Na Kaho Tum Mere Nahin: Another drama serial for an unhappy wife

Our dramas are fueling pessimism; the wife is not always to blame for infidelity and shouldn't always sacrifice.

Sidrah Moiz March 22, 2013
Na Kaho Tum Mere Nahin (NKTMN) – a drama serial on Hum TV that aired its last episode in the beginning of March – was a clichéd story of marital infidelity and domestic problems.

The plot was straight forward – a husband and a wife and their two children live a peaceful life in a blissful house until they come under buri nazar ( the evil eye).

The story revolves around the happy couple Mehreen (Saba Qamar) and Meerab’s (Ahsan Khan) lives. Meerab earns a humble living and Mehreen tries her best to make do with his meager salary to maintain a happy home.



(Meerab and Mehreen.)

Then enters Meerab and Mehreen’s college friend, Maya, who is married to a dual-national multimillionaire. During their college days, Maya was infatuated by Meerab, but Meerab ended up proposing to Mehreen.

Maya’s husband, Arsalan Shah, whose gori wife left him for someone else, thinks only Pakistani women are sincere and worthy of getting married to.

However, Maya proves his hypothesis wrong by divorcing him and usurping a great share of his property.



(Maya, the third wheel in Meerab and Mehreen's life)

Maya persuades Mehreen to start working so she can earn a living and stop complaining about not living a luxurious life. Maya’s persuasion has an underlying intention – distancing Mehreen and Meerab.

Thus, the plot thickens and the typical innocent and unassuming heroine and the vicious villain emerge!

Eventually, Maya succeeds in doing so and Mehru and Meerab’s happy little home starts to fall apart.



(Mehreen, Meerab and Maya)

Apart from being clichéd, the storyline was extremely misogynistic.

Meerab blamed Mehreen, and construed that their marriage fell apart because of Mehreen’s work schedule that made her neglect her home!

Finally, when Meerab finds out that Maya had planned to estrange him from his wife, he refuses to marry her and goes back to Mehreen, who has to forgive him for his infidelity in order to save her distressed family.

Typical. The woman must always sacrifice.



(Meerab and his children.)

While it is understood that the target audience of such dramas are housewives, this alone doesn’t justify the stereotypical script.

And it’s not just NKTMN; every other drama has the same storyline – the wife destroys a happy family setup, as she chases her dreams.

I hate the fact that drama serials just capitalise on women’s emotions and their tendency to watch serials that they can relate to. This catharsis leads them to think all the more negatively about their lives.

Producers should realise that they’re fueling pessimism to women and slashing their confidence with the serials they produce.

I know so many women who cite examples from dramas, presuming the same would happen to them as well. My distant cousin’s wife, who came to stay at our house recently, cited NKTMN and said,
Dekho apne shohar ko ignore kerne se yehi hota hai. Ab chorrdya nah Meerab ne Mehreen ko?”

(This is what happens when you ignore your husband. Meerab left Mehreen, see?

This highlights the affects of such dramas on the psyche of women. Women are becoming more frightened, timid and easier to blame.

Very few dramas carry a positive message; one being Geo TV’s Mirat-ul-Uroos based on famed novelist  Nazir Ahmad Dehlvi's novel. It shows the resilience of a girl against dowry and depicts how destructive this practice can be for a marriage.

The Pakistani TV industry has grown substantially and such sub-standard dramas are no longer an expectation.

It’s time they improved their quality of dramas; we need creative scripts that carry a positive messages to uplift society and bring forth some sort of betterment and maturity in thinking.

Else, we are doomed to a future of the never-ending trend of unhappy wives.

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WRITTEN BY:
Sidrah Moiz
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COMMENTS (23)

maliha | 8 years ago | Reply Pakistani women have very low self esteem in general. Some of it is a result of social setups and a large part can be attributed to media. Dramas and films. Encourage women to be "super moms", super housewives and super "victims"! We grow up aspiring to be spitting images of the women we see being admired by our friends and families for being the "perfect wives". Implying of course that one has to be a "wife" to even think about being accepted as successful women in society.
Meem | 8 years ago | Reply I'm surprised to see that nobody has corrected you as yet on the blatant mistake you made towards the end of the blog - 'Mirat-ul-Uroos' is a piece of classic Urdu literature, written by Deputy Nazir Ahmed and not Umera Ahmed, as you have stated.
bushra.parekh | 8 years ago @Meem Thank you for pointing out the mistake. The error is regretted and has now been rectified. Thanks again Kind Regards, Bushra Parekh| Sub Editor | Blogs desk I The Express Tribune +922135803801 | @bushraparekh | blogs.tribune.com.pk
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