Writer Khalilur Rehman Qamar says 'women should rape men if they want equality'

Published: October 31, 2019
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Famous screenwriter and director Khalilur Rehman Qamar has always been lauded for his gripping storytelling. His recent offering Mere Pass Tum Ho, starring Humayun Saeed, Ayeza Khan, and Adnan Siddiqui, revolves around a woman who’s willing to overlook her affectionate husband for a man who’s richer.

Come to think of it, that’s how the majority of Khalilur Rehman Qamar’s projects are. Misogyny has always been key to his characters and stories.

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In a recent interview, the writer went on to defend his ideas and ‘Philosophy’ around how he sees society.

“It (Mere Pass Tum Ho) is a story of several men, not just one,” he said. “I have come across multiple married couples who go through the same ordeal. I’ve observed when a married woman cheats, she doesn’t feel ashamed at all. The reason behind her not feeling guilty is because she has been backed by another man. When an unmarried woman cheats, she feels guilty.”

He further said, “But when a married man betrays his wife, he feels guilty. He feels embarrassed.”

Qamar then asserted that women should not criticise Mere Pass Tum Ho because women themselves have ridiculed men. “I’m only narrating this story in your [women’s] favour. Like it or not, I don’t call every woman a woman. To me, the only beautiful trait a woman can possess is her loyalty and her haya/modesty. If a woman isn’t loyal then she is not a woman. Register an FIR against me for if you don’t subscribe to my point of view but I won’t budge.”

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He didn’t stop, certainly not so easily.

“Get someone to try me under #MeToo, I won’t care about that either. But I won’t be able to call every woman a woman. That simply isn’t true for me.”

Qamar continued that when he saw the infidelity within women and the state of men, he went on, “A man leaves all his honour, his self-esteem with his wife when he goes out to earn a living. And I curse those women who violate that trust. That was the concept behind Mere Pass Tum Ho and so I’m fighting for the ‘good women’. It would be unfair to these [good] women to be classified along with those who aren’t loyal.”

The Kaaf Kangana director further elaborated that he is a feminist to the core, but he is slightly selective about his politics.

“Trust me, you’ll not find a bigger feminist in Pakistan, but I fight for good women only. Loyalty is a woman’s virtue; don’t challenge it.”

Even the host of the show, who is a woman herself, presents no counter-argument and keeps on nodding and laughing along.

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“A few weeks ago, a feminist group had a conversation with me regarding equality. I asked them if they’ve ever heard about a gang of men kidnapping a woman? They assured me they have. I asked them then why don’t women do the same?” the host giggled, “If you wish to strive for equality then kidnap men as well. Rob a bus, gang rape a man, so that I can understand what you [women] mean by equality.”

He then mockingly said that men have hijacked women’s rights so cleverly that women don’t really understand what their actual rights are. “Rather than figuring out your own rights, you’re only asking your part from men’s rights. That’s never going to happen!” he said. “The most one of these feminist groups can do is chant slogans against me, tweet a few thousand tweets but that’s it! Women can’t do anything else.”

Qamar believed that if women were to challenge men, the whole society will collapse.

“I was once in conversation with Sultana Siddiqui, and she asked me, ‘Khalil, why don’t you write anything against men?’ I asked her what should I write about men? Should I abuse him? I would, but then what? She said, ‘What do you mean? Even men remarry and indulge in extramarital affairs. Why do you choose to be so selective?’ I just had one question in response, ‘But with whom? A woman, right?'”

According to Qamar if a woman learns to say no to men, then men won’t be tempted to have an extramarital affair.

When the host finally intervened and made a point about how loyalty should be exercise by both the man and the woman, Qamar replied, “You have to understand this philosophy. A wife is worried about what? Another woman. That other woman isn’t a man. So riddle me this: you are destroying a man and you’re the one who’s complaining about it as well.”

He concluded by saying, “A man cannot say no. He just can’t. A good woman can.”

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Reader Comments (6)

  • kathy
    Oct 31, 2019 - 3:38PM

    What a load of rubbish, Advocating equality through criminal acts of Rape, and exonerating men because “they cannot say no”.The guy needs to seriously think before opening his mouth as nothing that he has said makes any sense to a decent human being.Recommend

  • Muhammad
    Oct 31, 2019 - 4:54PM

    A good man can also say NO.Recommend

  • ahmed
    Oct 31, 2019 - 7:14PM

    He has been watching too many of his own dramas. overdosed on his own shallow writings. Recommend

  • chenab
    Oct 31, 2019 - 9:13PM

    Khalil sahab success or talent is no excuse for insensitivity and sexism. Your arrogance is quite reprehensible and it is unfortunate that you feel entitled to define what it means to be a ‘woman’ putting all the burden of keeping society squarely on her shoulders. ‘A man cannot say NO’- what a pathetic cop out!

    The very remarkable drama industry you are a part of Khalil sahab will hopefully discern the retrogressive mindset camouflaged by the intoxication of your poetic dialogues. I truly hope that either this intoxication will wear off and the audience will shun your worldview, or better still, you will wake up and smell the coffee! Recommend

  • stevenson
    Nov 1, 2019 - 2:16AM

    These type of uneducated men need to be exposed and outed by every sane and educated Pakistani in order for such ignorant thoughts to stop !Recommend

  • sibtain
    Nov 5, 2019 - 1:42PM

    yes a good man can say no but in recent times we have less good women and even lesser good men. I have no issues with the drama but good women must be valued and that can only be done by good men. it is still better to rely on good values and expect from your creator instead of asking opposite sex.Recommend

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