We are angry for a number of reasons — we are angry because Pakistan is not a safe place for women to live in; we are angry because every time we try to pick ourselves up and believe there is a silver lining, something happens and it is back to square one. For every ladder we climb, there are 10 snakes waiting to push us further back. We suffer from misplaced guilt that turns into anger and finds various outlets: the inability of the state to protect a 14-year-old, who intimidated armed extremists through her words and actions; the ignorance and intolerance in our society and the lack of action against injustice; anything we can get angry at, we do. We attack one another for not doing enough. We are changing our Facebook display and cover photos to pictures of Malala, tweeting about her and reflecting on what is wrong with us and our country. We have virtual moments of silence to show our condemnation for the attack on her, our sorrow and our hopes that she will recover. We are doing everything we can to prove that we are unlike those who shot Malala.
Let us keep in mind that Malala had been writing and protesting for a while. Her struggle started when she was 11. What I find most tragic in this situation is the way many Pakistanis became aware of her existence — not through the work she did, but by the incident of her being shot in the head by Taliban gunmen. Were we not interested in her work before it came to this? After all, shouldn’t women’s education be a priority in Pakistan? There are many of us who are afraid to say too much because too much means we might be putting ourselves and our loved ones at risk, and that’s okay. No one should feel obligated to endanger their lives. But when someone does put themselves at risk, our inability to protect them is what appalls me the most.
There are those who have given up all hope and blame other people for the privileges they enjoy, while refusing obstinately to use their own to change anything. I am not trying to mock anyone’s sense of disillusionment or pessimism because I am no one to judge where people might be coming from. However, it does leave a bad taste in the mouth when a person not only mocks those who try to do their small bit, but also insist that trying is no use. Steering Pakistan towards any social progress is a gargantuan task and will obviously be one of the biggest challenges faced by the government and society as a whole. It will require a change in everyone’s mindset; a government alone cannot get into people’s minds and change how they think even if it were to become the epitome of progress and enlightenment.
In our 65-year history, one of the things that has been most difficult for us to do is to find a sense of identity that will unite us in some way — and religion has not been the answer. We have become very good at pointing out what is wrong with us, but somehow have not been able to fix it. The biggest question is, why not? And isn’t it time we started trying to find out?
Published in The Express Tribune, October 11th, 2012.
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Take religion out of the public life and see how this nation will improve and progress. Religion is the root cause of most problems. Believe in yourself first before believe in a God or Prophet.
@Abid P Khan Solution to the problem of too many femals being born already exist. By the grace of God, man is allowed to have 4 wives. Talibans are not only against female education they also oppose modern education for anyone regardless of their gender. It will be probably good idea to let them take contol of the their land and do as they like.
@Alina: "...Malala is still alive but do we need a bigger push? Have we not had enough yet?..."
Compare the countrywide protests against an obscure film made by a criminal, to the protests against attempted murder of Malala. The answer is obvious. You have a long way to go, my dear Pakistani friend.
@Abhinav: You are right, what would we men do with all these educated girls around. Isn't food making and cleaning the running noses of young kids interesting enough for them? Perhaps the Taliban could demand that there should be a solution to so many females being born. They can, very well take care of the problem themselves.
"What I find most tragic in this situation is the way many Pakistanis became aware of her existence — not through the work she did, but by the incident of her being shot in the head by Taliban gunmen."
So it's not the fact that a child was shot at for voicing her opinion? The real tragedy here is that the Taliban which shot her are Pakistanis themselves. They're not Afghans or the result of an American invasion, it's us. We cultivated the Taliban and we let Malala get shot; the question is, how much more worse does it need to get? This should be the turning point for Pakistan. Remember Bouazizi, the unlicensed street vendor in Tunisia? His death sparked the nation wide protests which spread across the region. Malala is still alive but do we need a bigger push? Have we not had enough yet?
Abhinav: Get real - Liberals are not 'forcing' a concept like girl Education or Gender equality. They are asking for it. Liberals don't go around 'forcing' their opinion with guns. "Liberal extremist" is an oxymoron.
In any case, what liberals are asking for is enshrined in the UN charter of human rights. You can't treat women as a second class citizens, even if you had done it before. It is against the concept of all humans are equal. If you allowed that - then you should also accept all other sort of classification - Race, Caste, Religious etc. If you accepted second grade citizenship for women - then you also accept slavery.
Those interested in knowing more about Malala and her family please use this link:
http://video.nytimes.com/video/2012/10/09/world/asia/100000001835296/class-dismissed.html?ref=world#100000001835296
When 65 years ago the country was formed as a homeland for Muslims..........religion was the base for this to happen. Today to say otherwise would be self deception. The problem seems to be that 'religion' has been highjacked and turned into a vehicle, on which people with a political agenda ride with the ultimate goal of gaining power. The answer lies in understanding the meaning of the word 'secular' and then work towards eradicating the perception that it is anti-religion. A perception deliberately introduced by the mischief mongers. Taking back the pulpit from these usurpers will not be easy but it must be done it we are to survive.
The title should be: Our (selective) collective apathy
I must compliment the young lady writer for almost discovering the magic wand that could cure all ills in not too long a time. If she had gone on after touching "religion" and probed the misguided practices that take place in its name, the cure would have been more evident. It is an entirely separate matter that the majority of Pakistanis will not cooperate, just because the very thought of religion being a problem is blasphemy.
The other way a Nation may correct its course after having been on the wrong track for a long time, is if it feels ashamed of its past. But, there is so much Ghairat all over for that. It is not completely unknown that it is this Ghairat that has even forced us to mutilate our history, tell white lies, mislead our people and other nations for so long that some of us have started feeling it is not possible to fool everyone all the time. No grand nations or individual character was ever built on the foundations of falsehood. We have to learn the unescapable necessity of TRUTH.
For those interested in knowing our perfidy in relation to Kashmir I can recommend the revelations (in Urdu) by a Kashmiri (Hamid Bashani) from Azaad Kashmir on the following link:.
http://www.siasat.pk/forum/showthread.php?137138-BilaTakalluf-with-Tahir-Gora-8th-Oct-2012-Hamid-Bashani-on-Kashmir-Dispute
@R2D2: "in a country where even oxford educated politicians favor hadood ord. and want to have jirga justice, what do you expect?"
Oxford Educated? Let's stick to Oxford Returned---the folksy term for that.
outraged for being too violent? Not in Pakistan.
in a country where even oxford educated politicians favor hadood ord. and want to have jirga justice, what do you expect?
The author got so close to the crux of the problem and then missed it; perhaps intentionally. She says,
"In our 65-year history, one of the things that has been most difficult for us to do is to find a sense of identity that will unite us in some way — and religion has not been the answer."
As you rightly say, religion is not the answer, but then the questions arises, what is ? If we look at Pakistani nation and try to fix its sense of identity, ideology and geography, we will fail. Not because of lack of trying but because there isn't any.
Pakistanis do not have an attachment to a common ideology, culture, language, race or even to land. They just seem to be floating in a intellectual and historic void. And then they clutch at straws in the form of various shades of religion. That's all they know and that's all they have...
@karma: You said what I wanted to. Only better.
Madam:
I truly wasn't aware of her till she was shot. Ensconced in tony Bangalore, where my kids (about her age) go to school as a matter of routine, I wouldn't even have suspected a girl may have to struggle, fight and risk life to go to school somewhere in the world!!
This girl's plight touched me like no other story from Pakistan. I have rarely been moved to tears on a news story, and never on a story from Pakistan. I always believed Pakistani's asked for this by playing with extremist ideology. But, checking various interviews and stories of her on youtube compelled me to ask myself - Did she ask for what she got? Did she ask for extremist ideology in her country?
Not many in this world would be as brave as her, even when they have nothing much to live for. Not many will ever speak out for others, show courage under fire. Most importantly not many kids her age would be so aware, prolific, articulate on subjects of concern to them and clarity on what the problems are and how they'd address it.
Now, I think those like her, deserve far better. Likes of her are Pakistan's hope. If Pakistan can't find a way to heed to her message, then so many more like her will find a fate that they truly don't deserve.
Wish her the best.
In our 65-year history, one of the things that has been most difficult for us to do is to find a sense of identity that will unite us in some way — and religion has not been the answer. We have become very good at pointing out what is wrong with us, but somehow have not been able to fix it. The biggest question is, why not? The answer to the question is already in the statement above. You need to accept as a nation that religion is not the principle source of identity as a people and as a nation, and should remain within the privacy of one's home. Once that happens, your choice of friends, enemies, heroes and history may also need to be revisited and judged impartially. Your country has been mired in a sunk-cost fallacy, in that we were made in the name of religion, so religion is what unites us. Partition along religious lines cannot be reversed (thankfully), but need not define who you are for perpetuity. Pakistan is what you make of it.