Family matters: Woman declared ‘kari’ for shaking uncle’s hand

Published: August 28, 2014
Village elders decided that she should be punished and ordered her husband to unleash the hounds on her.

Village elders decided that she should be punished and ordered her husband to unleash the hounds on her. PHOTO: EXPRESS

SUKKUR: A young woman was declared a kari for shaking hands with her maternal uncle in Badani Town, Kashmore.

Village elders decided that she should be punished and ordered her husband to unleash the hounds on her. The incident left Rasheeda severely injured. She managed to run away to her parent’s house. For the moment, the family has moved in with relatives and hope that the situation will improve.

Umair Ali Chachar, her father, is a resident of Kashmore and runs a motorcycle showroom in the area. He claims that five years ago he was forced to get his daughter, Rasheeda, married to Ghulam Nabi alias Gul Chachar of Badani. He said that after the couple was married, Gul used to torture Rasheeda and it was an abusive marriage.

According to Umair Ali, things became worse when Rasheeda’s uncle Piyaro Chachar went to visit her on Eid and she greeted him by shaking his hand – a custom in rural Sindh. Her husband, however, disapproved, and announced that his wife was a kari. While talking to the media, Umair Ali said that his son-in-law had put the case before the village elders, including Wahid Bux Chachar and Mithal Chachar, who ordered that he should unleash the hounds on her for ‘committing a heinous crime’.

“Following the elders verdict, my son-in-law unleashed dogs and as a result my daughter was injured,” he said. “Somehow she managed to escape from her husband’s house and took shelter with us.” Umair Ali added that he went to register a complaint at the Badani police station but they refused to do so. He felt that the best thing to do in the situation was to relocate the family to Daharki and stay with some relatives.

Umair Ali claims that they are not safe as his daughter’s husband and in-laws are threatening them.

What happened five years ago

While talking to The Express Tribune, Umair Ali said that Wahid Bux Chachar, Mithal Chachar and a few other influential people of the area implicated him and his son in a fake case.

In order to drop the charges, these men demanded that Rasheeda would have to marry Gul. “I couldn’t think of a way out so I gave in to their demands,” he said. “They got married and soon after he started beating her. This time, however, he has crossed all limits.”  He added that his daughter had done nothing wrong by shaking hands with her uncle as it is a customary greeting.

Rasheeda’s father claimed that the field officer of the Madadgar National Helpline, Bushra Syed, had contacted him and asked him to submit an application to her office to process the case.

Bushra Syed told The Express Tribune that the incident took place in Kashmore and the complaint would have to be filed with the area police. She added that she had asked Umair Ali to send an application to the office and that she would forward it to SSP Kashmore to take legal action.

Published in The Express Tribune, August 28th, 2014.

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Reader Comments (28)

  • Sindhi_Pakistani
    Aug 28, 2014 - 3:31AM

    Dear #PPP Govt and Bilawal Zardari Bhutto! You have a mandate to govern Sindh. Will you improve governance or not? We just give you votes and you forget to deliver anything back. Rural Sindh seems a stone age areas, poor infrastructure, ghost schools, poor law and order, feudal Raj, poor health and educational facilities. We have been voting for PPP in each elections, but it seems, you are NOT interested in real delivery, good governance and development of Sindh. Will you act or just focus on lip service?Recommend

  • Imran
    Aug 28, 2014 - 3:34AM

    Sorry Rasheeda, we are too obsessed with melodrama in Islamabad. No time for real problems. Just go away and do…. Whatever you do!


  • Spud
    Aug 28, 2014 - 4:11AM

    Is it amazing that those who write hateful comments about India and Israel are silent about such things happening in supposedly civil nation? People this is twenty first century and you should leave your 7th mentality and moved into modern age where not every innocent action should constitute loss of honour. Where are women commentators. Arise people against such barbarism.


  • Asad
    Aug 28, 2014 - 4:19AM

    What about the uncle? Any hounds for him too?


  • Janan
    Aug 28, 2014 - 5:50AM

    Uncivilised people


  • numbersnumbers
    Aug 28, 2014 - 6:49AM

    More news to enhance the “Good Name” of Pakistan (700 AD Timeframe again!) on the world stage!!!


  • Faruq
    Aug 28, 2014 - 7:39AM

    This is a chance for the media to bring a real issue to light. If issues like this aren’t buried and forgotten, Pakistan’s media might actually accomplish something. I hope this issue isn’t forgotten, because this punishment is Game of Thrones level brutality


  • M Afzal
    Aug 28, 2014 - 7:46AM

    If Pakistan was ruled by Islamic Sharia, all of such curses as it happens in this evil society, we’re solved by such sharia law. Look at Saudi Arabia a peaceful country as Sharia is the law of the land and SOLUTION to all evil matters.


  • Raj Kafir
    Aug 28, 2014 - 7:49AM

    A Pakistani colleague ( Ariba, a young girl ) when first joined our company, she shook my hand with her hand. Here in Canada, we shake hands with our customers regardless of their age, sex and religion. Ariba is a proud member of our company and get lots of compliments from colleagues and customers alike.
    This is one sad news and give bad name to all Pakistanis living abroad.


  • goldigger
    Aug 28, 2014 - 8:28AM

    @Janan: Would calling you a pathetic loser change things? No. Stop calling people with names; hate the sin, love the sinner.


  • Abrar R
    Aug 28, 2014 - 8:42AM

    Qaim Ali Shah sb, either these scums are bought to justice, or u jump off some cliff.


  • weirdity
    Aug 28, 2014 - 8:51AM

    @Sindhi_Pakistani: “Will you act or just focus on lip service?”
    Don’t worry. IK will win in sindh and solve “all problems” in 90 days just like did in KP.


  • Professor
    Aug 28, 2014 - 8:52AM

    Modern education is the key. India and Pakistan should both relegate religion back into the fold of each home. It is a personal thing between a human and his/her Almighty. We don’t need agents to tell us what we can and cannot do. I hope I live long enough to see this come into fruition.


  • Aug 28, 2014 - 9:14AM

    Rasheeda Bibi…I am very, very shocked and sad to read this news about your humiliation at the hands of ‘jungli’ tribal lords. This is absolutely barbaric and INHUMAN. Even cave man was not so outrageous.
    This is time for the PPP to act if it wants to remain relevant as a political party, otherwise, the PPP will also go down like PMLN with its outdated and outmoded way of life.
    The tribal customs have almost doomed Pakistan. Sindh, Punjab, Baluchistan, and Khyber provinces after independence should have been well on the way to education and economic development. But alas, the tribal traditions are more important than Islam. Salams


  • asim
    Aug 28, 2014 - 9:20AM

    The fingers of all these people in the jirgas should be chopped off.
    Their eyes pierced with hot iron rods.
    and their faces dipped in acid.
    That is a just punishment for these animals.


  • Sabah
    Aug 28, 2014 - 9:23AM

    @M Afzal:
    The last thing our country needs to get out of that 700 AD timeframe is to get a 700 AD timeframe rule of law. If we had a Sharia law implicated here, matters like these would probably never even see the light of day.


  • Pakistani
    Aug 28, 2014 - 10:15AM

    What is the PPP doing to improve the situation in rural Sindh? Can anyone provide details.


  • Observer
    Aug 28, 2014 - 10:24AM

    @M Afzal: you call Saudia Arabia a peaceful society…nobody is safe there…there are no human rights…the dirty things that go on in Saudi Arabia are hidden behind the money and glitter.


  • riya
    Aug 28, 2014 - 2:01PM

    beaten for shaking hands ??? disgusting failed nation…… bah … and those losers … the politician cant digest his loss so he creates all the chaos… sick society …pathetic!!


  • Ali
    Aug 28, 2014 - 2:02PM

    @M Afzal

    Operatin sharia requires billions of dollars in my opinion. However, if you say what you claim to be true, you should also look at sharia somalia


  • Professor
    Aug 28, 2014 - 2:14PM

    @M Afzal: Saudi Arabia is the most tormented society in the world.


  • Bob
    Aug 28, 2014 - 3:05PM

    @asim … you are one angry person. calm down and try to change the thinking of the people.


  • ali
    Aug 28, 2014 - 4:03PM

    Now they should sit in at constitution avenue for at-least 15 days and nights. they will be able to register a FIR. This is the way now in our country.


  • Stranger
    Aug 28, 2014 - 4:09PM

    I can’t understand if the husband resents his wife so much then why can’t he simply divorce her . Why stay married to her and torture like his .


  • unbelievable
    Aug 28, 2014 - 8:53PM

    Civilized country would toss the “elders” and husband in jail and throw away the key. In many countries the father of the abused wife would kick the crap out of the husband and probably the “elders” as well. What’s wrong with you people?


  • Moiz Omar
    Aug 29, 2014 - 10:20AM

    What century do we live in again?Recommend

  • M Jamil
    Aug 29, 2014 - 3:03PM

    very very sad
    be educated dear it is wrong way to treat a women.


  • Prognosticator
    Aug 30, 2014 - 7:48AM

    You hit the nail on the head. The so-called “elders” who are illiterate, clueless and bigoted are the bane of society in this region.


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