Divorce and joint families: Desi community shares its most controversial takes

These opinions aren't for the faint-hearted

Another day, another controversial tweet that gets people riled up. This time around, a Twitter user posed a simple enough query: What’s your hot take on desi culture that would have you in this position? The position in question, of course, was a pictorial depiction of a smug Flynn Rider from Tangled with countless knives to his neck.

what’s your hot take on desi culture that would have you in this position pic.twitter.com/ewLROnc6oM

— sai (@Saisailu97) March 28, 2023

Buckle up and get ready, because it's a wild ride from here on out. It seems like a lot of users of the microblogging site had a lot of pent-up anger. For the most part, it made sense as well.

"Overspending on marriage just for the sake of 'what will people say' is gross. Instead, be more philanthropic to others," stated one user.

Overspending on marriage just for the sake of log kya kahenge is a gross instead be more philanthropic to others https://t.co/Pa8wMBsjq0

— Isha khan (@chukklingducky) March 30, 2023

"No man - NO MAN - can understand how difficult it is to be a woman in desi culture. And if men are telling you that you’re crying about your miseries just because you’re speaking up, you’re probably doing something right," wrote another.

no man NO MAN can understand how difficult it is to be a woman in desi culture. and if men are telling u you’re crying about your miseries just because you’re speaking up, you’re probably doing smthn right https://t.co/iVZXD9v51u

— smokeyhouse (@surajdukhii) March 30, 2023

"Mental health illnesses are real," penned a user. "It's time we end the stigma associated with it in our culture and started talking openly about it. A lot of people suffer due to the non-support/help due to the fear of 'what will people say.'"

Mental health illness are real. It's time we end the stigma associated with it in our culture and started talk openly about it. Lot of people suffer due to the non support/help as due to the fear of ‘Log kya kahengey’. https://t.co/tizZTnAFYR

— Kinza Farid (@kinza94) March 30, 2023

"When brown parents disown their own daughters after they get married, so they have to bear all the physical abuse from their husbands and in-laws because they have 'no other home' to go to, and parents want them to sort out their differences themselves," stated another user.

when brown parents disown their own daughters after they get married… so they have to bear all the physically abuse from their husbands and inlaws bcs they have “no other home” to go and parents want them to sort out their differences themselves… https://t.co/JxKrhgw3zz

— c (@gayomarlic) March 30, 2023

This particular user spoke about interfaith harmony. "Desi culture is very diverse and people need to start respecting each other's faith, religion, language and regional cultural differences, especially in professional settings," they wrote.

desi culture is very diverse and people need to start respecting each other's faith, religion, language and regional cultural differences especially in professional settings https://t.co/8YaQMBzbcq

— Ry⁷ 🌙 (@ksj_tempest) March 30, 2023

"Not everyone whose kid's wedding you went to (or even a function of some other sort) is important enough to be invited to your kid's wedding /or other functions!" stated another user.

not everyone in whose kid's wedding you went to/ or to even a function of some other sorts, is important enough to be invited in your kid's wedding / or other said functions! https://t.co/2udymu54CK

— Nikitaa 🦋 | Jack Hawthorne's ✨ (@nikitaa_its_) March 30, 2023

"It's high time society stops judging a woman if she demands to stay separate from her husband! If I can leave my parent's home, then why can't he? And why am obliged to take care of your parents while my parents struggle in their old age? Either play fair or don't play at all," demanded one user.

It's high time society stops judging a woman if she demands to stay seperate with her husband! If I can leave my parent's home then why can't he and why am obliged to take care of your parents while my parents struggle in their old-age? Either play fair or don't play at all https://t.co/gGt8v6rKja

— Abhi deserves better💔 (@gumrahaikoi) March 30, 2023

"If there would be no stigma around divorce and being unmarried, all the women in this country would choose to be single forever," stated yet another user.

If there would have no stigma around divorce and being unmarried all the women in this country would choose to be single forever https://t.co/7kJE6Se2ZT

— Supriya (@chubbycheek25) March 30, 2023

"Couples shouldn't live in joint families, but have separate houses," another user said.

couples shouldn't live in joint families but have separate houses https://t.co/fyo6Voe0IX

— rooqss (@bitchlessbitch1) March 30, 2023

"Making fun of peoples' appearances and giving them nicknames based on that isn't funny. And also thinking a girl doesn't have any purpose outside of getting married and being a housewife," highlighted another user.

making fun of peoples' appearances and giving them nicknames based on that isnt funny. and also thinking a girl doesnt have any purpose outside of getting married and being a housewife. https://t.co/m0CdMTU2lJ

— ifi (@kindaifi) March 30, 2023

"Most desi men treat women as their honour but won't shy away from giving mother/sister related insults which are extremely demeaning to women," said one user.

Most desi men treat women as their "izzat" but won't shy away from giving maa behan ki gaali which are extremely demeaning to women. https://t.co/4PaAY4Gn8U

— Manahil Saeed 🇵🇰 (@manahil__saeed) March 30, 2023

"Desi people are very entitled. They keep whining about the country but cannot make an honest living even if their life depends on it. The same people suddenly develop a work ethic and respect for laws when they move abroad," said one user.

desi people are very entitled. they keep whining about the country but cannot make an honest living even if their life depends on it, the same people suddenly develop a work ethic and respect for laws when they move abroad. https://t.co/yyK1LwaQfq

— Fatima (@tropiicalhoe) March 30, 2023

"There's no room for individuality in this culture. It's all about putting everyone around you above yourself and it mostly only applies to women because God forbid women choose themselves over other people," penned yet another user.

There's no room for individuality in this culture. It's all about putting everyone around you above yourself and it mostly only applies to women because god forbid women choose themselves over other people. https://t.co/GFWDrVTkBk

— Totally Awkward Random (@Coldbrewsteep) March 30, 2023

"Unhealthy competition between cousins exists and parents thrive over comparing their children’s achievements and showing unnecessary malice towards a child who does better than their own," said another.

Unhealthy competition between cousins exist and parents thrive over comparing their children’s achievements and showing unnecessary malice towards a child who does better than their own https://t.co/xhaKcoSnuV

— pb🐳 (@apricityvibe) March 30, 2023

The tweet in question, which has 1.6 million views, is still garnering engagement. Netizens are not holding back, and there are numerous 'controversial' opinions that actually make a whole lot of sense.

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