Hilary Duff’s husband, Matthew Koma, calls Ashley Tisdale ‘self obsessed tone deaf’ amid mom group drama

Matthew Koma posted a satirical Instagram response to Ashley Tisdale’s essay about leaving a ‘toxic’ mom group

Musician Matthew Koma, husband of actress Hilary Duff, weighed in publicly on a brewing social media controversy involving Ashley Tisdale and a personal essay she published about leaving a toxic mom group. The situation started earlier this month when Tisdale wrote a candid piece titled Breaking Up With My Toxic Mom Group for The Cut. In it, she described her emotional journey after joining a group of moms following the birth of her first daughter, later feeling repeatedly left out of gatherings and connections that had once felt supportive.

Tisdale’s essay, which did not name specific individuals, framed the decision to step away as one of self‑respect and boundary‑setting in adult friendships. She wrote that if a group of friends consistently makes someone feel hurt, drained, or excluded, then choosing to walk away “doesn’t make you mean or judgmental. It makes you honest with yourself.” Fans and social media users quickly began speculating about which celebrity mothers might have been part of the group she described, with names like Hilary Duff, Mandy Moore, and Meghan Trainor circulating online. Tisdale’s representatives later told TMZ that the piece was not about Duff, Moore, or Trainor specifically, countering some of the speculation.

In the midst of this online conversation, Koma took to Instagram Stories with a satirical post appearing to respond to Tisdale’s essay. He shared a photoshopped image of himself in a pose similar to one Tisdale used in her original article, adding a fictional magazine cover headline that read: “When You’re The Most Self Obsessed Tone Deaf Person On Earth, Other Moms Tend To Shift Focus To Their Actual Toddlers,” with a subheading that called it “A Mom Group Tell All Through A Father’s Eyes.” Koma captioned the post, “Read my new interview with @TheCut,” suggesting he was poking fun at the situation and the narrative around Tisdale’s piece.

While Koma’s post didn’t name Tisdale directly, the timing and content strongly indicated that it was meant to be a humorous rebuttal to what was being discussed online about the mom group drama. The mocking tone, calling someone “self‑obsessed” and “tone deaf”, injected a sharper edge into the conversation, drawing attention not only to the original essay but also to how public figures respond when personal reflections become community gossip.

So far, neither Tisdale nor Duff has publicly addressed Koma’s post directly, and representatives for both sides have not offered further comment. The exchange highlights how a personal essay about adult friendships can quickly become entangled in celebrity speculation and public rebuttals, especially when satirical responses are shared on social media.