Woman arrested for marrying two men

By PPI
Published: January 24, 2011

Farzana is accused of marrying without divorcing her first husband.

SIALKOT: Daska City Police have arrested a married woman Farzana alias ‘Faiza’ for contracting a second marriage without getting a divorce from her first husband.

According to the police, Gujranwala resident Farzana got married to Daska resident Humayun 12 years ago. Farzana has four children from her marriage but later developed relations with her neighbour Muhammad Latif and ran away with him. “Farzana admitted that she left her husband and ran away with Latif and they both got married,” Gujranwala Superintendent Police Sultan Kareem said. Farzana told the police that her first marriage had been contracted against her wishes and that her parents had forced her into the union.

Police officials said that Farzana fled her husband’s house a few months ago and started living in Sialkot city with Muhammad Latif. “They did get married but the marriage was illegal as she has not gotten a divorce from Humayun,” the police said. Police officials have registered a case against the accused Farzana, her second husband Muhammad Latif and his parents.
Police officials said that they had taken the accused into custody and had registered cases against them after Humayun filed an FIR in this regard. Further investigations are underway and police are searching for the cleric and registrar involved in conducting the marriage.

Published in The Express Tribune, January 24th, 2011.

Reader Comments (29)

  • Sarah Q
    Jan 24, 2011 - 12:16PM

    After 12 years of marriage, she decided to run away with a neighbor and actually had the audacity to ‘marry’, illegally! What will become of our society?Recommend

  • parvez
    Jan 24, 2011 - 12:40PM

    Men do this sort of thing all the time and it’s not news worthy. A woman does this and it becomes news ?Recommend

  • Waris
    Jan 24, 2011 - 1:23PM

    She didn’t just decide run away with her neighbor…

    People, this kind of news is horrible because it omits several details and causes us to jump to conclusions.

    How old are the people involved? How long did she know the neighbor? The woman says she was forced into her first marriage, which meant she was unhappy from day one.Was she abused?.

    I, as a pakistani male, abhor the fact that women are still subservient in our country. Why are men allowed several wives?

    Sure it’s one thing to run off with a lover, bu we don’t know the details and hence shouldn’t rush to judgement. Based on our own previous history, I will speculate this was another forced marriage of a girl against her wishes to a much older male who didn’t treat her with live and respect and the neighbor gave her what the husband couldn’t?Recommend

  • Aftab Kenneth Wilson
    Jan 24, 2011 - 1:48PM

    I have heard so many times that “Islam Gives Equal Rights To Women more than Others” so why they are also not allowed to marry four men of her choice???? Can anyone stand up and clear my confusion????Recommend

  • a j
    Jan 24, 2011 - 2:04PM

    Two things are very clear.
    1. She is a good athlete and can run away any time.
    2. She has done what men had been doing for centuries.
    3. Weldone keep up the good workRecommend

  • taimoor
    Jan 24, 2011 - 2:30PM

    hahahahhahaha!
    imagine a woman who was married wid sum1 for 12 years runnin!
    omg thats really funny!
    nyways pervez man is allowed to hav 2 spouses at same time buh the woman isnt allowed to do so!Recommend

  • merium azmi
    Jan 24, 2011 - 2:55PM

    Being a Muslim Pakistani women is such a curse…god knows how the idoit police guys are treating her, at least like most women who blame their life on destiny she did some thing about it. I see Veena Malik in her, i really hope one day women in Pakistan start taking matters in their hands and just stop caring about the society.Recommend

  • Yousuf
    Jan 24, 2011 - 3:21PM

    LOL! It took her 12 years to realize that she was unhappy with her (first) husband.
    She says she was unhappy? An an unhappy woman having 4 children, gimme a break.Recommend

  • Mr Maker!!
    Jan 24, 2011 - 3:40PM

    Although Islam doesnt allow a woman to have more than one husband at a time, it does give her the right to get a divorce if she is unhappy. Neither parents nor the husband are allowed to force her into something she doesnt want. But sadly these rights are conveniently ignored in our society.
    This particular woman may have found herself in a totally helpless situation so she did what she did.
    Having said that, walking out on your children is something that is wrong not just by religious but moral standards as well! It is really strange that no one has found this aspect comment worthy although many of you are quick to give judgements on this case.
    It’s the children who are the victims here.
    Recommend

  • Nomi
    Jan 24, 2011 - 4:12PM

    Now the explanation of your “INGENIOUS:” question…
    why women is not allowed to have more than one husband?

    Basic Logic…How a child can identify his father if her mother has more than one husband? Every father wants children so this means that the women will do nothing but to produce children..(I heard the chanting..where are women rights)
    Now read more: http://www.islamtomorrow.com/articles/marry4women_too.htm

    Hope you guys understand now :)Recommend

  • Ali
    Jan 24, 2011 - 5:05PM

    If men can have four wives why cant women have four husbands? Afterall times have changed, economically, technologically and socially… women are equal to men… Recommend

  • Sara
    Jan 24, 2011 - 5:23PM

    @ Aftab Kenneth Wilson:

    I would like to give proper expalnation to your answer. But first answer one of my questions. Medically a healthy man can father children with more than one wives at a time. Lets say four wives. Can you find a woman do so, i.e., who can give birth to more than one children to two persons at a same time? The Answer is simple, a women cannot fullfill rights of more than one husband. While a man can.

    Talking about dragging religion in this conversation, why man and women are not allowed under Christianity to get divorce. Correct me if I am wrong, under Christianity men & women are not allowed to divorce, remarry. I am not talking about what actually happens- i am talking about religious beliefs.Recommend

  • anonymous
    Jan 24, 2011 - 5:39PM

    @aftab: well its cuz men are suppsoed to financially support their wives and they re supsoed to marry more than one woman only if they can support more than one wife..
    in the olden days, a lot of men died fighting wars so one man had more than one wife to give support to the women whose husbands had died..
    and fyi if the woman has 4 husbands..u wudnt even know whose kid it is..so the idea of ancestry or familial heritage would get screwed pretty bad..Recommend

  • taimoor
    Jan 24, 2011 - 6:27PM

    some people above are talking quite childish!Recommend

  • G.Din
    Jan 24, 2011 - 6:50PM

    @anonymous
    “in the olden days, a lot of men died fighting wars so one man had more than one wife to give support to the women whose husbands had died..’
    The “olden days” are long past but the happy license to marry up to four wives continues! How very convenient! Of course, that “Islamic law” will not change as long as the Muslim male continues his bullying and despotism, isn’t it? Come to think of it, may be that is why current state of terrorism was invented to send more men to wars or to be blown up so that there would be an abundant supply of wives for the rest!!!!

    “…and fyi if the woman has 4 husbands..u wudnt even know whose kid it is..so the idea of ancestry or familial heritage would get screwed pretty bad.”
    Are you sure that even if the mother did not remarry, the kid she brings forth is necessarily of the man she is married to? Now, of course, we have the DNA test to establish paternity. In “the olden days” there was no such test available except the fear of being stoned to death. All of us know “Love knoweth no fear”, then or now! Recommend

  • YASIR
    Jan 24, 2011 - 7:44PM

    An unhappy woman having 4 children,,(LOLZ)
    She is a good athlete and can run away any time after 12 years. Recommend

  • karachiite
    Jan 24, 2011 - 9:00PM

    @ Aftab Kenneth William the reason is that the father of the child is responsible for his/her (and the woman’s) upbringing. If women are allowed polygamous how would you know whose child it is .. the so called equality in this particular section of life would result in catastrophes and broken homes .. I would not comment on this news btw because this is her personal matter between herself and God I cannot judge

    p.s : Watch Maury Povich show (Maury) and you will know where I am coming from Recommend

  • Jan 24, 2011 - 11:54PM

    With that easy divorce/khulla option , I don’t get this ‘running away’ or extra martial affair thing in our society.

    P.S. What’s with the bangles in the picture? Recommend

  • Ali
    Jan 25, 2011 - 12:39AM

    @parvez: Well it’s not a news if a dog bites a man, but it definitely is a news when a man bites a dog.Recommend

  • Qanit Zafar
    Jan 25, 2011 - 1:43AM

    For those of you who insist on pointing out that Women are equal to Men and that Islam doesn’t give women equal rights; I want you to stop thinking from inside this constrained box of modernization that is promoted by the media and western cultures in our global society these days.

    Consider the following scenarios: A 10 year old boy does not have the same rights as a 30 year old man; neither does a 30 year old man have the same rights as an 80 year old man. They are all men are they not? Yet they have different rights both in society and in religion. When it is stated that every one has equal rights, we should not forget the context. What is implied is that every person in the same relative physical and mental state has equal rights. (i.e. Two 20 year old males who are perfectly normal have equal rights. However a 20 year old man with say downs syndrome does not have the same rights a regular 20 year old male.)

    Your question as to why a man is allowed to marry 4 wifes and not vice versa is analogous to asking why one pair of parents can have many children but one child can not have more than one pair of parents. This is because the child is different from his/her parents and has different rights. As an example if a child steals he will not go to jail. However if a parent steals they are most likely to end up in jail.

    Similarly a Woman has different rights than a Man. In certain instances the woman has more rights and in some the man does. Men and Women are physically, mentally, emotionally and in other ways different in every aspect and hence have different rights. Our creator knows best as to who should be given what rights. Almost every species have a male and a female each of which are as beautifully different as they are similar.

    So instead of being brainwashed by this feminist propaganda and start doubting our values we should first question our own questions from an unbiased perspective. Islam never said that Men and Women have the same rights. And any religion or cultural society that claims such, is flawed in itself. Islam equalized the ‘different’ rights of men and women but never gave them equal (same) rights!

    For any system to be in perfect harmony, every ‘give’ has a ‘take’; or in other words ‘for every action there is an equal and opposite reaction’ (philosophically speaking). Incorporate this basic idea in human society; between Men and Women. If everyone wants to ‘give’ then who will ‘take’? – and vice versa. Therefore there needs to be a balance in what actions every individual is entitled to. And the One who knows that balance best is our Creator!

    WaAllahhuA’lam! Recommend

  • Guest41
    Jan 25, 2011 - 2:38AM

    @Sara : good one!

    @Aftab Kenneth : Dont bring religion here dude, its the society and culture, Had it been truly islamic one, there wouldnt be any forced marriage let alone runaway. Dont malign religion on the base of what happend here? Islam gives power to women to choose their partner. Read islam dont make it contextual to the news. And btw what if the women in question is Christian?

    @perve: comon get over your lberal thing manRecommend

  • Aftab Kenneth Wilson
    Jan 25, 2011 - 8:50AM

    @Sara:Ans to your first question: Health is not an excuse for women not to get married with four persons at a time. Times have changed and now women are more sound both health wise and economically. In so many cases she can buy a house with several rooms and can feed her male partners without bothering them to go out to sniff here and there. Through DNA test she and he (both can know whom this kid belongs to at the time of birth). As far as from Christianity point of view women can get divorce the very next day if she proves to the archbishop that the person whom I got married is not medically fit for which a proper test will be conducted and if found true the marriage will be declared null and void and she can get married to someone else (these are called Cannon Laws which are sanctioned and accepted by all denominations). Yes if both are fit and cannot still get together then both are guilty on one pretext or the other and as such are given ample time to sort out their problems for the sake of Kids and not lust for more women or men. My point was only on “More Equal Rights than Others” which we daily hear in and out every where. I hope it is clear now. This is the reason that Christians are told to practice FORGIVE and FORGIVENESS because life is not about lust and greed .Recommend

  • Aftab Kenneth Wilson
    Jan 25, 2011 - 8:59AM

    @karachiite: I have given a proper and sincere reply to similar kind of questions and views thrown at me by some in this story of women having two husbands. Please move your eyes towards my answer to @Sara’s questions and apprehensions.Recommend

  • Maria
    Jan 25, 2011 - 10:08AM

    Why is it so bad for a woman to leave an unhappy marriage even after 12 years. We don’t know all the details but I salute her for having the guts to say good bye to a fellow ho was most likely a loser! She has her own life to live and let them be happy!Recommend

  • Tyrone
    Jan 25, 2011 - 10:22AM

    Hmm I’ve heard a lot of explanations for why a man can have more than one wife based on a variety of reasons ranging from a man can’t be satisfied by one woman etc.

    However in more rational discussions emphasis was placed on the need for the wife to agree to allow the man to remarry. In our country how many people practise this safeguard?
    Methinks its time Pakistan implements a no more than one wife rule like Tunisia also in Algeria and Egypt polygamy is made tough to carry out.

    http://i-cias.com/e.o/polygamy.htm

    ( Don’t take this site as 100%) but interesting safeguard of the woman in Palestine. Also Christians in Sudan are practising polygamy.

    Here’s another site with interesting points: http://www.law.emory.edu/ifl/region/northafrica.htmlRecommend

  • anonymous
    Jan 25, 2011 - 10:50AM

    @ G Din..why dont you find out the ratio of men to women and get bak to me on this hmm?
    and really..you can’t generalize and say that every other woman who does not re marry might hav an illicit affair..thts being simplistic..
    and ure living in Pakistan..how many people get DNA tests done to prove that the kid is theirs?Recommend

  • hamza shoaib ahmed
    Jan 25, 2011 - 11:44AM

    @ Qanit Zafar. Excellent comment.Recommend

  • hamza shoaib ahmed
    Jan 25, 2011 - 11:46AM

    Impressed from your comment. Nice.@Qanit Zafar: Recommend

  • Fariya
    Jan 25, 2011 - 3:27PM

    @Qanit Zafar. You are clearly wish the Tribune would publish your work. Dude, it asks for a Comment, not an Essay.

    Second, most Muslims believe that on the day of judgement, you will be called by your Mother’s name. Not your Father’s. So that nullifies any argument about “women should only have one husband so we can know who the father is”. If you’re not going to get a DNA test, you can never be 100% sure who the father is (technically, all you know is that you slept with your wife, and then a baby came out. You have no way of knowing what happened in between that time), and even if you are, who cares, because on the single most important event of your life (afterlife?) you’ll be called by your mother’s name anyways.

    Last, E. Trib has been absolutely biased in this coverage. I agree with parvez that if a man had married a second time w/o asking the first’s permission (which is also Islamically illegal), it wouldn’t have been a story.Recommend

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