We cannot discriminate outrage and justice based on a prototype of our collective understanding. She is a ‘perfect victim,’ regardless. PHOTO: TWITTER/AMNESTY INTERNATIONAL SOUTH ASIA

'Perfect victim' or not, Asma Aziz is still a victim of her husband’s brutality and society’s mentality

Initially Asma ticked all boxes of being the 'perfect' victim for all of us who demanded justice for her.

Sabeer Lodhi April 03, 2019
We have all seen Asma Aziz’s bruised face and shaved head plastered across all media forums. With a croaked and defeated voice, she narrated the extent of the sexual violence and physical abuse inflicted on her by her husband, Faisal Aziz. She disclosed that he had stripped her naked and beaten her with steel pipes while the male house-help pinned her down in a grotesque display of violent voyeurism. She later implored for justice through social media.

And justice is what the nation demands, unequivocally, irrespective of class and gender.


A frail, subservient wife saved her honour and dignity when an intoxicated sinful husband inflicted sexual violence on her because she refused to dance in front of his inebriated male friends on his insistence. Initially, she fit the sati-savetri (devoted and pure woman) image of our society and ticked all boxes of being the perfect victim for all of us who demanded justice for her.

But the societal hypocrisy was soon visible when more details emerged.

TV channels started showing an old video of her dancing in a bus and TV hosts dug up details of her past, reporting that this was not her first marriage. Reporters, under the guise of ‘journalists,’ that have prime time programs on national TV started questioning her character and victim status. This was followed by similar opinions emerging in the public discourse.

She was no longer the ‘perfect victim’ and the urgent need to get her justice was questioned. Thus, the privilege of being seen as a ‘perfect victim’ was fickle – it was taken away as soon as it was granted.

The concept of ‘perfect victimhood’ was introduced by a Norwegian socialist and criminologist Nils Christie in 1986. Christie attributed certain characteristics of the perfect victim and said they ought to have enough agency to establish themselves as a victim but not be powerful enough to threaten other important interests.

In Asma’s case, her bruised, subservient demeanor begging for justice proved her minimal agency to the society.

She was the ideal victim.

But later videos, that showed her choice to exercise her individual autonomy by dancing, seemed to threaten the fragile moral diktats of patriarchy. She was now too bold for their liking. This is the perfect manifestation of the dichotomy Christie spoke of.

The established patriarchal order began questioning her character and intentions when she was perceived as a challenger to the stereotypical roles imposed by it. As always, the patriarchs do not want to allow the vulnerable victim her right to bodily autonomy because it disrupts the unwritten order of subservient women.

We also have other examples of this phenomenon. Mukhtara Mai was the perfect victim until she became a brave champion for other rape victims on an international level. Malala Yousafzai was a perfect victim until she started expanding and exercising her agency to speak of girl’s education and started getting national and international recognition.

We cannot discriminate outrage and justice based on a prototype of our collective understanding. She is a ‘perfect victim’, regardless.

Faisal is not abnormal or a lone evil. Faisal is a mere mirror to the society in general. He stripped off her clothes and punished her for not adhering to his demands, just as the patriarchal society stripped Asma off of her victim status and agency by questioning her character and intentions.

Asma is a ‘perfect victim’ irrespective of her choice to exercise her agency as a human being in whatever form she chooses.

Asma is a ‘perfect victim’ but she is also a strong survivor of her husband's brutality and society's mentality.
Sabeer Lodhi

The writer is a graduate of Monash University, Melbourne.  He is a perpetual student and supporter of human rights with a focus on gender equality, minority rights and post-colonialism. He tweets as https://twitter.com/sabeerlodhi">@sabeerlodhi.

The views expressed by the writer and the reader comments do not necassarily reflect the views and policies of the Express Tribune.


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