Whole world is taking Irrfan's death as a personal loss, says wife

Irrfan's college sweetheart and wife of 15 years, Sutapa, shared family statement with quotes from their two sons

Entertainment Desk May 01, 2020

Bollywood actor Irrfan Khan's untimely demise sent shock waves across social media on April 29 and many have come out to pay their tributes.

Two days after his passing, his family of three, wife Sutapa Sikdar and sons, Babil and Ayaan, have released a joint statement about his death, asking admirers take his news not as a loss but as a gain, reported Times of India.


"How can I write this as a family statement when the whole world is taking it as a personal loss? How can I begin to feel alone when millions are grieving with us at the moment?" wrote Sutapa, his college sweetheart and wife of 15 years.

"I want to assure everyone that this is not a loss, it is a gain. It’s a gain of the things he taught us, and now we shall finally begin to truly implement it and evolve," she added, before diving into the aspects of Irrfan that were hidden from the public.

Sutapa went on to mention how, for Irrfan, this would be 'magical', regardless of him being here or not. "That’s what he loved, he never loved one-dimensional reality," she said about the Life of Pi actor.


"The only thing I have a grudge against him is; he has spoiled me for life. His strive for perfection doesn’t let me settle for ordinary in anything. There was a rhythm which he always saw in everything, even in cacophony and chaos," she shared.

She then shared personal aspects of their hardship through the year, after Irrfan's diagnosis. "Funnily, our life was a masterclass in acting, so when the dramatic entry of the “uninvited guests” happened, I had by then learnt, to see harmony in the cacophony. The doctor’s reports were like scripts which I wanted to perfect, so I never miss any detail that he sought for in his performance."


Sutapa thanked the people who have stood by them as constant help, including Irrfan's doctors at several different hospitals, sharing how she looks at the last few years as "an interlude, which had its own beginning, middle and culmination with Irrfan helming the role of the orchestra conductor."

"I see my little family, in a boat, with both my sons Babil and Ayaan, paddling it forward, with Irrfan guiding them 'wahan nahi, yahan se modo (don't turn there, turn here)' but since life is not cinema and there are no retakes, I sincerely wish my children sail this boat safely with their father’s guidance in mind."


Irrfan's young sons, Babil and Ayaan also pitched in and shared what they would take away from their powerhouse of a father. "Learn to surrender to the dance of uncertainty and trust your faith in the universe," said Babil.

"Learn to control your mind and to not let it control you," shared Ayaan.

The family also plans to plant a raat ki rani (night-blooming jasmine) tree at his grave, since it was his favourite. "It takes time but it will bloom and the fragrance will spread and touch all the souls whom I won’t call them fans but family for years to come."

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