I am a victim of ‘Zhagh’ and I am fighting back

Published: August 9, 2017
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No, the draconian custom did not kill me. It tried to push me into an embarrassing forced marriage. PHOTO: FILE

No, the draconian custom did not kill me. It tried to push me into an embarrassing forced marriage. PHOTO: FILE

In 2011, a man with children in Balochistan fired bullets at Mermana’s* door to declare to the entire neighbourhood that she was his from now on. Anyone coming with a marriage proposal for her would be inviting his wrath and possibly starting a quarrel that could go on for generations.

When a man empties the magazine of his gun in front of a woman’s house in northern Balochistan and shouts her name, her life is ruined, dreams are shattered while the family struggles to save her future on the pretext of an archaic local custom called ‘Zhagh’.

No, it does not kill her. It pushes her into an embarrassing forced marriage sometimes, while leaves her dejected most of the times.

Villager rescues women from brutal tribal custom

Per custom, Zhagh is where a man lays claim to marriage with a woman and no one else is allowed to send proposals for her. Marriage disputes can lead to tribal feuds and even armed clashes, which can then last for generations.

The draconian custom is prevalent in the northern districts of Balochistan, especially in Loralai, Zhob, Ziarat, Sherani and Killa Saifullah, where hundreds of women have forcibly been given into marriages.

Zhagh can be called a gender-based ferocity in which a man imposes his will on a woman and her entire family. This custom in Balochistan allows a man to claim a particular woman for marriage through an open declaration and that too without her or her parents’ consent.

Regardless of his age, when a man shouts a woman’s name at her doorstep, other men cannot send their marriage proposals to the woman’s family to avoid enmity. In an unacceptable manner, the woman stands engaged to the man while her family protests in vain. The woman is then left to confront difficulties her entire life.

Some of these women marry the man; others opt to remain single instead of spending the rest of their lives with a man they do not approve of. In both the cases, only the women as victims face humiliation.

“I was shocked when I heard a married man, who had children, taking my name under this brutal custom. He wanted to marry me,” recalls Mermana. She became a victim of the horrific custom seven years ago.

“How can it be a fair custom? The man who shouted my name is still scaring me and pressuring all those who are interested in sending their marriage proposals for me.”

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Years have passed. Mermana is still not ready to marry that man. Even her suitor is reluctant to withdraw from his claim. She has been demanding justice from the elders of her village, But her efforts have gone in vain.

“I will never accept a forced marriage with a man who has a daughter and a son. I want to be happily married, but definitely not after being a victim of this custom [Zhagh]. Else, I will stay single for life.”

Regrettably, Zhagh has become a social stigma in Balochistan. The custom is also considered as a violation of family honour because, in the province’s conservative society, a family feels ashamed when a man openly announces his desire to marry its woman. A victim’s family may also take revenge from the man who practiced Zhagh against them. Sometimes it changes into animosity between families.

Twenty-two-year-old Gula’s* family had refused one of her marriage proposals. The man, whose proposal was rejected, made her a target of Zhagh in 2015. Nevertheless, her family chose to retaliate for dishonouring them.

“My brothers chased the man. They assaulted him in a bid to kill him for bringing humiliation to the family member, but instead, he was injured,” says Gula. “Our family animosity started three years ago.”

Although Gula’s brothers have received several death threats by the man’s family, they still demand that they hand over their sister to them.

K-P Assembly criminalises ‘Ghag’ custom

Financially unstable and socially weak victims and their families find no other option but to flee to safe places and protect their women and men. However, many end their lives after being persecuted by the stone-age social norms and attitudes.

Naqeeb Khan, the father of another Zhagh victim Shazia, says in 2012 a local imposed the custom on his daughter and insisted that only he would marry her.

“When people used to come to my house with my daughter’s marriage proposal, he [the man] pressured them to not marry Shazia. No one was willing to marry her.”

Shazia’s father approached a jirga and clerics to get the tribal court and Islamic perspectives on the issue. The jirga and the clerics, Khan says, both maintained that marriage without a woman’s consent was illegal. However, their assertions could not change Shazia’s fate.

She preferred to end her life instead of being shackled in an unwanted marriage.

It is also true that there is no legal instrument or mechanism in the country and the province to protect women and their families against the draconian custom. Cultural barriers in Balochistan also bar women from approaching the courts. They are usually left with no other option but to remain silent.

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The Khyber-Pakhtunkhwa Assembly in 2013 passed a bill against ‘Ghag’, a similar custom with a different name in the province. However, in Balochistan, seems like it is not even on the provincial government’s agenda.

Saying protecting women is important, MPA Spozmi Achakzai of the Pakhtunkhwa Milli Awami Party says, “I will try to bring a bill in the provincial assembly against Zhagh to declare this custom illegal in Balochistan.”

“Due to illiteracy, conservative norms exist in some areas of the province treating women worse than slaves. All the unfair customs against women can be diminished by introducing new law and policies,” she stresses.

Some men in Balochistan, on the other hand, believe that this custom provides them with an option to pick the woman of their choice.

Akram, who got married through Zhagh, says the archaic local custom is “better” because it is also important to know who you are going to marry. However, being a man, he now admits that the consent of a woman is vital as that of a man’s will.

“It is our right to choose a life partner but with their consent. Zhagh does not allow locals to select women with their consent for marriages and hence, destroy the couple’s life.”

The horrific tales of Zhagh does not end here. Several untold stories of its victims haunt the locals in Balochistan. Their opinions were never asked, nor do they matter to the men.

 

*Names have been changed to conceal identity.

Hizbullah Khan is a freelance investigative journalist.

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Reader Comments (6)

  • Afzal Khwaja
    Aug 10, 2017 - 9:47AM

    Stiff laws needed to eradicate this custom – it will take time though.Recommend

  • Faraz
    Aug 10, 2017 - 10:01AM

    Dear me. How many archaic, Stone Age customs are still prevalent in Pakistan?Recommend

  • Pekhawar Khan
    Aug 10, 2017 - 10:12AM

    Wow, wild wild south. Never knew there’s “ghag” in KP. Never heard of it. Seems like far southern tips of KP probably has this custom over spilling to KP’s border area adjacent to Balochistan. Regardless, women are not cattle, such practices will never take place in an honourable society, the PTI government’s initiative in KP poves the point PTI is working for the people. Two cheers to them.Recommend

  • Trollslayer
    Aug 10, 2017 - 1:39PM

    I have heard of a similar custom in Afghanistan called ‘Nara’, which is when a woman basically enters a man’s home and takes him as her husband, but never heard of Zhagh/Ghagh, which means to call out in Pashto/Pakhto.

    Zhagh and Ghagh are the same word pronounced differently by speakers of the Pashto and Pakhto dialects in Afghanistan and Pakistan. Recommend

  • Billa
    Aug 11, 2017 - 10:46PM

    What exactly has been done by PTI to tackle this problem? Please [email protected] Khan: Recommend

  • ahmed41
    Aug 12, 2017 - 11:17AM

    SHAME,shame !Recommend

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