Let's talk about sex - II

Why are we hushing something that is important for our well being and confusing it with religion and morality?

Anam Gill May 26, 2011
Sex education has always been a point of conflict between public educators and conservative religious groups.

In my last post, the purpose of highlighting the hypocrisy, double  standards and bigotry in our country by focusing our attention to red light area and vulgar stage shows was not directed towards a connection between this and sex education. The only thing which I want us to ask ourselves is:
Why are we hushing something that is important for our well being and confusing it with religion, morality and vague notions?

It seems that misconstrued 'religious' rhetoric has proved to be an effective tool in pushing us towards ignorance. However, I do believe that it is important to keep in mind the cultural or religious sensibilities when we try to enlighten the masses on a particular issue such as sex.

It’s just a click away, anyway

I see many people drawing my attention to the United States (US) on this subject as a response to the previous blog. It was clear though that imparting comprehensive sex education considering the level of knowledge among the public, will not only enlighten the majority but will also clear misconceptions.

In the age of advancement where everyone has access to the internet, the word “sex” is just a click away. Harmful and inappropriate material can come from just about everywhere on the Internet and Television and children may be exposed to inappropriate content including pornography, violence, and language.

Sex education and religion

Leslie Kantor, the former director of Sexuality, Information and Education Council of the United States (SIECUS) Community Advocacy Project, conducted an extensive content analysis of sex education programs produced and promoted by Religious Right groups that are used in public schools in the US.

She concluded that these programs omit the most fundamental information on contraception and disease prevention, perpetuate medical misinformation and promote fear and ignorance. Perhaps that is the answer to why sex education in the US hasn’t led to a significant decrease in teenage pregnancies or in curtailing the epidemic of AIDS.

At home or at school?

Sex education is very important, both at school and at home. Children need to be taught how to identify/handle sexual predators, and how to avoid making bad decisions in the future. In schools, they would have more learning aids and a proper curriculum that could be used -- in many cases identifying medical facts and statistics better than a parent's general knowledge. It is important to also realise that a child will be taught according to what his/her age group can comprehend.

For a lot of children, school is the only place where they may hear the real facts about sex from a trusting adult.  For many parents in our society it is still a taboo to talk about it.  A child who is afraid to talk about their changing body to their parents would be able to know the facts at school. Sex education also allows children to understand that they are not alone in the process of growing and developing.  Sex education usually teaches about puberty and sexual maturity and what that means for males and females.

The importance of sex education

For decades, debates over when, what and even if to teach sex education to youth has raged on. However, polarising debates are not helpful to parents who, at the very least,  want to minimise health risks, and at most, want their children to grow up to have a healthy, life affirming attitude towards sex.

As we enter the new millennium, reproductive and sexual health, family planning and economic well being are vital concerns for individuals, communities and nations. Rates of pregnancy and AIDS and other sexually transmitted diseases, remain alarmingly high among youth, yet opponents of sex education are trying to censor vital, life-saving information that has proven effective in dealing with these problems.
Anam Gill The writer is a social activist and journalist from Lahore. She is the founder of Dialogue Café, a creative space bringing people together to interact and engage in debates. Her writings have appeared in several renowned Pakistani and international news outlets, including Dawn, Express Tribune and Deutsche Welle.
The views expressed by the writer and the reader comments do not necassarily reflect the views and policies of the Express Tribune.


Pakistani (UK) | 12 years ago | Reply @Norwegian Pakistani: So you think sex education will make people less hungry for sex in Pakistan? Sex education is mainly aimed at avoiding STD's (not saying its not important or sex education should not be there in Pakistan), and it is in not intended to reduce peoples lust for sex but tell them how to avoid pregnancy,HIV etc, in a society like Pakistan, it will only worsen the problem. Please have a look at the bigger picture and why this problem is there in first place. The Pakistani problem can only be solved by improving our Islamic morals, improving our education system, Islamic and conventional! Also Noway might have a lot less rapes etc it has its own problem, for one like you mentioned, one night stands, is this really what we want to compare Pakistan with? is this what we want in Pakistan, an Islamic country? no offense
Salman | 12 years ago | Reply First of all, I am not against sex education as long as it is given in separate classes. but let me get the author's point, so instead of increasing our education standard (Islamic as well as more conventional), instead of increasing our moral values/respect of women in Islam (Islamic moral values and I do not mean extremism) and instead of our educating our youth about having a moderate society we want to teach them, its ok to have sex as long as you wear a condom? (no pun intended and do not mean to offend anyone). We are Islamic country, and we should be following Islamic values and if you read enough about Islam you will realize how moderate Islam is! Yes we have to give up alcohol, premarital sex etc but it is a Muslim country these things in any way cannot be justified. Also, sex education has not much to do with violence against women, the violence against women is simply to do with our moral values and they are corrupt, please try to focus on that. And that will not be fixed until we learn about Islam and decide who we are. I am absolutely against the horrific act of violence against women but it will not be solved by sex education but by teaching Islamic moral values. Also the author needs to do some research on the violence against women and the impact of open sex on moral values of society in developed countries. again no offense!
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