28 – 32 he is getting married, and following the Islamic principles partially, in the sense that he usually is not into illegal sex but on the contrary is watching blue prints or watching exotic dances on the television. The sex drive increases many fold. So when he gets married, then all things goes lose.

    I agree that both couples should be educated like atleast 1 – 2 years before marriage, to stop this non-sense. Recommend

  • Sid
    Mar 9, 2011 - 11:54AM

    I also dealt with few married survivors who decided to stay at parents home instead of getting material rape. those women complained that their lady doctor had advised them not to have asexual contact due to STD’s but their husband never listen.. another survivor shared that her husband used to see pornographic films and he apply those on her and she is never comfortable with all stuff. It exits and it should be realized by partner that woman is her Libbas ..no one likes the torn dress. so its important to protect her instead of abuse her.Recommend

  • adeel siddiqui
    Mar 9, 2011 - 12:03PM

    @asif bawany:
    yes,this is true,but there’s nothing anyone can do because the maulvis have terrorised the country into silence.no one has the guts to speak up.Recommend

  • Silent Observer
    Mar 9, 2011 - 12:21PM

    @Saleha Rauf… I congratulate you on writing a masterpiece on such a sensitive issue… Its well researched and quoted some experienced Doctors and the victims. Looking forward to see some nice writings on sensitive issues like this one instead of rubbish articles about fashion trends in elite class of this country and wasting readers’ time..

    The topic need to be debated extensively in open environment in Pakistan because its the most abhorable thing to happen.Recommend

  • amir
    Mar 9, 2011 - 12:28PM

    Why don’t you leave such husbands ??
    How our society treats a divorced women ?
    Many of our hindu-istic traditions allows us not to do a proposal in a house where an aunt is divorced or even separated from her husband. people avoid inviting divorced women to their weddings as a bad omen In middle classes, so no wonder why the ghairat mund bhai ask their sister to better die of rape or tearing then bring shame to their name ……Recommend

  • Javeria Kausar
    Mar 9, 2011 - 12:36PM

    The above article is an eye opener to men and women rather for parents too… my stance is on the fact that parents ask the guy to get settled by the age of 28-30 and then they permit him to get married, on the other hand men as well as parents look for younger girls for marriage. They put the condition that the girl should be atleast 6-7 years youger to the guy otherwise she will look older to him after marriage and the society and people around us will not like it. The girl being a 20 year old and a mature 28-30 year old guy then has overwhelming sexual desires which result into marital rape. The girls being immature can not sustain the so called ‘Man Power’ hence they end up getting diseases and an early end to their precious lives.Recommend

  • abdul rafay
    Mar 9, 2011 - 1:48PM

    @Shahzad S. Janjua:

    it is the in denial mentality of misogynistic bigots like you that provide the justifications to men for raping their wives.

    you’ve quoted some hadees:

    “If your wife is ill or having period don’t force them”

    What do you mean if she is ill only then don’t force them??? if she’s not ill then rape away?????

    It should be don’t force them at all fullstop,there should be no ifs,ands or buts in the issue of rape.

    Stop defending a wrong thing.What’s wrong is wrong,stop trying to defend it just because a religion allows abuse of women.Recommend

  • Wasif
    Mar 9, 2011 - 1:56PM

    A eye opening article and a fruit for thought for everyone specially in our society. Although some of the comments are controversial about Islamic view however, it is not only men, it the society’s thought that should be changed as a whole in which we all exist and continue to exist under the same circumstances if we don’t raise our voices and inform our elder that sex education is needed not at an early age but definitely at an age where you need it whether you are getting married or not. Recommend

  • Truth Prevails
    Mar 9, 2011 - 1:59PM

    @Javeria Kausar: I guess you have no clue regarding the sexuality of a 30 Years Man vs 20 Years old woman. You are highly under-estimating the ‘Woman Power’.Recommend

  • Aryabhat
    Mar 9, 2011 - 3:03PM

    I was told in Islam there is a “Special place” for women. Did not know how and what special place.

    Now I know. Recommend

  • observer
    Mar 9, 2011 - 3:22PM

    Revolting and distressing. Ms Rauf has done immense service to the cause of gender justice by highlighting this issue on International Women’s Day. I appeal all women and all men who have any respect for their mothers,daughters,sisters if not wives to fight this heinous crime against women. Please help spread awareness and extend full support to all women.Recommend

  • Mar 9, 2011 - 3:32PM

    @Truth Prevails and Javeria Kausar:
    I agree with Truth. It is not as simple as you put it, citing age difference as the prime factor. There is no doubt that women mature faster than man and there is roughly 4 to 5 years difference in maturity by the time they are in their late teens or early 20s. The sexual drive depends upon individuals and their mindset as well, it isn’t about the age and pent-up-sexual-frustration that may lead to marital rape because if that was the case, then my friend who got married to a guy 10 years older than her would be going something similar or worse, but that isn’t the case and luckily she is happily married.
    It is the mindset that needs to be countered that paints women as property legalized for sexual abuse. Recommend

  • Farzana
    Mar 9, 2011 - 4:42PM

    It would have been nice if the writer had contacted some renowed scholar like Ghamidi and get his/her thoughts on the issueRecommend

  • Hashmat ali
    Mar 9, 2011 - 4:58PM

    islam does not allow forced intercourse neither it allows violence except in some very rare cases and those cases are also not due to this specific issue but of the woman deviating from the true path of Islam.
    Holy Prophet(PBUH) in his last sermon made it clear that You have rights over ur women and they have rights over u and u should respect each other. this makes it clear that any activity after marriage whatsoever, woman has the right of consent and agreement on that else it will be considered a sin.
    may ALLAH save me from the maulvis Recommend

  • Yggr
    Mar 9, 2011 - 5:40PM

    Yep guys blame it on religion I thinks we have found the perfect scapegoat for all OUR wrong doings and then there are people who support or enforce this. This is because we as a society choose to use some parts of the religion to our purpose and simply ignore the others which are more important than like for example “using” your wife.

    @All: Yea does islam allow watching pornos? Hmmmmm I guess not so what islam?

    With people like Aryabhat pointing out now she knows what is the status of women in islam why don’t you go out and research for your self rather then listening to ordinary people like me who are as i like to put it “Neem maulvi(any guy involving religon) khtra e jaan”. Read up on books of good scholars and then base your judgement on their writings.Recommend

  • salim
    Mar 9, 2011 - 6:30PM

    It all happens in the ‘Land of the Pure’! Recommend

  • Mar 9, 2011 - 6:45PM

    Excessive complains about martial rape is the problem embedded in our society. A man in Islam has the ‘RIGHT’ to marry 4 women. The right is precisely for this reason and many others but this being primary. The problem is if you go down this path then there will be another blog complaining about such men , it never stops.

    Our society should support polygyny, put sense in getting laid :) . If i were to be with such a wife i would be a happy man. My wife has certain rights over me and i definitely have rights of my own. The correct ‘right’ i will knock would be of polygyny , come what may.

    Rather than feeling disgusted after reading this , as i agree it might be a fact. Men here should promote polygyny , it’s our Islamic right ! Recommend

  • Mansoor Liaqat
    Mar 9, 2011 - 6:51PM

    @naeem akhtar:

    Islam or Quran doesn’t allow beating of a woman. It only says that in case of a woman commiting adultery or doing something which is not recommended by Islam then husband can in the first instance tell her that he is not happy with her particular action; if nothing changes, as a second option he may refuse to sleep with her; if still she persists then Islam allows a husband to remind his wife by touching her (it clearly says ‘touching’ should not leave a mark on her body) with a folded handkerchief or a tooth stick (as supported by Prophetic Hadith). Furthermore, this is the extent and not a recommended action.

    Similarly, a wife can also advise her husband to adopt the correct path if she thinks that he is doing somthing which is not right.

    God Almighty is the creater of both man and woman, and He knows who will do what. God Almighty knows that if a man gets angry then he is more likely to express his anger by hitting someone as oppose to a woman (generally). Therefore, God Almighty has fixed those threholds (only if we understand and observe them). Again, these are thresholds and not a recommended action.

    However, if a case like this goes to a court of law, then it would be the duty of that Islamic court to determine that what the husband or wife was expecting from his or her spouse and was it allowed or not?Recommend

  • naeem khan
    Mar 9, 2011 - 9:57PM

    Great work by the writer.It should be translated in Urdu and published in newspapers to open eyes of those criminals who abuse their wives.Recommend

  • rahib raza
    Mar 10, 2011 - 12:21AM

    bold subject and a truth, when u have a full stomach the second thing u think of is sex n that is what goes in every man’s mind, this problem persists not only in the lower tabka but also in sexually frustrated rich class. Recommend

  • Mar 10, 2011 - 1:04AM

    Kudos to author for writing on a rarely discussed/pointed out the bitter fact of society we are living in.Recommend

  • mussarat hussain
    Mar 10, 2011 - 4:29AM

    Of course Islam protects rights of women even animals but due to illiteracy, now special places
    are limited for only “special women”.

    MussaratRecommend

  • Junaid A Khan
    Mar 10, 2011 - 9:07AM

    @Hashmat ali:
    while allowing men to harsh teatment towards woman deviating from the true path of Islam.
    Does Islam tell anything what if it is man deviating from the “true path of Islam”?Recommend

  • Ali
    Mar 10, 2011 - 9:09AM

    A very nice article and surely it has highlighted a very sensitive issue. Normally such issues are considered to be taboo and writer has shown a lot of courage of taking up such matters. However, views from some renowned religious clerics over the issue would have certainly make the arguments balanced since it all looks pretty much one sided. Also, i would request the muslim brothers and sisters who have commented above to be please watchful of ur words while talking against Quran. This is possible that we might not be aware of a lot of things mentioned in the Quran but it doesn’t mean that we start questioning Quran till we have full authority over the Quranic knowledge. With our limited knowledge over jurisprudence and Quran, we should be careful Or else we would join the newly elated “liberal extremist” who just out of sheer oblivion utter such words. Recommend

  • IamConcerned
    Mar 10, 2011 - 9:38AM

    @asif bawany & naeem (seems someone using random name) :sick people blaming religion here! They need to pick up Quran first and learn it!!! you are as pathetic as one who thinks Islam allows such abuse against Islam! psychos! Recommend

  • Sahira
    Mar 10, 2011 - 10:52AM

    Do not bring Islam into this. Real Muslim men do not do this. These abusive men are Jahil and insensitive, Islam is very respectful towards women. You are not allowed to have sex when she is menstruating or during post-natal bleeding. Its our men’s horrible sexual fantasies that come true once they get a wife. Insensitive ass*oles. Get a second wife instead and treat both respectfully. Islam doesn’t say rape your wife( wives) This is just jahalat. If you don’t have anything knowledgeable to post… don’t post. Go do some research. Women are abused because both men and women are illiterate. Stop listening to the mullahs about Islam. Go learn something about it on your own.Recommend

  • Disruptor
    Mar 10, 2011 - 12:20PM

    @Sahira: And what if the women is not menstruating nor post-natal bleeding, but doesn’t want to engage in intercourse because she is sick, has a headache, depressed, or whatever reason. Can the man then force himself on her? What does Islam say about this?Recommend

  • Hassan
    Mar 10, 2011 - 3:30PM

    @ Sahira & Disruptor

    I believe without consent every intercouse is rape.

    Writer has brought to surface an alarming issue. And it really dwarfs our social immage. How much extent sex has peentrate in our body, mind and conscience. Disgusting!Recommend

  • KR
    Mar 10, 2011 - 10:47PM

    I would like to thank the editor and newspaper for publishing this article and to bring out this serious issue. It is absolutely sickening to imagine that in this day and age we lack basic common sense and it really doesn’t have anything to do with religion but just total ignorance and stupidity. I believe good marriage should be based upon mutual respect, excellent communication, and of course good healthy sexual relationship but can’t have that by forcing yourself on some one. Rape is rape regardless if you are married to someone or not and there is certainly no such thing as a marital rape.

    Also I believe that basic sexual education should be part of the education system, our population has been growing at a very alarming rate and there is no way that we as a country can feed this many people let along building infrastructure or even creating jobs. Birth control should be free of charge, men and women should be educated. We should have adopted the one child policy just like China long time ago. You don’t need whole bunch of kids in order to be happy, one is enough. If you think country is in bad shape now just wait another 10 years, no country can be successful when the population growth is above 2% unless they have enough resources to feed all these people which we certainley don’t. :-(Recommend

  • humanity prevails
    Mar 10, 2011 - 11:59PM

    thank you for saying the right thing. Recommend

  • Sarah H
    Mar 11, 2011 - 3:07AM

    @babar chaudhry: Spoken like a man. Did it ever occur to you that most women don’t leave their spouses because they have nowhere else to go? The overwhelming majority of women are financially dependent on their spouses. If they leave their spouses, the sole alternative for them would be to return to their parents’ home. The article mentions that a few of the victims’ families told them that it was their religious duty to get raped by their husbands. Do you seriously think families who believe that their daughters are fleeing their spouses and shirking their religious duties will agree to house and support them? So if they can’t stay with their spouses, and their families won’t keep them, where will they go? Please stop blaming the victim. It’s not their fault they’re stuck with their abusers – if you want someone to blame, blame the misogynistic society they live in.Recommend

  • Sahira
    Mar 11, 2011 - 4:05AM

    @Disruptor: My point was proven by your post. Why would you ask me something that is plain common sense. No it is not correct to be forceful in this matter and men should stop treating their wives as objects. Islam says live with your wives in an honorable manner because they have chosen to leave their parents and family to live with you. Respect for women is however not taught. An average Pakistani man grows up with this superiority complex. He grows up to see his father and other men in his family being disrespectful towards women…and his mother reinforces that idea that women are below him. Like they are cattle. How many men who have posted here do not think that way? This matter is as serious as honor killing and murder of daughters when they are born (or before they are born in the form of abortions). Ask yourself…how respectful are you towards the women in your family? And ladies who are still single, see how a man treats the women in his family and you’d get some idea of how he’ll be once you marry him. And in the end…. learn to say no. Get awareness and learn to say no. Don’t die a slow death.Recommend

  • Ali
    Mar 11, 2011 - 4:45AM

    @Raj: You need to learn more about politics and facts. Yes no country should be blamed for nothing. The pure land is not pure when she treats her own poeple like this.Recommend

  • truemuslim
    Mar 11, 2011 - 12:14PM

    Sahira says: “Stop listening to the mullahs about Islam. Go learn something about it on your own.”

    But I thought we called them ‘mullah’ BECAUSE they had studied the Quran, the Sahih Hadith, and Sira. How could they be wrong when they say that angels will curse the woman who says no to her husband for sex whether she likes it or not.Recommend

  • ox
    Mar 13, 2011 - 1:58AM

    There are also punishment for the males as well why dont we see those.. why we hve quran only for womens….. u r wife has equal rights.. she is a human…..Recommend

  • M
    Mar 13, 2011 - 11:36AM
  • Daniel
    Mar 13, 2011 - 8:24PM

    We must disseminate this information across our social circles. Let the change begin from us-the readers. I must add that the state should take possible measures to introduce such education and rights for the women otherwise we are not better than the beast of the jungle.

    ….

    Thank you writing such indeed article….. Recommend

  • m@ni
    Mar 16, 2011 - 12:38PM

    Well those who are blaming islam for it are the same way ignorant to those husband who are doing this kind of stuff. Actually Islam has clearly indicated that sex when you are ill or having periods are strictly prohibited…. My only question is does any other religion explicitly tell you this? Answer is no, its only islam which guides you on each step of life.

    Please read Islam before blaming it, yes i agree without a single reason if the wife disagree for husband wishes, its sinful, and the vice versa exist also. There are many cases when wife/husband without any reason do it and does not respect each other wishes!Recommend

  • Mansoor Liaqat
    Mar 16, 2011 - 3:44PM

    @m@ni:

    This is so true. People who don’t have any knowledge about Islam, but what they see muslims doing they think perhaps this is Islam. In fact Pakistani culture and practices in most cases are far away from any Islamic teaching and guidance. Islam (Alhumdollilah) has answers for every thing; however, we do need to understand it first and then apply it in our lives. We all say alot but don’t do much!Recommend

  • NJ
    Apr 6, 2011 - 11:08AM

    I ended up tears in my eyes! :”( ALLAH! Please guide us all to the righteous path and forgive us all!Recommend

  • Elder Pakistani.
    Apr 6, 2011 - 11:11AM

    As I have said many a times its not a problem of what Islam guides instead these dheelay dhalay Musalman are to be blamed who inspite of knowing everything about dunya are illiterate about Deen and on top of that they following conspirators make fun of Scholars. Therefore not much can be expected from named Muslim humans of Pak.Recommend

  • mussarat hussain
    Apr 7, 2011 - 5:00AM

    @M:

    My Dear Mr. M can you please quote reference from the Holy Quran in this end or any other Holy Book from any religion including Bible, Geeta, Granth, Old or the New Testament.

    According to my knowledge and extensive study at world’s different libraries I didn’t go through any of the master pieces that validates “Marital Rapes”.

    Majority of the prophets including the Final Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) had multiple wives but not at a single time, almost every prophet and messager were married. According to Darrell L Bock only Jesus remained bachelor till he was crucified.

    Despite being a Liberal Muslim, I fully agree with Fareed Zakaria article in the Time this week
    who says Islam has turned into a violent and intolerant religion, none knows where it will head on. He is very correct in his analysis.

    What is happening in Islamic countries every terrorist is muslim who either hails from Arabian Peninsula or the Middle Eastern country or most shockingly from the world biggest Islamic and sole nuclear-powered state Islamic Republic of Pakistan but make sure every muslim is not a Terrorist.

    Respectable Mr. M, being an analyst, journalist, blog-writers and an opinion maker, it should be our prime duty” not to add fuel to the fire ” and to avoid passing irrelevant and un-authenticated and extremely poor references that create confuse and confusion among already intolerant muslim society that is unarguably looking for Messiah to come to bail out from existing cumbersome situation.

    I will highly appreciate if you add to my poor knowledge by referring some authenticated sources from any of the Holy Books or the Ahadith.

    Mussarat Hussain
    Washington DCRecommend

  • Bilal Hassan
    Apr 7, 2011 - 2:08PM

    I don’t agree with you and Fareed Zakria’s view “Islam has turned into a violent and intolerant religion.” Its Islams follower (a minotrity in number) that have got shape of violators and intelerant people. Don’t blame Islam. Recommend

  • Nobody
    Apr 24, 2011 - 2:31AM

    @babar chaudhry:
    You say that as if it’s so easy. It’s not so simple and living in Pakistan you should know that. A wife leaves her abuser, ok now what? Where does she go if she has no education or income of her own? Become a beggar in the street, or a prostitute, or be at someone else’s mercy? Until the overall situation for women changes allowing them access to education and encouraging economic independence, it’s not as easy as you put it for a wife to leave her husband. When society provides SOME sort of protection or safe haven for a woman on her own, only then will women be willing to leave. The way you put it is callous, cold, and obnoxious. Would you be so cold if a woman in YOUR family was beaten, raped, and degraded, but still wouldn’t leave her abuser? Stop blaming the victim and get some sensitivity training. Recommend

  • Nobody
    Apr 24, 2011 - 2:42AM

    @Muhammad+Ziad:
    If you’re actually being serious with that statement, sans sarcasm then I strongly beg to differ. What a ridiculous idea. Seems more than half of the men in Pakistan can’t treat ONE wife with any kind of respect, and you’re promoting allowing them additional women to abuse??? Wooow, truly excellent idea! And the conditions that go with polygamy are not conditions that ANY average man can follow, hell they can barely follow treating ONE wife with kindness, and you expect equal treatment of four wives???? Ah but yes, equal it will be, they’ll ALL be treated like garbage, beaten, raped, and degraded, so in that case it’s permitted. Recommend

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