Mamata Banerjee is thought of as not even having an interest in a personal life because of the intensity with which she works at politics. It was said of Lata Mangeshkar that she had very little to share with her family after she returned from the studio every evening. The reason was that she was so spent of emotion, having expended all of it in singing, that she had nothing left to give when she was done. Whether or not this is a fact about the singer, we can speculate that it might be true for the leader.
Naveen Patnaik is interesting because he does have a personal life (and by many accounts, a most elegant one). However, it is shared only with a small circle, many of whom constitute the international elite, and some say, even that has waned in recent years as he has concentrated on his work. What a transformation it would have been for him — going overnight from someone who had interests in the finer arts to someone who had to look at district files and the caste of candidates. It would make for a fascinating biography or memoir and I hope that one day, it is written.
Jayalalitha has often been written about, but rarely understood. She mixes great charm with a ruthless manner. She is also a great eccentric and her single status is not surprising. The stories of her strange behaviour are many and they can come from something as simple as her manner of communication (a visiting George Fernandes was once denied her presence when he went to her bungalow and was apparently lectured over the intercom). Her control over her party is total and this is one reason she has no need to announce whom she is going to support in the election. With a minimum of a couple of dozen seats, she will be one of the six people who will crown the prime minister. But so mercurial is her nature that nobody can even predict whether it will be the Congress or the Bharatiya Janata Party (BJP) for her. She says she has no problem with Modi but that doesn't mean she has ruled the Congress out. Both she and her rival, Karunanidhi, have been quite mercenary in the way they have supported governments in Delhi and that will not change after this election. It would not be incorrect to say that all these five people have been opportunists, and even Mamata, Mayawati and Patnaik have used the BJP and discarded it as they have seen fit.
Modi is the most famous single man in India. He was married in his youth but apparently against his will. His wife lives her own life and though he is insistent about her not revealing anything of this period in his life, discouraging people from meeting her, he has not made much effort to offer clarity himself. Little is known about Modi's personal life today but as a Rashtriya Swayamsevak Sangh (RSS) pracharak, he would have been a brahmachari (celibate) for most of his decades in that body. The RSS is admittedly not particularly insistent on this (much like the Catholic Church) and when one of its favourite sons, Sanjay Joshi was named in a sex scandal, he was not abandoned.
The person on this list who is no longer chief minister but inevitably will again be one day, is Mayawati. She has also, like Jayalalitha, been studied often and understood rarely. She is seen as crude and perhaps, she is. But that doesn't explain how she has managed to be chief minister so often and build from a small regional party, one of the most formidable political forces in north India. All five of these leaders will be prominent in the campaign of the next few months and in none of their cases will their being single come up. This is, of course, a good thing and something Indians can congratulate themselves over. Their personal lives are their own matter and other nations could learn from us in this regard.
Atal Bihari Vajpayee, the prime minister who never married, was asked about his being single once. His answer apparently was: "Main kunwara hoon, brahmachari nahin."
Published in The Express Tribune, October 6th, 2013.
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@Whisper Whisperbhai, who reads Aakarbhai in India anyway? I have never read the poor fellow in India!! It is kind of Pakistani Press that he at least has Pakistani readership. And he goes out of his way to please his Pakistani readers by writing misleading information about India like Kuldip Nayar does! (If he doesn't, even Pakistanis will stop reading him!) So let him write & enjoy!
@Varun: Great repartee ............. made my day.
@Hafiz: I don't think anybody said Indian politicians DO NOT have 10-15 children. This may be a similarity, rather than a contrast.
I would anyday prefer such people who rise on their own and do not leave make polity a family business, over the dynasts.
aakar patel i am going to file defamation case against you because you called modi married. according indian law of hindu marriage code a marriage of minor is not a marriage at all. so your spewing hatred against modi will be met with same audacity. get ready to fight the case.
@MAHAKAALCHAKRA: Plain & simple fact is Modi abandoned his wife Yashodaben Modi, now a school teacher in Rajosana village Banaskantha, Gujarat, and left her to her fate.. He did not even divorce her properly. She was an 18 years old adult (not a child) at the time of marriage. Instead of denying, his supporters can always make virtue out of his insensitivity with a spin: their hero is in exalted company of Buddha, who earlier as Prince Siddharth Gautama had deserted Yashodhara & similarly Narendra Modi had abandoned Yashoda. For a higher cause! The wife's loneliness is unavoidable!
and she With sad eyes watched the swiftly- flying cranes, Sighing, “O creatures of the wandering wing, If ye shall light where my dear Lord is hid, Say that Yashodhara lives nigh to death For one word of his mouth, one touch of him!”
(From "Light of Asia";1879; Edwin Arnold)
Being "single " by choice or force or circumstances ...is surely not looked down at by we Indians. Personal lives of politicians is rarely discussed in public space, unless we intend to carry out character assisination of public figures. Could Godhra been avoided, if Modi had biological children or happy personal life? This question will never be answered , as people have little access to his personal details. WW II could have been avoided , if Hitler had normal family life? No one can answer with confidence. Normal family life surely makes any individual to behave in sane, civilised manner. Any abnormal personal life must be affecting actions, thoughts of most of public figures..politicians can never be exception.
Just as well that Indians do not scrutinize the private lives of their leaders. It is a distasteful practice and one of the most unsavory aspects of politics in the United States.
I understand that the Indians share that quality with the French.
In contrast all pakistanis politicians have at least 10-15 childrens.
Look at the bright side. Single means no dynastic rule.
Interesting...........but I'm not very sure of the point of the article...........was it to say that you thought that possibly these people were not altogether ' normal ' but yet that was a good thing. If so, I wouldn't altogether disagree with you.
Author Aakar Ahmed Patel writes, "Modi is the most famous single man in India. He was married in his youth but apparently against his will. His wife lives her own life and though he is insistent about her not revealing anything of this period in his life, discouraging people from meeting her, he has not made much effort to offer clarity himself..."
Modi is NOT famous for the reason he is a SINGLE man. He is famous for being the CM of Gujarat.
If rumours are true, Modi's parents got him married against his wishes when he was still a CHILD (MINOR). India constitution (Hindu code bill) does not recognize marriage of a minor and the marriage was never consumated. How can you then claim that Modi's WIFE lives her own life. How can you write such a lie with a straight face if you respect the Indian constitution? Do you approve child marriage? This incident happened when he was perhaps 17-year and now he is 62 so this episode is almost 45 year old. Why to raise a non-issue which has nothing to do with todays ground reality?
I hope you will issue a clarification on this issue. Otherwise I like your article.
Aakar bhai Put Tamil Nadu and its 39+1 (pondi) seats under Modi's column. Jayalalitha and Cong hate each other. If not all 40, probably at least 30+
Cho Ramaswamy, the Chanakya of Chennai is the link between Modi and Jayalalitha. She is keeping the cards close to her to demand the maximum at the last minute.
http://articles.timesofindia.indiatimes.com/2013-06-11/india/398982291pm-candidate-l-k-advani-advani-and-modi
Chandrabhabu Naidu is giving signals he will also join Modi. If he does the odds of Modi leading BJP alliance to capture power are even higher.
You should be delighted, every single day you can be very very busy blaming Modi for everything, busy writing in Pakistani newspapers.
Alla re aallla modi basher aalaaaaa.
Be it Mr Modi or Rahul Gandhi, India is almost destined to have a single Prime Minister.