After all, who do we start with? The victims of terrorism would be on a list that is expanded and updated too regularly to capture in a single moment. They are soldiers and military personnel, they are believers in houses of prayer and children riding buses to school. To build a monument to them would require too much space. There is not enough stone in the world to carve their names into.
The subjects of target killings? Their very deaths are suspect to us. We do not know if those killed were killers themselves and thus unworthy of being honoured. And those who are clearly innocents caught in crossfire cannot be acknowledged because to accept their deaths is to accept the existence of their murderers. The political parties will have you believe that everyone who died committed suicide by inflicting vicious self-abuse on their own person before climbing into a gunny bag. To honour them we would have to compose songs about nobody dying because nobody killed them.
Do we remember those killed by flooding? Villagers drowned by water that could have been held back and disease that could have been staved off with proper preparation. Best to forget them because they are poor and clearly don’t matter to the rest of us and their deaths were inconvenient in reminding us that we didn’t bother to help them in the year that has passed since the last identical floods. A monument to their sacrifices would only be appropriate if built in sand near water so it can be washed away and rebuilt exactly the same, only to be washed away again.
Maybe we light candles in memory of those who died in (Karachi’s) Jinnah Hospital’s ICU? Killed not because their illnesses overtook them or the medical care was inadequate but simply because there was no power to keep them alive and no money to fuel the generators with. The only tribute that would match the senselessness of their deaths would be a bonfire of cash. Thick clouds of smoke rising upwards from a flaming mountain of money as a reminder that we would rather waste it all on nothing than give a penny of it where it deserves to go.
How about minorities murdered and those that died fighting for their right to live. Shias, Ahmadis, Christians, Hindus. To even suggest such a thing is laughable. They did not believe in that which we did and for that they clearly deserved to die. The only way we shall remember them is by piling their bodies high and planting a flag on top, completely green in color.
Remember the dead and disappeared Baloch? How can they exist when we do not acknowledge their existence? For them we can offer only a moment of silence. A moment that extends as long as it takes for them all to disappear and be killed.
Instead let us honour and mourn those still living. Build monument and sing songs in the memory of those that are not yet dead. For their souls clearly are. They blatantly look away from the suffering in their midst while apotheosising the killers and murderers. They would rather watch buffoons prattle on television while discussing conspiracies and fantasy in voices loud enough to drown out the audible death rattles around them. For them, for us, let’s weep and cry. At least we would be doing something for someone.
Published in The Express Tribune, September 15th, 2011.
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This column describes a horrible society where decent people are emotionally dead and only the bandits and terrorists can rally, and that under the flag of enforced "patriotism", no less.
Sick, sick, sick...and still Pakistanis put up with their government...
Brilliant article sir, one of your very best! For its detractors, there is perhaps a simple reason why no one mourns our mountains of dead. They are all probably Blackwater/CIA/RAW/Mossad etc etc etc agents who spontaneously combust, explode, develop gunshot wounds and otherwise expire simply to malign Pakistan's otherwise stellar image.
Bravo!
KM, stiff upper lip, not tight upper lip :) By memorials i did not mean buildings etc, I meant ceremonies. You missed my point completely, which was that displaying our emotions in public has never been our way (except maybe politicians, viz Mirza and Altaf bhai). The stiff upper lip is exactly what I feel is missing from the UK now and is one of the things I miss about Pakistan and am looking forward to coming back to. Having lost a much loved relative in a suicide blast, my brother kidnapped,people I knew personally killed in the earthquake.. I have not forgotten any of them at any point in time. We did not feel the need to shove their deaths into everyones face and carry on with this tiresome tirade of how inhumane Pakistani's are( generalisation, another thing I hate btw). Atrocities happen the world over, that is indeed no justification for their happening. However,everyone has their way of mourning. Ours happens to be silence after the Islamic three days of mourning. Yes, we should never forget ,and those of us who are personally affected, never do forget, but its a good idea to keep calm and carry on. Also, very classy on the throwing my year in the UK in my face. I have studied a degree here specifically to come back to Pakistan, and I have specialised in my field, on the study area of Mardan. I would appreciate it if you didn't fall into the little bubble of people who are critical of those studying abroad, without knowing anything about why they went.
Mr. Sami, till now I knew you as a young good article writer or analyst; But now you have proved that you have a bleeding heart and are one of the best human beings. One can not read this piece without tears. It is all due to the culture of hatred and killing which has been infested in our society very slowly but systematically. Every person of say has contributed his share into it and still working very fast and hard. I am one of those remaining persons who raised slogans for creation of Pakistan, as a young mad man, missed a bullet by a few millimetres but continued with the same zeal. But later I saw and also faced several exemplary scenes. A lesson giving scene was organised when a very highly educated, capable, humble, honest and sincere Pakistani human, one of the main creator of this country, Mr. Liaquat Ali Khan, was brutally murdered in broad day-light and in presence of thousands persons. Lesson implied was that only cruels, corrupts, foreign agents, hate-mongers and rich will prevail in this country and remaining will have to behave like slaves otherwise massacred on one or the other pretext and others only for fun or just to harass others and now brutal murders will be order of the day. Why my countrymen and rulers forgot and neglected vocal fire of some
greats
, about 10/12 years back, that they will bring one million from Waziristan and conquer IslamAbad. As a rehearsal an Army top notch was attacked and killed. Same people, after their failure in Karachi(Economic hub) said that they will need a few thousand from Wana to make a mass massacre there and make people come to terms. After sometime, GOC Karachi was attacked as a rehearsal. Public and ordinary people murders have been neglected completely. But it is to be remembered that hatred creates hatred and love creates love; Hatred is destructive and love is creative. Who is teaching and spreading this lesson. One more thing remains to be examined very carefully that money and power both have gone into wrong hands and nobody has cared that what evils have been created by that. May God bless all with safety.Thank you for writing this.
"kis-kis ko royee". Nunatural death has become a norm rather than exception. Like guilt, when tradegy is also spread widely, ceases to become a tradegy.
@Adil Mirza: The last part of the article was written specifically for the likes of you.
Nice article, however how about starting a vigil, creating an online list , adding names, categorizing them, Karachi, Nature Calamaties (Floods,earthquakes) Bomb blast, Baluchistan, Drones FATA , Religious Hate ( Salman Taseer, Ahmadis, Hindus, sunni/shia) Lets start , better late than never
There is a simple reason why we as a NATION don't mourn our dead. Of course we mourn them as individuals, as family, friends or neighbours. But we have no ability to mourn them as a NATION because in Pakistan the PEOPLE don't matter.... We the PEOPLE of Pakistan have lost control of our own country (if we ever really had any to begin with). The only persons who matter in Pakistan, who will be mourned at state/tax payers expense and trotted out in memoriam at each election are the mendacious politicians, greedy generals and hysterical mullahs who now feed on the corpse of Pakistan. The PEOPLE? They are just there to die and be buried.
@Adil Mirza:
If those drones happened frequently than it has now, this attack perhaps would not have happened, get a life and see the truth around you.
This article is good enough to think about ourselves as we are in habit of blaming others. But this article has me realized that now we are in habit of forgetting what happened with us past. We don't remember people who are gone from this world. Yes, we should remember them.
@MarkH I knew some one would reply like that. Thats why I put liberals and mullahs in same category.
Thank you for writing this article.
this was one of the best articles that you have written. btw, you did not mention about the forgotten memorial for the 75,000 lives lost during the 2005 earthquake.
You have spoken for many of us in a succinct, incisive, and brilliant way. I have a fervent hope that writings such as these will motivate and serve as an impetus for the leaders of our future. Thanks. Having travelled the world extensively I know that we have a decent and beautiful populace but they are stuck in miserable conditions led by robber-barons. But we have still reasons to be hopeful for.
@Adil Mirza: Good job. You receive 10 exp points Conspiracy skill gains a level
and just so you know, if you actually possess some evidence you get bonus points. I have lost the ability to take you and others like you seriously. I think I'm just going to start using you guys for bad joke jumping points from now on. It's all you're good for.
I usually enjoy reading your articles Mr. Shah, this one however I find a little pointless. I do not believe in the dramatic, 'airing our our laundry in public' approach to mourning at all. I have been living in the UK for a year as a student and will be returning home with some relief, and one of the things that I have noticed here is how each day the news is filled with stories of how 'I lost my son' 'I lost my daughter' etc and it all seems like an easy way for people to make a buck, by selling to newspapers their particular sob stories. Added to this. these memorials etc are an easy way for companies to earn money. Sorry, I sound like a terrible cynic but there is some truth to this, you must admit. Secondly, I have become a believer in the 'stiff upper lip' approach. Trust me, the people who have lost family members, friends, acquaintances, or even had incidents happen in their localities, they NEVER forget even for a day the face of the person they have lost, they dont ever stop missing them. These shows of grief are not a part of us Pakistanis. It is just simply not what we do. We do not theatricise our feelings, have memorials with moments of silence, or a slideshow of pictures of the deceased, with accompanying sad music, to make people cry. Pain is private, trust me, i know from experience.
And what about those who sacrificed for democracy.From the opposition to the government all of them took part in the long march one way or the other and then became champions of the restoration of judiciary. They too were the jubilant mourners.
Very thoughtful and informative writing.
But the government has continuously mourned Mohtarma Benazir Shaheed and I believe they do that even when others die.
The problem is that no one cares in this country.
Serious stuff. Really depressing because its so true.
What a soul searching article if we have one.
Beautifully written! but you forgot the women, children and others who died of drone attacks..
that's why we cry when a baby is born - for the struggles in life ahead.
Excellent article Sami, nothing that we did not know already, but we do not like to sum it up on a page like this to appease our ignorant conscience... sure looks like a final destination episode script to me, and I suppose our politicians are playing death here. May god keep salvaging the nation like he has been doing since the last 20 years since there is no hope from these ruling class!