Zarb-e-Azb operation spoils fourth wife dream of father-of-36

By AFP
Published: July 17, 2014
Email
In this photograph taken on July 11, 2014, internally-displaced Pakistani resident Haji Gulzar Khan Wazir (6L), who fled with his family following a military operation against militants in the North Waziristan tribal agency, poses for a photograph with some his children in Bannu. PHOTO: AFP

In this photograph taken on July 11, 2014, internally-displaced Pakistani resident Haji Gulzar Khan Wazir (6L), who fled with his family following a military operation against militants in the North Waziristan tribal agency, poses for a photograph with some his children in Bannu. PHOTO: AFP

BANNU: The ongoing military operation in North Waziristan may be making headway in clearing militant hideouts, but it has shattered the dream of one father of 36 children –  to take a fourth wife.

Gulzar Khan is one of hundreds of thousands of people who have fled the North Waziristan tribal area since the army moved in to clear longstanding bases of Taliban and other militants.

Escaping the military advance meant leaving the 35-room house he shares in the North Waziristan village of Shawa with around 100 family members, including wives, children and grandchildren.

The 54-year-old grumbled that paying to transport his brood used up the cash he had set aside for his fourth marriage.

“The money I had saved was consumed in relocating my family from Shawa to Bannu and now I have again started saving and waiting for the operation to conclude,” he told AFP.

Islamic law permits men to take up to four wives and in Pakistan’s deeply conservative northwest, large families are the norm.

But after giving birth to a dozen children each, Khan said, his wives had told him enough was enough.

“I was planning to have a fourth marriage because now my wives have boycotted me and told me ‘no more children’,” Khan said.

“They do not allow me to go near them, but I have desires I want to fulfil.”

Khan was 17 years old when he married his 14-year-old cousin in Shawa. They had eight daughters and four sons, but after eight years, the amorous tribesman got married again, to a 17-year-old.

“I was not satisfied and needed more of it – I mean the love-making,” Khan told AFP at his 17-room house in the northwestern town of Bannu, where the bulk of people displaced by the military operation have taken refuge.

“I do not indulge in adultery and sinful acts so I satisfy my natural desires lawfully by marriage,” said Khan, who worked as a taxi driver in Dubai from 1976 to 1992.

Khan’s third wedding came when he married his brother’s widow when he was killed in a dispute just a month after tying the knot himself.

Two of his sons now work as drivers in Dubai and the money they send home helps support the extended family, along with income from Khan’s farmland in Bannu and Shawa.

“My sons send up to 50,000 rupees every month from Dubai and we make ends meet with this money,” Khan added.

He said there were no disputes between his three wives, all living under the same roof, but he admitted he struggled to remember who was who’s mother.

“I can tell you that he or she is my child, but I cannot tell with all of them who is his or her mother,” Khan said.

As tribal custom forbids women from speaking to men outside their family, AFP’s reporter was unable to seek the views of Khan’s wives on the matter.

Khan said he had no problem feeding and clothing his family, but with so many people around, there was little privacy.

“Often there are two to three kids lying around me when I go to sleep, so it’s difficult to have a private moment with my wives,” Khan said.

Asked if he used any drugs like Viagra to perform, Khan said that he never felt the need.

“I had a heart attack 12 years ago and also have an ulcer, and my doctor had advised me to stay happy,” Khan told AFP.

“I am happy only when I perform my conjugal rights.”

Pakistan’s 180 million-strong population is growing by more than two percent a year, according to the United Nations Population Fund, which said in late 2012 that a third of Pakistanis have no access to birth control.

Some observers have warned that unless more is done to slow the growth, the country’s natural resources – particularly water – will not be enough to support the population.

But Khan’s 14-year-old son Ghufran has no such fears.

“God willing I will also have several marriages and produce even more kids than my father,” he told AFP.

Facebook Conversations

Reader Comments (65)

  • Chachoo
    Jul 17, 2014 - 11:18AM

    So the above guy is worried about his fourth Wife but not about the future of his children?. Also the guys like him are responsible for the massive population explosion of Pakistan and that is dangerous as now limited agriculture lands will feed more people and ultimately we will reach the breaking point.

    The government must tax the couples like these who are becoming a burden on the whole of Pakistan. Government have to provide education facilities, healthcare and other amenities in the future and they cannot do it alone. Tax these Children factories so they will stop producing. There must be a difference in a Civilized Humanity and the Animal Kingdom.

    Recommend

  • Abid
    Jul 17, 2014 - 11:29AM

    I demand Sitara-e-Jurrat for his 3 wives

    Recommend

  • Buddah Khoonsat
    Jul 17, 2014 - 11:37AM

    This guy should be jailed. Period.

    Recommend

  • Khan
    Jul 17, 2014 - 11:40AM

    @Chachoo
    Well said. Those who can’t afford must be taxed for extra children over a specific threshold.
    But in this case the guy is affording all his children? If he wants he can send them to free government schools and universities as well. Usually affordability is not an issue in small towns but yes in cities you can’t have this much children.

    Recommend

  • Sandy
    Jul 17, 2014 - 11:41AM

    U guys copy from hindustan times ?
    This appeared there 30 mnts before u published.. :-0

    Here is the link,
    http://www.hindustantimes.com/world-news/conjugally-happy-father-of-36-and-husband-of-three-says-he-still-has-desires-to-fulfil/article1-1241285.aspxRecommend

  • Genius
    Jul 17, 2014 - 11:45AM

    Allah has warned us all about His dislike of those who have a lust for having lots of wealth and lots children.
    This man is creating trouble for the children and their children he is producing.
    His wives should get medical help to deprive this totally irresponsible person from behaving irresponsibly. Can some concerned women not help his stressed and overworked wives?

    Recommend

  • Mohsin Haider
    Jul 17, 2014 - 11:50AM

    I dont know whether to laugh or be ashamed. Its a pity that the public in general has to bear the brunt of the ultra-sexual desires of monstors like these. In order to limit the population explosion Pakistan is facing, a law of a maximum of 5 children has be made, kind of what China has come up with.Recommend

  • Mohsin
    Jul 17, 2014 - 11:53AM

    Pathetic & disgusting article. Shame on Tribune. You published an article on a sexual desire of an old man. Claps.

    Recommend

  • Shariq
    Jul 17, 2014 - 11:56AM

    Somebody introduce him to condoms please.

    Recommend

  • Shariq
    Jul 17, 2014 - 12:00PM

    The government (or some NGO) should offer him vasectomy for free. He’d still be able to make all the love he wants – he’d just be shooting blanks. Everyone’s happy.

    Recommend

  • huma
    Jul 17, 2014 - 12:08PM

    The story of Pakistan, Being Selfish rather than worry about the society as a whole.

    Recommend

  • Mr A
    Jul 17, 2014 - 12:10PM

    Gud dear

    Recommend

  • A concerned citizen
    Jul 17, 2014 - 12:15PM

    This is just SICK !!

    Recommend

  • RM
    Jul 17, 2014 - 12:17PM

    The two sons who send him money from Dubai, are they married. They must be over 18 to have a drivers license. If they are married, who bears their family’s expenses. Is it not very selfish of the father to care about his own desires?

    Recommend

  • ZH
    Jul 17, 2014 - 12:21PM

    @Abid:

    But I suggest Nishan-e-Imtiaaz

    Recommend

  • Anon
    Jul 17, 2014 - 12:23PM

    The wives should drug him and get vasectomy done on him

    Recommend

  • Ghulam e Mustafa
    Jul 17, 2014 - 1:00PM

    It is only Allah who gives Rizq (Subsistence). Its the livelihood. No one should worry about subsistence. And what this guy is doing, is halal. Unlike other people mostly in urban cities who keep on enjoying having illicit relationship with other women, and their families do not know about their sinful acts. Those are the people, whose wife gives up.

    Recommend

  • Ahmed Ali
    Jul 17, 2014 - 1:05PM

    This story should have been printed after Ramadan!

    Recommend

  • Zubair
    Jul 17, 2014 - 1:11PM

    @Sandy:
    This story origionaly belongs to AFP…not to your Hindustan Times :)

    Recommend

  • Stealth
    Jul 17, 2014 - 1:24PM

    This is nothing, again India beats the tribal elder hands down. An Indian in Mizoram, has the world record of 39 wives and 33 grandchildren, with a family of 167 people.
    The family, all 167 of them, consumes around 200lb of rice and more than 130lb of potatoes a day. They are supported by their own resources and occasional donations from followers.
    “Even today, I am ready to expand my family and willing to go to any extent to marry,” Ziona said.

    http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/worldnews/asia/india/8340679/Indian-man-with-39-wives-94-children-and-33-grandchildren.html

    Recommend

  • RZ
    Jul 17, 2014 - 1:29PM

    On the one hand the media is trying to depict poverty, inequality and dire living conditions. And this on the other hand is a legacy of living large, in abundance and without limits.

    An entire writeup was dedicated to a man who has most of his desires (not needs) fulfilled – this man being a ‘victim’ of the operation.

    How can I even begin to sympathize with him given the fate of the other victims?

    Also, has Tribune got nothing better to do these days? Has the team lost it?

    Recommend

  • Ahmed
    Jul 17, 2014 - 2:00PM

    @Ghulam e Mustafa:
    Yes, you may eat grass and live. You may even survive on insects.

    BUT what about education? Health? access to clean food? Transportation? Accommodation? Having 36 kids will just shrink your budget. Even Allah does not say do anything BLINDLY but first understand the economics of your decisions and first try your own hand and only then leave it on me.

    Use your brain! Don’t just literally follow the guidelines provided to us which are meant to be interpreted. Brain is also given by Allah, not using it is also a sin!

    Recommend

  • ehtesham
    Jul 17, 2014 - 2:27PM

    @Sandy: This is a story by AFP if you see on top, which for your information is a global news agency.

    Recommend

  • Reddy
    Jul 17, 2014 - 2:44PM

    36..!!! …what is he..? wending machine

    Recommend

  • Sara
    Jul 17, 2014 - 3:03PM

    Is he on avocado diet :| ?

    Recommend

  • Malveros
    Jul 17, 2014 - 3:21PM

    Where is my previous Cowasjee Comment ?

    Recommend

  • wisdom
    Jul 17, 2014 - 3:31PM

    this guy and people like him are the reason for such miserable conditions of this Godforsaken country… Overpopulation is the cause behind almost every problem being faced by the country like unemployment, load-shedding, education, health and the list goes on… This guy should cease to exist

    Recommend

  • WT...?
    Jul 17, 2014 - 3:35PM

    This man could be from 1000AD. In another 100 years, Pak population could overtake India’s.

    Recommend

  • Random
    Jul 17, 2014 - 3:56PM

    So many keyboard warriors here, blaming the old chap for all the mess that we as a nation find our selves from Load shedding to poor economy. Relax – live and let live and stop judging others a little bit less..

    Recommend

  • Reader
    Jul 17, 2014 - 4:26PM

    Relax guys. At least he his honest and by the way he has not done anything illegal at all. If he want many wife and many kids so be it.

    Recommend

  • Yousuf Abdullah
    Jul 17, 2014 - 4:51PM

    @Stealth:
    It’s surprising how you’re taking pride in this. You may be right about that Indian family but it’s more of a disgrace then something to boast about. People like these are a burden on our society as a whole and need to be stopped.

    Recommend

  • Faraz
    Jul 17, 2014 - 6:49PM

    @Mohsin:
    Would you prefer an article detailing the desires of young men ?

    Recommend

  • critic
    Jul 17, 2014 - 7:08PM

    the story appeared TV channels some two weeks back. The AFP copied it from the Urdu TV channels

    Recommend

  • nadeem ansari
    Jul 17, 2014 - 7:48PM

    He is living the very principles of faith , in all purity . He is holding mirror to what we take for holy. We get variations of the same in many houses in Pakistan.

    Recommend

  • Moiz Omar
    Jul 17, 2014 - 8:28PM

    People should not be allowed to have so many children!!

    Recommend

  • KM
    Jul 17, 2014 - 8:29PM

    I’m completely appalled at his mentality – where he obviously only sees his wife as a baby making vending machine whom he can “make love to” and be happy. umm.. yeah, what about companionship, relationships of equality, trust, values? all that is obviously lost on him. I mean c’mon…he doesn’t even know which kid has which mother…so obviously, his view of marriage and family all boils down to one thing. Terrible.

    Recommend

  • KM
    Jul 17, 2014 - 8:31PM

    @nadeem ansari:
    Oh please. what principles of faith are you speaking of? God spare me from such a faith where I only view a woman as a baby vending machine, am completely oblivious to the childrens’ future, and only live to satisfy my carnal needs.

    Recommend

  • Patriot. N
    Jul 17, 2014 - 8:44PM

    I think it is better to have more children than the ‘Rape’ culture prevalent in this part of the world, in India and Pakistan. And it is better to have more children than the illicit relationships, extra marital affairs, divorces, girls being unmarried, widows, satti culture and it actually helps in the social fabric.
    And these are just one in a million cases in Pakistan, the population growth rate has slumped to an all time low of 1.7 percent in Pakistan, In India it is 1.3 percent.

    http://www.tradingeconomics.com/pakistan/population-growth-annual-percent-wb-data.html

    Recommend

  • Farhan
    Jul 17, 2014 - 8:56PM

    Pakistan’s very own Wallder Frey

    Recommend

  • Avtar
    Jul 17, 2014 - 9:07PM

    My sympathies for this man for delay in his fourth wedding. Along with a polio shot the govt. should perform vasectomy on this man. The emphasis seems to be on producing the brood, not on quality of life he provides to his offspring.

    Recommend

  • Jul 17, 2014 - 9:47PM

    instead of reporting on the tragic nature of this situation and the loss of human life, ET wants people to be entertained, it is shameful to see journalism at this low standard

    Recommend

  • chandan
    Jul 17, 2014 - 10:33PM

    Shame to all of the above commentators who mostly have blamed this person for all the wrong doings in Pakistan.at least this man is not a lier like many of our so called elite …..well ..this is basically his most private and personal matter and nobody has a right to speak against Islamic laws…he has not done against even our country laws….so cool down please

    Recommend

  • Fakhir
    Jul 17, 2014 - 11:24PM

    One word. MashAllah.

    Recommend

  • Reddy
    Jul 17, 2014 - 11:38PM

    Parents who can not afford a quality life have no moral right to produce babies.

    Recommend

  • Talha
    Jul 18, 2014 - 12:26AM

    Now funny thing is that he can remember his children but finds difficulty in associating them with mothers.

    Buck-up, I hope he is able to provide for education as well.

    No more marriage and children for you.

    Recommend

  • Talha
    Jul 18, 2014 - 12:35AM

    I read the comments, you know agree with most that he should be ashamed, restriction on kids, more marriages, media showing urge of old man, it’s a burden on economy, though least its Hilal, God is the one who provides, least he is not committing adultery, population explosion then what is right and what is wrong. Funny

    Recommend

  • Raj - USA
    Jul 18, 2014 - 2:23AM

    @ali:
    “instead of reporting on the tragic nature of this situation and the loss of human life, ET wants people to be entertained, it is shameful to see journalism at this low standard”

    No. ET is showing the value of life these types have in their hearts and souls. Each woman produces a dozen babies. He struggles to remember who is the mother of which child.
    To top it, his 14-year-old son Ghufran says:
    “God willing I will also have several marriages and produce even more kids than my father.”

    When procreation is the only recreation, there is no value for life. He would not care if any of his children die or become suicide bomber. The children also know that their lives have no value to anyone, even their father.

    Recommend

  • T Khan
    Jul 18, 2014 - 5:55AM

    @Chachoo:
    Government is providing what??? and will provide what??? Which government are we talking about here???

    The story in itself is of a rather strange guy, who technically is not doing anything wrong, religiously or socially, but don’t mix it up with the things those kids have to be provided by the government. He earned his livelihood in Dubai and now his sons are doing the same and may be more of them will as they grow up. They are sending in foreign exchange bu the government is not doing anything for them… by building any grand schools or hospitals or anything. They don’t have time to these things and r too busy looting.
    Yeah… US government is sending in a lot of USAID stuff for him and his kids right now :D

    Recommend

  • Mir
    Jul 18, 2014 - 6:01AM

    A Moulana’s wife was expecting a baby, so the Moulana stood before the Jamaat and asked for a raise.

    After much discussion, they passed a rule that whenever the Moulana’s family expanded; so would his paycheck.

    After 6 children, this started to get expensive and the Jamaat decided to hold another meeting to discuss the Moulana’s expanding salary.
    A great deal of yelling and inner bickering ensued, as to how much the Moulana’s additional children were costing the Jamaat, and how much more it could potentially cost.

    After listening to them for about an hour, the Moulana rose from his chair and spoke,
    “Children are a gift from Allah, and we will take as many gifts as He gives us.” Silence fell over the jamaat.

    In the back seat, a little old man struggled to stand, and finally said in his frail voice…

    “Rain is also a gift from Allah, but when we get too much of it, we use raincoats.”
    The entire jamaat said, “Aameen!”
    .

    Recommend

  • Hammad Mian
    Jul 18, 2014 - 8:35AM

    That is his private matter. At least he is not a corrupt person and not producing illigetemate children.

    Recommend

  • Dr.A.K.Tewari
    Jul 18, 2014 - 9:37AM

    Such Muslims are preparering BIO BOMB to counter the dominance of civilizes society through expanding their population . Israeil is eliminating them like insect but we have to device a civilized approach to deal with the issue . So far the world community seems to be silent and has given full freedom to these culprits of nature but now it’s enough .

    Recommend

  • Ghulam Khan
    Jul 18, 2014 - 5:58PM

    I work hard to provide for my children. People like this man whose only desire is to satisfy his selfish lust is the reason this country is drowning. Lord save us from these low intelligent people spreading their genes.

    Recommend

  • Hammad Mian
    Jul 18, 2014 - 6:39PM

    @Dr.A.K.Tewari: First look at your country before criticizing Muslim society.

    Indian man with 39 wives, 94 children and 33 grandchildren

    http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/worldnews/asia/india/8340679/Indian-man-with-39-wives-94-children-and-33-grandchildren.html

    Recommend

  • Udaya Bose
    Jul 18, 2014 - 7:28PM

    But he is only being a devout Muslim who fears only Allah.

    Recommend

  • Raza
    Jul 19, 2014 - 12:44AM

    No wonder global overpopulation is such a serious issue. The man may not be doing anything illegal from a religious perspective; but such rampant birth rates will lead to scarcity of resources fairly quickly. We’re already seeing that with power, water and certain foodstuffs; and it will only get worse as more time goes by. The only solutions are widespread education, which the politicians don’t want/care about; and mandatory birth control (as in the Chinese model), which the religious elements will never allow. Can’t even see the nonprofit private sector making an impact here. So in short, no hope.

    Recommend

  • Javed Asghar Kaazmi
    Jul 19, 2014 - 6:12AM

    I fully agreed with Gulam e Mustafa,s comment :
    It is only Allah who gives Rizq (Subsistence). Its the livelihood. No one should worry about subsistence. And what this guy is doing, is halal. Unlike other people mostly in urban cities who keep on enjoying having illicit relationship with other women, and their families do not know about their sinful acts. Those are the people, whose wife gives up…….|

    Recommend

  • Javed Asghar Kaazmi
    Jul 19, 2014 - 6:17AM

    I fully agree with Gulam e Mustafa,s comment:

    It is only Allah who gives Rizq (Subsistence). Its the livelihood. No one should worry about subsistence. And what this guy is doing, is halal. Unlike other people mostly in urban cities who keep on enjoying having illicit relationship with other women, and their families do not know about their sinful acts. Those are the people, whose wife gives up.

    Recommend

  • Imran
    Jul 19, 2014 - 9:47AM

    It is not a bad thing

    Recommend

  • Jul 19, 2014 - 10:14AM

    @Udaya Bose
    He fears from wives too, they said NO, and he accepted !

    Recommend

  • Jul 19, 2014 - 10:18AM

    and who pay money to handle them ? his hard working son and poor tax payers ?

    Recommend

  • Prognosticator
    Jul 19, 2014 - 2:07PM

    Stop this cruelty in the name Zarb-e-Gazab !! The poor man wants to be a productive Pakistani citizen. Though his productivity is of the highest calibre, he is still not satisfied. It is time Pakistanis followed in the footsteps of this hardworking man and showed the world what a single, determined man can do in his lifetime.

    Recommend

  • Jul 19, 2014 - 6:51PM

    The man is legitimately marrying ladies and owning the upbringing responsibilty in a stern way. How many illicit relations lead to the emergence of street children borne as a result of debauchery by men and women in the West. Tell me which process is humanistic in nature and which one is animalistic. More often than not, many people turn deaf ear to the clarion call. this man has shown the right path to the humanity as for as fulfillment of sexual desire by men is concerned.

    Recommend

  • usman khan
    Jul 19, 2014 - 7:21PM

    @huma:
    the people only think about there greed they dont how to behave in society

    Recommend

  • Ahsan Hussain
    Jul 21, 2014 - 7:53PM

    Your are true,

    but you ever imagine the life of thousands whos family member are gone / disable for whole life?

    Recommend

  • Moiz Omar
    Jul 22, 2014 - 9:57PM

    People should not be allowed to have this many children because it produces demand faster then the country can supply.

    Recommend

More in K-P