Since October 9, 2012, one of the many dark days in Pakistani history, we have heard as many views on Malala as we have avenues of information — newspapers, television shows, social media, etc. The dominant view seems to be “she’s too confident to be doing this on her own, somebody must be supporting her”. But on July 12, when a young Pakistani woman wowed the entire world by her simple yet powerful views, I let go of trying to look logically at the other view — I saw the tear that fell out of Malala’s mother’s eye and I felt what had caused it. Malala’s mother, purported to be a CIA agent, was crying because the little girl who she had carried in her womb for nine months and nurtured for 15 years was finally able to speak with her characteristic vigour after surviving a bullet to her head. Ask a mother what that must feel like. Ask her if she would still care for a damned foreign agency when her own flesh and blood is battling for life. It wouldn’t be so hard for us to believe in Malala’s magnificence if we were a nation of people who stood up when we felt the pain of being snatched of something we hold in high esteem.
There is a lot to be taken away from Malala’s story — from the day she spoke out, to the day she was shot until the day she told the UN what a simple Pakistani woman can achieve given some confidence by her near and dear ones. The bias against women is so strongly ingrained in our heads that our nation can hardly believe in a confident woman who actually wants the best for this country. In Pakistan, you cannot be a well-wishing female citizen until you’re acquiescent and respectful of “social norms”, no matter how much they pull you down.
This is the same attitude that a whole line of amazing Pakistani women have had to battle, from Benazir Bhutto to Asma Jahangir to Sherry Rehman to Mukhtaran Mai to Sharmeen Obaid-Chinoy. Each one of these educated, empowered and accomplished women has, at one point or the other, been named an agent for an ill-meaning cause, agents who are out to destabilise Pakistan for money. In actuality, all they were out to do is destabilise the ridiculously skewed representation of men compared with women in Pakistan. They are such evil “ladies” because they refuse to silently obey and follow the patriarchy that continues to grip our society.
Dear Pakistanis, for a change, believe in one of your own. Accept her as the extraordinary Pakistani that she is. Love her and respect her. Don’t let her gender get in the way of that. Don’t translate her message of peace as ‘western’; it is universal.
Published in The Express Tribune, July 14th, 2013.
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@Ikra:
Let me be as clear as it needs for you to understand!
The drones and attack on Malala are not linked! She was targeted and your beloved Taliban proudly claimed responsibility for it! Innocent people dying in drones is a tragedy but for your information the ''highest'' figures do not put the count of innocent people killed in drone attacks more than 1000. These include the extremely unbiased pro-Taliban reports!
You think Taliban who have violated Pakistani law, Islamic law and every law on earth need to be talked to and not arrested, and perhaps handed over a chunk of Pakistani territory called North Waziristan to carry out terrorist activities in Afghanistan, Pakistan and world over.
By any canon of law this makes you culpable for supporting a terrorist organisation, it also makes you culpable for the following crimes:
Obstruction of justice Aiding and abetting the crime of murder and attempting to murder (in this particular case) Aiding and abetting terrorism Violating sovereignty of Pakistan and thereby high treason as supporting Uzbek, Tajik, Chechen, Egyptian, Yemeni and other fighters whom you support in their illegal attempt to stay in Pakistani territory without permission.If people in Swat were killed, do you think Malala was responsible for that? If terrorists and civilians are killed in drones do you think Malala has given its permission? You people don't have the generosity to accept a girl and that too a Pashtun girl to credit her for what she did at the cost of herself [she was shot in the head]. You don't have the courage to blame the state apparatus for giving permission for drone strikes. You don't have the guts to criticize the agencies for letting Raymand Davis leave the country after killing two spies. But you have the balls to blame Malala for raising her voice for education. Shame on you. Sharm bhe naheen atee ap logon ko jo malala ko criticise kar rahain hain. Pakistan is dark because of retrogressive mentality, who cannot do anything and will not let others do something.
All the other girls in Swat who were shot and killed by Talibans' were equally important as Malala is. The way local and international media is highlighting her story has made the life of those girls living in that region more exposed to terrorism. Although we should give credit for whatever she did for promoting girls education in the region. But on the other side very few people know that all her maternal and paternal relatives families got asylum in UK. Has anyone thought about those girls who are going to school each day and living a fearful life in terrorism hit areas?
All those who are critical of Malala, and decry her work for the girl-child's education or are reminded of those girls who are maimed or killed by drones only when some achievement of Malala comes up, and forget them thereafter, would do themselves a big favour if they look deeply into their own hearts and minds. What will they find if they were to undertake the exercise? Envy! Nothing but envy! Lots of it!
How many of these ladies and gentlemen would decline an invitation to address the UN General Assembly themselves? None of them I am sure, if it came with a FREE air-ticket and visa. It requires a certain strength of character and decent upbringing to be able to applaud some other person's achievements.
We should take pride in our own, at least when the rest of the world is all praise. As it is, we have very little of what we can be genuinely proud of.
How many of us did actually see Malala's speech live? If she were the daughter of any of our enemy or friendly countries the whole nation would have thronged to see her speech LIVE on giant screens in their stadia. We do that only when our cricket team snatches a defeat from the jaws of victory.
God bless her. What Indian government is unable to tackle and face, this 16yr old girl is doing bravely. Islamic militants should be eradicated for better international relations.
Well said Zainab, i fully endorse your thoughts, pray and wait for that eventful day when Pakistan is ready to join the world only for its universally acceptable standard that we are all human!
Bravo! Well said.
Malala took herself one notch down by endorsing NRO-beneficiary Mrs Benazir Zardari by wearing her shawl.
Malala did not say anything for children killed or raped in war zone and imperial land graping or intrest caused wars????
@Deepwater: I would like to know if the great Kaptaan, who is currently in the UK, will take time out of his busy social life to visit Malala.
Politically, the Kaptaan can not really be seen anywhere near this situation as he certainly will upset the real hidden hard-core elements within his support base ! So this is a non starter !
@Ikra: I think we all condone the terrible drone attacks going on in our country. I am sure malala does as well. But this doesn't lessen in any way the fact that malala is special. Stop thinking that everything is versus the drone attacks because it isn't. As responsible Pakistani's we must keep fighting against the drone attacks but we must also celebrate what is worth celebrating in our country. Stop being skewed in your view.
@ikra the people getting killed by drone are not extraordinary, they are killed same way like me and you by the suicide bombers and we are too afraid to speak against them. extraordinary is the one who speaks against such thing, weather its drone or the taliban who would kill or cut you in case you speak against them. become an extraordinary and go to afghan/pak Border and speak against the drones and pray before drones the taliban don't kill you for anything from education to your dress or your social life.
"Her father smiled like a man who had won a battle he had fought his entire life."
I have a daughter. When I saw the raised-chin smile on Zia-ud-Din's face, I wanted to see through and capture the immense pride and happiness that he would have felt. I felt so happy for him. But what I don't understand is the people who hate this courageous girl and her father for absolutely no reason. I guess some people are twisted, mis-guided, and short-sighted.
Oh, get ready to get some hate mail.
I am proud to be a Pakistani woman because of all the extraordinary women mentioned in the article above. I am also proud to be a Pakistani because of all the woman who are never named in the media but go about silently looking after their parents, husbands, in-laws and kids, working to earn money, working to keep their home in harmony.
I am proud that despite all the hurdles placed by the forces of darkness in our country (we know who they are and I don't need to name them) we have millions of amazing woman in our country.
I only hope that I can bring my 11 month daughter up to be a fraction as wonderful as Malala. If I ever have a son I only hope I can bring him up to be a young man who will respect all the women he comes into contact with.