Films give you unrealistic expectations of love when they portray characters like Raj from DDLJ and Jack from Titanic. The real world is very different from the reel world — here, very few will spread their arms wide for you in public or die for you in the ocean.
However, men don’t have to sacrifice their lives in order to prove their love, they can make women fall deeper in love by doing other things:
1. Making plans
When a man plans, it’s almost as exciting as him proposing. Whether he’s organizing a date, weekend trip or an afternoon walk, it really makes the ladies happy. It shows them that he’s putting an effort into the relationship, and women really appreciate that.
2. Being a good listener
Listening to your woman without grunting and passing comments is rare, but highly appreciated. Whether she’s whining, complaining or just wants to talk about her, lend and ear and listen intently. She will feel cherished.
Remember things she mentions, especially from the past, she will truly appreciate it, and show her that you pay attention to what she says. Favourite flowers, books, chocolates — take note and remember them all.
3. Showing vulnerability
It’s extraordinary when a man can openly and honestly talk about his feelings with a woman. This level of comfort is great because it shows that he trusts his woman with his feelings and emotions. It also allows the woman to be at ease around him when dealing with her emotions.
4. Cooking for her
Women find it particularly ‘cute’ when a man knows his way around the kitchen. It shows that he is capable and confident. Cooking takes patience and shows them that you’re cherish-worthy.
5. Going shopping
Shopping is a favorite pastime of many women, and though it may not be on many men’s to-do list, women love it when a man can keep up with her shopping sprees without throwing a tantrum. Tip: You get bonus points for giving your opinion.
6. It’s okay to be nerdy
Being a little nerdy makes women drool. Whether he’s excited about the novel he’s reading or giving math lessons to the neighbour’s kid, it shows that he’s not afraid to embrace his geeky side.
7. Compromise is key
When a man does something for his significant other that he wouldn’t ordinarily want to do, it makes the woman’s heart melt. Being sweet and thoughtful always goes a long way. They really appreciate you doing something you’re not eager to do.
8. Get sporty
Women like seeing men fired up and passionate about sports. When they roar at the TV and get involved in a match, women secretly love it.
9. Displaying affection
Being affectionate and sweet to a woman is the best way to gain her love. Whether you put your arm around her when she’s least expecting it, or hold her hand, it makes her heart skip a beat.
10. Love her family
Women absolutely adore it when men make an effort with their families. When he gets close and involved proves that he’s not just there to impress the woman, but also gain her family’s approval.
Ladies, most men may not be like the ones you see in movies and are vastly different from what you imagined them to be, but if a man does the above for you, cherish him. He’s the one.
This article originally appeared on HuffPost.