The life of a working woman

Published: September 24, 2010
The writer hosts “Kal Tak” on Express News

The writer hosts “Kal Tak” on Express News

She had been calling for the last two days. She said that she had come from Karachi just to see me and that the meeting was very necessary. I finally agreed.

She was beautiful — like a perfect white marble Greek sculpture. And she was the most intelligent lady I have ever met. She had manners and she had read thousands of books. I was impressed. But as she disclosed her profession, I felt ashamed. However, she seemed not to care. She only wanted me to write my column on her life. A column to help other young girls of this country and their parents.

She belonged to a lower-middle class family of Karachi. Her family had descended from the Pathans, Kashmiris and Awans and she was an attractive and pretty girl. She was educated in good institutions and obtained an MBA from a reputed business college of Karachi, after which she began an internship in a bank.

A young man met her while she was working there. She said he was handsome, had a foreign degree and was rich. He lived alone in a large house in Defence, travelled in a car worth millions and his monthly credit card bill was between Rs200-300,000. She was impressed by his personality, wealth and lifestyle and soon they became close friends.

The man started spending a lot of money on her. This continued for two months. And then one day he gave her a CD that contained ‘horrible’ scenes of the two. She was shocked. The man told her that someone had shot their film and was now blackmailing him.

In a week’s time a third character appeared on the scene. He told her that she had been trapped by a gang — that the young man she had met and liked was part of the gang and that there was now no escape. She was offered ‘work’ in the profession she is currently involved in. She says she tried whatever she could to get out of it but in vain. Her parents have been told that she works in a large firm, from where she gets a salary every month.

She said that the gang was like a mafia with its headquarters in Karachi and young male and female ‘agents’ in many cities. They get beautiful girl agents admitted to colleges who make friends with pretty girls, take them to parties and introduce them to handsome boys who then trap the girls and make movies. Their agents are also active in banks, travel agencies and shopping plazas.

After I heard her story, I told her I would write my column on her. I came out to say bye to her and a seven-series BMW was waiting for her. I recognised the driver — he is the chauffeur of a VVIP.

Published in The Express Tribune, September 25th, 2010.

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Reader Comments (70)

  • Sep 25, 2010 - 12:10AM

    This is another terrible aspect of our Society which expos by the Javed Ch. Sahab. He always done very beautifully. We have nothing but sorrow and care. May Allah have mercy on our situation and show us the right path. Recommend

  • Sep 25, 2010 - 12:12AM

    Oh my God! But what would have happened had she refused the work? Even if they had circulated the CD with the horrible scenes, wouldn’t it have been relatively better than this lifelong entanglement?Recommend

  • Anonymous
    Sep 25, 2010 - 12:24AM

    omg , terrible dilemma for the poor girl,these gangs need to be caught but hey its pakistan ,kahan koi pakra jata hai !! Recommend

  • Aftab Kenneth Wilson
    Sep 25, 2010 - 12:26AM

    You are very expert in Story Telling (Daastan Goe), all what you have penciled down might be correct but how come you knew the driver of that VVIP.Recommend

  • incredible
    Sep 25, 2010 - 12:30AM

    javed sb , please do journalism not a sensationalism. this whole story looks fabricated.please work for the security of this society and not for its disintegration.Recommend

  • Saif M
    Sep 25, 2010 - 12:53AM

    This sounds like a story from “teen aurtain, teen kahnian” a titillating column that used to appear in Urdu weekly “Khawateen Digest”. It’s difficult to say if the story is genuine or made up. If she was that “intelligent a lady” and not just the ” perfect white marble Greek sculpture” that Mr. Chaudhry so describes her, she could have stopped it by saying NO much earlier.
    I think Mr. Chaudhry has been had by the Pathan-Kashmiri-Awan looks and her BMW 7 series car — and the VVIP driver.Recommend

  • majid
    Sep 25, 2010 - 1:30AM

    only one solution.
    Expose the VIPRecommend

  • Asim
    Sep 25, 2010 - 1:33AM

    Why you hided the VVIP ?Recommend

  • Sep 25, 2010 - 2:05AM

    @kenneth. Javaid has met many many VVIPS throughout his life, as he is a very renowned journalist, his acquaintances range from Ambassadors to Prime Ministers, naturally he must have taken a ride with them many times, consequently he recognized one of their drivers.

    Read your facts.Recommend

  • gem
    Sep 25, 2010 - 2:07AM

    I’m in shock. If this is true, it’s DAMN scary. Thank you for enlightening us.Recommend

  • Talha
    Sep 25, 2010 - 2:36AM

    This is a common story found within cities especially Karachi. Living in a rich and famous area, you know and hear of powerful people indulging in such activities.

    This country has a lot of ill people, that is why we are in such a mess.Recommend

  • Shahzad Nizam
    Sep 25, 2010 - 2:49AM

    i dunt blve this can happen…! there must be so many things involved in getting her to that profession..! a person cant blackmail that easily and even if he got successful…how can he ever convince her to do something she is afraid to be exposed off? i think story is incomplete..!Recommend

  • Sep 25, 2010 - 3:05AM

    If you know who the VVIP is then perhaps share his name? Recommend

  • Sep 25, 2010 - 5:03AM

    Javed chaudry saheb, ok thanks for the article.

    Can you also plz highlight the horrendous harrasment that our female reporters suffer in our so called free electronic media?

    will u go after this as well or would you take a back seat just because it serves your interests? Recommend

  • Sep 25, 2010 - 5:45AM

    Though it is a bitter reality of our society and it needs to be countered and written upon and talked on unless and until something concrete is done to alleviate such horrific ways to exploits under privilege and innocents. I have a strong feeling you made it up. A realistic made up rather. And well done for that.Recommend

  • mussarat ahmedzeb swat
    Sep 25, 2010 - 7:16AM

    She had been calling for the last two days. She said that she had come from Karachi just to see me and that the meeting was very necessary. I finally agreed.
    what if somone genuinly in need of help wants to see you how do they aproach after all you guys of the media are celebritries.Recommend

  • shy
    Sep 25, 2010 - 7:28AM

    Youth needs character building.Recommend

  • Haseeb Najam
    Sep 25, 2010 - 12:09PM

    A young man met her while she was
    working there. She said he was
    handsome, had a foreign degree and was
    rich. He lived alone in a large house
    in Defence, travelled in a car worth
    millions and his monthly credit card
    bill was between Rs200-300,000. She
    was impressed by his personality,
    wealth and lifestyle and soon they
    became close friends.

    I totally agree that working women in our societies faces a lot of issues but, pardon me, the MAIN REASON behind them are girls like

    “She said he was handsome, had a foreign degree and was rich. He lived alone in a large house in Defence, travelled in a car worth millions and his monthly credit card bill was between Rs200-300,000. She was impressed by his personality, wealth and lifestyle and soon they became close friends.”

    Due to them, the ones who don’t become “close friends” also faces the very same issues. Since every single individual represents every community he/she attached with either its there home or office.

    If the “WORKING WOMEN” concentrate on “WORK” only then there will be no such issues which you mentioned.
    Problem is we seems to see the emotional side of the matter and no one discuss the root cause or provide solution for it.Recommend

  • parvez
    Sep 25, 2010 - 1:08PM

    Moral of the story : Don’t be greedy.Recommend

  • rehan
    Sep 25, 2010 - 1:27PM

    mediocre stuff…so who doesn’t know what goes on around in the VIP circle what to talk of the VVIP.I agree..more of a ‘weekly digest’story.Recommend

  • Sep 25, 2010 - 1:34PM

    I have read this post in Urdu………seems translated version……..nice one………..the gang mafia……..Yes some female reporters were telling me about the kind of harrassment that they face in public,,,,,,,and a similar kind of story an event manager friend shared as well…….Dlad to see someone wrote on it……….Recommend

  • Salman Ali
    Sep 25, 2010 - 1:45PM

    Good Artical


  • Hafsa
    Sep 25, 2010 - 1:51PM

    Instructive column………Girls should be aware of these things.Recommend

  • shahid ali
    Sep 25, 2010 - 2:00PM

    It is realy appreciated and useful column by Mr. Jave Chaudry and I ever like his column and read regularly. Consequences in our society comes out as described in this column when there is no rule of law in the soceity. It mostly happen when ruling elite is corrupt and unable to demolish the beastly acts in the society. Actually ruling elite is resposible for the same consequneces. Pakistan is our home land and we all should consider it as our home. Our daughters, mohters and sisters are living in this house and if we don’t clean this dirty pool, we’re not safe, we’re on risk. It should be taken action by Governemtn autherties and unveiled this mafia. As citizen of Pakistan I am worried about and as our society is being moved to the unislamic culture and we’re being sunk into it. We should contact to our islamic laws as soon as and the other end to be placed good governance in the society.Recommend

  • Ghulam mustafa
    Sep 25, 2010 - 2:02PM

    mr Chudhary u should now start to write for IKHBAA R – JAHHAN, am sure u would be very famous i female section. people of Pakistan 9’s u very well that for which poltical party and took lot of amount frm there very recent. plz kuch ic mulk per be raham karoRecommend

  • Sep 25, 2010 - 2:12PM

    Chaudhry sahab, don’t sell fiction as opinion and analysis. You’ve got a real talent for dramatization, but let fiction be read as fiction. Also, please let us know what action did you take after finding out about this gang, other than writing a column-on-demand. After all, you have connections with many VVIPs yourself. Recommend

  • Imran Khan
    Sep 25, 2010 - 2:19PM

    how do you know she read thousands of books? thats a lot of books… I dont think a 20 something would find the time to read thousands of books. Even if you make it one book a day, a thousand would take you three years… or six years at one book every two days… and to say thousands, it has to be at least 2 thousand… now thats a really high expectation from a “white” marble sculpture, that is impressed with cars and money.

    but as pointed out by “the only normal person here” this looks like an okay short story.

    and its not even that far off from his earlier performances, especially that one on TV where he declared facebook’s revenues from Pakistan, to be around 300% of its actual global revenues.

    Mr Chaudhry definitely has the creativity to draw a picture with words.Recommend

  • Sameer Iqbal
    Sep 25, 2010 - 2:54PM

    Your article is, indeed, in very poor taste and lacks credibility and professionalism. Recommend

  • Ahsan
    Sep 25, 2010 - 3:01PM

    1- Why did she become friends to him in the first place ?
    2- Why did she did that horrible thing so it could be filmed ?
    3- She could leave this profession anytime she wanted to why didnt she ?Recommend

  • shahida kazi
    Sep 25, 2010 - 3:30PM

    Lets forget the poor innocent girl syndrome.The girls who go into this go with their eyes open,and the main attraction of course is money and a glamorous lifestyle.Dont forget,the movie LAGA CHUNRI MAIN DAAG was a big flop simply because people did not quite relate to the thesis of the poor innocent girl trapped by the big bad wolves.Recommend

  • Sep 25, 2010 - 3:46PM

    This is just… horrible. There is a lot to pick from this story. You know it’s better that we stay in good company, and keep contact only with those people who have ‘our kind of taste’, or we know them fully. By the way, running after money can sometimes cost you high.

    You get a girl trapped, make video of something the poor girl won’t endorse, and you then threaten her to make the stuff public, so she won’t be able to show her face. Shame on you! Literally, the mirror should crack when you comb your hair.

    We should ponder over possible long-term consequences before initiating a relationship, not everyone is of the same category, but it’s just safe to keep yourself in a healthy and pious company. Pre-martial relationship is harmful anyways.Recommend

  • Sep 25, 2010 - 3:46PM

    I agree with Ms. Hoda there in the comments.

    A – I’m not being judgmental, and I’m definitely not emancipating the men involved of any crimes, but what she did with that man in the first place was wrong. As they say, if you don’t want someone to find out, don’t do it. And B – even if she had been involved in such a scenario, coming clean would’ve been a far lesser of an injury than pursuing this… career on a lifelong basis. Or well, until her looks last. I’m sorry, but I can not sympathize with her situation.Recommend

  • ahmed
    Sep 25, 2010 - 3:47PM

    whts the purpose of telling a fabricated story about a woman who is incapable of taking intelligent decisions. No one really forced her into doing anything….bad decisions lead to bad consequences.

    Plus Javed Chaudhry stole the whole story from a third rate indian movie on the same topicRecommend

  • Sep 25, 2010 - 3:50PM

    Then again, primarily, it’s definitely the woman’s fault. She shouldn’t have kept a relationship with the person. Its easy to slip, we should be really very cautious.Recommend

  • farah
    Sep 25, 2010 - 4:03PM

    Chaudhary is funny !!!

    ‘White marble greek structure’.really???

    ‘had read Thousands of books’lol

    @Saif M .. Teen auretein teen kahaniyan appeared in Akhbar e Jahan not khwateen digest.

    If only chaudhary had guts to give the name of that VVIP. Recommend

  • AA
    Sep 25, 2010 - 5:00PM

    “She belonged to a lower-middle class family of Karachi” but “She was educated in good institutions and obtained an MBA from a reputed business college of Karachi,” How??

    To reinforce Imran Khan’s point above, it takes a dedicated reader to finish a 350 page book (average size) at least 3 days, which means it would take her/him 3000 days, or over 8 years, to read just one thousand books. But she had read “thousands” of books. She must have started reading from the day she was born! That is some “lower middle class young marble statue”, and some exaggeration!Recommend

  • anonymous
    Sep 25, 2010 - 5:30PM

    The only reason why the name of that VVIP can not be exposed is: it would lead to a use less warfare of words between different non-involved personnel. Furthermore, it would launch a personality war between media and the associates of the VVIP, since exposure of his name is like exposing his personal life and businesses to public. It is not an ethical practice – not in this society where personality attacks are counter-attacked by physical forces.

    I hope you all understand. Recommend

  • Raza shafique
    Sep 25, 2010 - 5:43PM

    yes this is nowadays very common that people trapped other girls and boys for their personal use including earning money.
    javed ch a person like u can do much for condemning this issue. may ALLAH bless u Recommend

  • M.S.Shaikh
    Sep 25, 2010 - 6:28PM

    Please, stick to your urdu version articles – if you have to. The story might be true, only if you covered up the loopholes! Was expecting something enlightening.Recommend

  • Sep 25, 2010 - 7:20PM

    If we are Muslim, that is what Quran tells us to avoid mixed gathering, develop friendship with non-mahrams and use veil. If the lady in question would have done this, I am sure she will not become a “show piece” and disgrace of a Muslim Family.

    Therefore, we must adhere to strict pillers of Islam even if our girls are working women. They are allowed to work but they should cover themselves and not to inter-mingle with their male bosses / collegues – Result is in front of you.
    Those learn from others mistake do success in life but those who keeps their eyes closed and repeat such mistakes fall miserably.
    Choice is indeed yours – in this world and the the abode life we Muslim have to face in Aakhirut.

    Dr. Saleem Siddiqi – QatarRecommend

  • ahmed
    Sep 25, 2010 - 7:56PM


    There are other women out there who live decent lives and work as well. So please stop this nonsense propaganda.Recommend

  • Nowsherwan
    Sep 25, 2010 - 8:55PM

    i agree with the comments of haseeb najam. working ladies are there to work and earn a living for themselves, they are not out there to make “friends”. no wonder girls with lose character meet a poor fate. gangs like this are devil and you cannot blame devil for being evil, its you who fall in his trap. Recommend

  • Waqas Al-Shafi
    Sep 25, 2010 - 10:10PM

    Well interesting piece innit. wait a min i take my comment back. thats just another story which i believe to be true and have faith on Javed akhtar. This situation often occurs in a TV show that is hosted by a dignified and unsold journalist. 2 opposite party members sit down to discuss about the issues presented to them by the host. They start arguing maturely but then the debate ends with prejudice. each criticises another with an attempt to hide his/her faults and thus gain sympathy of the host and the fools watching from all over the globe. Then the host points out the corruption/fraud committed by either of the two or both of them but in such an indirect way. the host ignores the importance of unleashing the name of the mastermind behind the crime and prefers it to be kept as a secret, because of the insecurity that would arise.
    You have got to understand that unless and untill you reveal the name of the bad guy behind the scene which in this case is the VVIP, we cannot go anywhere. The intensity of the chaos does not matter but what matters is that the person involved should be punished for his/her fraud/crime.
    Your case and the girl in it have both gained our sympathy but whats the point if the criminal behind all this hell is left alone with no accountability. is your job only to reveal the bad in the society while covering up the root cause???????????????
    cmon man, cmon.Recommend

  • Shahzad Ahmad
    Sep 25, 2010 - 10:26PM

    Denounce this piece by Javed Ch. Mr. Ch. shame on you… Can U title this false/true story like this against ALL working women??? We demand a public apology from you. Recommend

  • FA
    Sep 25, 2010 - 10:38PM

    I HIGHLY despise the title of this post. This is NOT life of a working woman for heaven’s sake. I wonder what Javed Sb. is trying to implicitly prove using this title? Being an MBA I believe the girl was educated enough to figure out other legal ways of dealing with the situation rather than succumbing to blackmail and taking up this as profession.You are requested to at least change the title of this post and avoid making the lives of other working women difficult.Recommend

  • Shahzad Ahmad
    Sep 25, 2010 - 10:47PM

    We demand that this piece should be removed from this page immediately… this hurts badly…Recommend

  • Ali
    Sep 25, 2010 - 11:27PM

    Saleem Sb is the only sane person around here!!! Recommend

  • Anum
    Sep 26, 2010 - 1:58AM

    Hahaha!What a filmi story! Why on earth would a beautiful woman meet you?Recommend

    Sep 26, 2010 - 2:09PM

    This is an apropos of the article ” The life of working women”,(25,09,2010) by Javed Chaudhry, I want accurately addressed to the fact that every young & beautiful girl especially in the ages between 18-28 has to be aware of handsome boys who has glamorous & rich background because they are in the found of those pretty girls who are immature & sensible towards the emotions of heart & fall in love easily with that boys & trans their life towards the end of their sexual needs or the business of physical relations.Recommend

  • Mubashir Anwar
    Sep 26, 2010 - 4:43PM

    Great story. But I would like to say that the purpose of this story is not to expose the VVIP. It is to create awareness about the issues faced by women in pakistan.

    So all the people opposing this article believe that such incidences do not exist in Pakistan?

    I agree that the story, true or not, has been dramatised but the problem is real. Several women from good background are trapped into such profession. So instead of being sarcastic about the stupidity of the female or criticizing the writing style of the author. We should be worrying about the spread of prostitution in Pakistan.Recommend

  • Nabeel
    Sep 26, 2010 - 9:55PM

    Tribune always comes up with such ‘stories’, few months back I read a similar story that had no one’s name, no proper authentication or references attached. Its just a publicity campaign, a cheap one for sure! if any such thing is really happening, please unveil the faces otherwise I would sincerely request you to stop this cheap publicity. I am shocked to see Javed Ch’s name tagged with this one! anyone can come up with such stories, please do not post without proper proof and authentication. This is just misleading our youth and nothing else!Recommend

  • Hafsa Zubair
    Sep 27, 2010 - 12:00AM

    Dear Dr Saleem Siddiqui from Qatar – Are you for real? The truth of the matter is that this has nothing to do with religion, but with morality. You can be a person of any faith and end up in compromising situations if you use poor judgement. I’m so sick of simplistic, sweeping statements by supposedly educated people regarding religion. ‘Don’t intermingle with your male colleagues/bosses’? Instead of absurdly irrational statements, why not talk about how women can set a positive example by conducting themselves with dignity and respect in the workplace – as thousands of Muslim working women do – and how male colleagues and bosses can reciprocate by maintaining a healthy balance of decorum *and* cordiality.

    It is not impossible, it happens everyday in hundreds of workplaces in Pakistan, because civilized, educated people conduct themselves properly. Of course you still have large numbers of people – mostly men – who behave in lewd and inappropriate ways, indulge in sexual harrassment in the workplace, and so forth. They have to be dealt with, and will only learn how to behave when there is zero tolerance in society for their kind of misbehavior.

    But to cloak it all in Islam and say this is the inevitable fallout of straying from the strict dictates of religion, is offensive and childish. You are basically saying that human beings have no control over their impulses, which just pretty much lets every dubious and immoral character off the hook. It’s not their lack of religious observance, its their lack of morality and adherence to the basic principles of respectful, civilized behavior that allows them to behave he way they do. They make a choice to behave badly, whether Muslim, Christian, Hindu etc. Similarly, people who behave with dignity make a concious choice to do so. Of course, religion teaches us morality through what it prescribes, and I am not in any way suggesting that religion and morality are mutually exclusive. The point I am trying to make is that morality is not solely the realm of religion, and that the morality religion teaches is much more subtle and meaningful than the narrow definitions you suggest.

    (I purposely haven’t touched on the fact that I’m not convinced this column is even based on a true story. Perhaps if it were written in a less dramatized fashion, it would have garnered a more serious response. And let’s not even mention how offensive and misleading the title is to thousands of respectable working women)Recommend

  • Kiran Ali
    Sep 27, 2010 - 10:26AM

    I take strong offense to the title! You could have used a better suited title to this story. This is “NOT” the life of a working woman in Karachi. I demand the change of this title with immediate effect!Recommend

  • Waqqas Iftikhar
    Sep 27, 2010 - 10:58AM

    The dude seemed too good to be true – that should have rung alarm bells for the girl especially, one from Karachi, a large urban metropolis that specialises in various cons.

    Not her fault though – although she’d been better off taking the short-term hit letting him go with the vids rather than doing this for the rest of her life. The only way to counter this is lesser social conservatism – that way hormones can be indulged in without resorting to shady activities which have a greater chance of backfiring on you….Recommend

  • Hamza A. Khan
    Sep 27, 2010 - 12:55PM

    @ Mr. Absar Shah

    Sir, its easier said than done. She was a lower middle class girl. If that video had reached her relatives, her father most probably would have had a heart attack and she would have comitted suicide. I’m not defending her acts, but I can she how things transpired.Recommend

  • Muneeb
    Sep 27, 2010 - 2:08PM

    First of all, please don’t use the title “working woman” as there are many working women who do not have “close friends” like this marble statue of yours riding a VVIP’s 7 series BMW. Nor do they get into the kind of stuff that this lady did. She’s a call girl. Let’s call a spade a spade.

    Also, let’s not be surprised that there are agents who sell services of ladies to men in our country; Lahore’s red light area has been a part of the country’s history. This is not the first we are hearing of physical services being exchanged for money. There are plenty of women who have chosen to cross the line and even more men who are eagerly waiting on the other side of the line. This has gone on for centuries. It’s called the world’s oldest profession for a reason.

    This call girl wanted to be selective about giving herself to a rich boy and was willing to go to any extent with him because she was attracted to his financial and social profile. She did not do it out of “love”. She was trumped and blackmailed, unfortunate but a likely and predictable consequence of doing what she was doing.

    So the moral of the story is if you don’t want to be a prostitute, don’t act like one and don’t get into bed with men for money because that’s all you might be doing for the rest of your life!Recommend

  • Mango Juice
    Sep 27, 2010 - 3:24PM

    The title is horribly mis-leading! As if every working woman is getting her salary from the same means. I have observed that when any woman rises in her profession by hard work and she starts making good money, bringing fortunes to her family, people start talking about her being involved in such activities -whereas nothing could be farther from truth. This only aggravates an already mistrusting society and culture towards working women. If this article really is true and attempts to draw attention to prostitution and how they may trap girls then it should be titled ‘Story of a girl trapped by prostitution mafia’ or something. Recommend

  • Sameera
    Sep 28, 2010 - 2:40AM

    You need to change the title of this article. What kind of writing and editing do you allow to go through to your readers? WORKING WOMAN? I’m a working woman and I am not a prostitute. This woman is. Call it the Life of a Call Girl or the Life of a Promiscuous Woman. This author seems like he’s crawled out from under a rock and doesn’t know what has been going on around him for the last century. But your editors should. This is very offensive to professional, working women who are working and contributing to our economy without sleeping with men who have hefty credit card bills and being videotaped. What a hideous piece of writing and what a shameful decision to publish it as such. I don’t even get the point of this article. It’s not about being kidnapped or raped and being forced into this profession. It’s like she’s now decided she can’t do it any more or wants to tell the world that she didn’t enter this profession “ENTIRELY” by choice. Tough luck ma’am. You sleep with one guy, you will end up sleeping with more. Shame on you and shame on Tribune.Recommend

  • muhammed ashraf gandehi
    Sep 28, 2010 - 9:58AM

    why not the indentified driver be handed over to the police for further investigations to prevent any further occourances. the moral resposibilities lies lies on the writter.Recommend

  • Sadaf
    Sep 28, 2010 - 11:59AM

    Horrible @ Dr. Saleem Siddiqi completely agreed with Saleem Siddiqi. why girls forget what Islam teach us what islam allow us to do or not to do
    These things happened when we forget the line which keeps distance between men and female and cross the limit.
    Please BeCareful because when character is Lost everything is Lost its a very precious thing and Allah dislikes characterless peoples
    And May Allah protect all girls trapped in gang Recommend

  • Sep 28, 2010 - 2:30PM

    The title is misleading and the story itself, in my opinion, might create further problems for working women rather than helping them to protect themselves. In my view, Javed sahab needs some gender sensitization as well as training in character building. The use of ‘White marble greek structure’ for explaining her beautiful features really shocked me. Hope that Javed sahab can learn from so many manuals available for professionals on gender-sensitive reporting. One of these manuals developed by UNESCO can be assessed here. Though quite old, the manual might help Javed sahab and other like him to report better on issues involving gender. Recommend

  • Sep 28, 2010 - 2:38PM

    Had the ‘horrible things’ would not have been filmed, the writer would not have got the story.Recommend

  • Sep 28, 2010 - 2:52PM
  • ambreen
    Sep 29, 2010 - 1:59AM

    Ok ,so the story if true is very sad.But what everyone failed to notice is how did the guy have a cd of her with horrible scenes in the first place.Obviously she wasn’t very innocent to begin with. I’ve lived in Pakistan too,attending college and everything and the one thing that I realized was that you only attract the kind of people you want to.If you are “sharif ‘no one can force you into anything.She got herself in this mess in the first place and sadly has to bear its consequences. Recommend

  • Saira Saba
    Sep 29, 2010 - 12:34PM

    To be honest I am very much pleased that it was YOU who met her otherwise these days many people do exists in our society who have the ability to take advantage of such situations as well.

    Thank you so much and may Allah give you more strength to speak the truth.Recommend

  • d c bhardwaj
    Sep 29, 2010 - 1:08PM

    This is a story of one of the working women…… Mr. Javed got licence t call story of all working women. Most of them working with dignity and with honour. This is a greed story of only one lady who used to work. Recommend

  • Ghulam Ali
    Sep 29, 2010 - 4:58PM

    Hafsa Zubair wants us to move beyond the “simplistic” and “sweeping” traditional moral refrain: ‘Don’t intermingle with your male colleagues/bosses” Instead, she wants women to “conduct[] themselves with dignity and respect in the workplace” and their male colleagues and bosses to “reciprocate by maintaining a healthy balance of decorum and cordiality.”

    Her solution sounds indeed wonderful. One hundred years ago, I would have bought it. But in the context of late modernity (where a quarter of the world already is and where the rest of us are fast heading), it is superbly naive. I am compelled to perform the painful task of disillusioning her.

    Tim Winters, a Cambridge scholar aptly describes a peculiarity of the modern world which provides the context for the incident Javed Chaudhary describes: “Never before has there been a society in which men and women mingle so casually, and where the radically increased opportunity for temptation and unfaithfulness is so patent …”

    The results, for British society (where Tim is based) in particular are: “… 34% of British children are now born outside wedlock; a similar proportion of adults suffer the heartbreak of divorce; within twenty years fewer than half of the nation’s children will be brought up by their own two parents; and so on” The situation is pretty much the same everywhere modernity has fully matured. In the US, for instance, studies indicate that an overwhelming majority of adults (more than 80%) engage in extra-marital intercourse at least once in their lives.

    Tim explains the situation by referring to a novel which captures the spirit of our times: “In Tom Wolfe’s popular novel Bonfire of the Vanities, a young financier commits adultery, destroying his wife and daughter, simply because New York is a city “drowning in concupiscence” and he is its child. It is not simply the routine mixing of the sexes that brings about his downfall. Everywhere his eyes wander he sees advertising, pornography, news stories and squeezy fashions that grasp at him and shout aloud the charm of duty-free sex. Wolfe’s adulterer is an ordinary, not a fundamentally evil man: he is simply living in a world in which most human beings cannot behave responsibly.”

    The simple point I’m trying to make, Hafsa, is that it is naive to focus squarely on individual morality, and to expect men and women uphold norms of ‘dignity’, ‘respect’, ‘decorum’ in institutional settings which are just not conducive for upholding these principles. If we do wish those norms to be upheld, we will have to radically re-order modernity’s institutional setting. Otherwise, it’s only a matter of time. We may choose to let ideals such a marital fidelity, sexual restraint, modesty etc. wither away. But we shouldn’t be kidding ourselves into believing that we can ape the mores of late modernity without paying the price. Recommend

  • Another opinion
    Sep 29, 2010 - 5:12PM

    Well said HafsaRecommend

  • Mian Haroun Rashid
    Sep 30, 2010 - 12:27PM

    What makes me sick about stories like this and many other far worse incidents about our treatment of women is the utter violation of Islam and all its teachings in both letter and spirit. The more we scream out aloud about being an Islamic Republic and enacting so-called Islamic laws the more hypocritical we become. Basic, simple decency, integrity, truth and honesty has almost disappeared from our society ever since we adopted, as a virtue, the public display of all the formal rituals of Islam in our conversations and daily lives and forgot about the real message of our religion. As a businessman I encounter almost daily, bearded men proudly proclaiming themselves as Haji’s with the obligatory mark on the forehead and conducting their dealings dishonestly, evading taxes and indulging in every type of malpractice possible. Their wives, daughters and women in general are treated no better than chattel. It makes me puke. Recommend

  • Sadaf
    Sep 30, 2010 - 4:50PM

    @ Mian Haroun Rashid we cant understand what u try to say we are talking a story of modern middle class girl who become millionare and a handsome,foreign degree holder rich guy who cheated the girl why you pulling beared men and islam. she is not cheated by a religious person common .Recommend

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