‘Social taboo’: Divorced for bearing third daughter

Published: November 11, 2013

Husband had wanted a son, parents refuse to take woman back. DESIGN: URSHELA RIAZ & ZAINAB LOTIA

FAISALABAD: A woman was divorced on Sunday shortly after she returned home after giving birth to a baby girl. This was her third daughter.

Ghulam Muhammadabad police said Tabassum Bibi, a resident of Usman Ghani Town, married Muhammad Aamir six years ago. She said her husband and refused to let her in saying he had wanted a son. She said some relatives had intervened and convinced him to let her return home.

She said when she got pregnant the third time, he had threatened to kill the child if it was a girl.

She said he had taken her to several pirs and asked them to give her amulets so that they would have a son.

She said on Sunday she was taken to a hospital in labour. She said he did not accompany her and was informed through phone that she had had a baby girl.

She said when she returned a few hours later, he divorced her on the gate and refused to let her in.

She said he told him to take the children with her. Tabassum Bibi said her parents had refused to take her back, and so she had shifted to her aunt’s house. She said she had no idea where she would go since she could not stay at her aunt’s house all her life.

Published in The Express Tribune, November 11th,2013.

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Reader Comments (15)

  • Faisal
    Nov 11, 2013 - 10:24AM

    Pray to Allah to help her and her children and guide her husband for his wrongdoings!

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  • Sodomite
    Nov 11, 2013 - 10:35AM

    The man may need to be sent to an education camp. Medically the problem lies with him and not his wife. Rightfully, she should divorce him for lacking X gene. But in the Land of the Pure all is humbug.

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  • Incredulous
    Nov 11, 2013 - 11:04AM

    @Sodomite:
    It’s technically the Y gene that he lacks… The Y gene is also sometimes referred to as the absence of the X chromosome whixh helps produce a boy. Regardless however, the ‘fault’ is there is any, lies with the man not the woman. After God, it is only the man who could produce a boy or a girl.

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  • Toba Alu
    Nov 11, 2013 - 11:29AM

    Typical example of a love marriage!

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  • Four
    Nov 11, 2013 - 12:27PM

    A child’s gender is determined by the male gamete! The husband should be blaming himself!

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  • Four
    Nov 11, 2013 - 1:50PM

    Correction: A child’s sex is determined by the male gamete. Gender is an individual’s socially constructed identity.

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  • Nida Khan
    Nov 11, 2013 - 3:47PM

    Hashtag for Muhammad Aamir: #IamMunawarHassanRecommend

  • Nobody
    Nov 11, 2013 - 3:57PM

    @Toba Alu:
    Huh??Recommend

  • Stranger
    Nov 11, 2013 - 4:14PM

    Thank the lord for small mercies. I am glad that he divorced her rather than forcing her to kill that third girl.

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  • Felix Charles Ginajil
    Nov 11, 2013 - 6:36PM

    In fact that man is the most kind one I’ve come across in this kind of situation. Most of the others men killed the wife/baby/both etc. I appreciate what this man did, he doesn’t want her, so just divorced her and told her to bring the baby along. Yes people of Pakistan, get civilized pls.

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  • Justice
    Nov 11, 2013 - 7:08PM

    The man should be castrated.

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  • A. Khan
    Nov 11, 2013 - 7:24PM

    Welcome to the land of the jahiliya.

    The desire for boys is cultural rooted in desire to continue the bloodline and also for inheritance purposes. Among the poor in society, having a boy essentially means a retirement and pension plan. Hence the social stigma attached with having girls and making the women feel guilty over it.

    Why is it that maulvis pontificating about global jihad and the threat to Islam from their pulpits never take up these social issues ? The main issues we have are : violence against women (includes subject of this article, karo kari, rape, murder, acid throwing etc.). These issues hurt Islam more than any other.

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  • Insaan
    Nov 12, 2013 - 12:02AM

    @Incredulous: ” It’s technically the Y gene that he lacks… The Y gene is also sometimes referred to as the absence of the X chromosome whixh helps produce a boy. Regardless however, the ‘fault’ is there is any, lies with the man not the woman.”

    Men have X and Y chromosomes. Only X or Y sperm can be there in a sperm. If sperm contains Y Chromosome, union of ovum and sperm results in a boy. If sperm contains X Chromosome result is a girl. An ovum (egg) always contains X Chromosome.

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  • Insaan
    Nov 12, 2013 - 12:08AM

    @Sodomite: Man is not lacking any genes. Some sperms carry Y Chromosome and others carry X Chromosome. Millions of sperms are released in one ejaculation. If sperm carrying Y Chromosome wins the race and enters the egg, a boy is born.

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  • AbdulQueefer
    Nov 12, 2013 - 3:09AM

    India is even worse, I think, supposedly, thereof and moreover, or something, which makes this all ok etc.

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