10 things I hate about the humsafar finale

Published: March 11, 2012
Fareeda Aunty’s mental breakdown, when she was about to be held responsible, she decided to fake ‘crazy eyes’ for us. PHOTO: PUBLICITY

Fareeda Aunty’s mental breakdown, when she was about to be held responsible, she decided to fake ‘crazy eyes’ for us. PHOTO: PUBLICITY

1.      The perfect timing of Fareeda Aunty’s mental breakdown. Just when she was about to be held responsible, maybe even punished a bit, she decided to fake the ‘crazy eyes’ for us all. I’m so totally going to do that the next time I’m in trouble. After all, all it takes is calling someone you despise a ‘pari’ and acting a bit ditzy.

2.    The wonderful son Asher. Despite all that mother dearest did — from ruining her son’s marriage to indirectly killing a girl — he STILL does not kick her to the curb. Instead, to the dismay of millions of Pakistani girls, he gives her a hug and a kiss!

3.    Khirad’s intelligence. If your daughter’s back to normal after heart surgery and you know your in-laws are direct descendants of the devil himself, you’re going to take her to a better place … NOT decide to leave her with them forever and ever. How stupid are you?

4.    The repetitive song. WOoooooooooooh HUmsaaaaaaaaaaafar thaaaaaaaaaaaaa. Repeat 500 times until you want to say: “Haan thaa humsafar, but he turned out to be a wimpy loser tied to his mother’s apron strings, so stop rubbing it in QB.”

5.    The well-written dialogues. Fareeda Aunty: “Sara ‘MARR’ gaye.” For god’s sake, I wouldn’t say that even about my pet gerbil. Wafaat hogaye, death hogaye, iss duniya se chali gaye, but NOT marr gaye!

6.    Saroo or Stalker Sara. Couldn’t she just have moved on? Like, really, he’s cute and all but really? Suicide? It’s not like hell will be filled with Asher lookalikes!

7.    Fareeda Aunty’s impossible challenge: “Agar tum meri zindagi mein sabit kerdo, yeh bacha meray Asher ka hay, tou tum jeetein mein haari.” Hello, DNA testing anyone? You know that thing called science, which figures it all out, how about we use that right about now?

8.    After calling Khirad every ugly name in the book, all it took to turn her into a ‘bakirdaar aurat’ in Asher’s opinion once again, was one hell of a persuasive letter and some eavesdropping. Why didn’t he stumble upon the letter before? Why didn’t he eavesdrop before?

9.    Khirad’s hypocrisy. From strong statements like “Yeh aik waqti samjhota hay” and “Aap ka beta meray liye mar gaya hay” to her sheepish admission in the last episode, “Mohabbat mari tou naheen, kho gaye hay” in barely three episodes? So basically Fareeda aunty was right, Khirad was out to make her way into Asher’s heart, that witch!

10.    The lack of a real apology from Ushaaa Ushaaa. Come to think of it, did he ever really apologise-apologise to her? Did he actually get down on his knees and say the words “I’m sorry, maaf kerdo?” If you call that contorted face, hitting head against some random pole on the street an apology, I don’t buy that. Had I been Khirad, he could’ve bled to death and I’d still not take him back.

Published in The Express Tribune, Sunday Magazine, March 11th, 2012.

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Reader Comments (73)

  • Mar 11, 2012 - 11:58AM

    Let it Go ..For GOD sake .let it go….


  • Mar 11, 2012 - 11:58AM

    Another girl and another 10 things to hate :)Recommend

  • Saroooo
    Mar 11, 2012 - 12:02PM

    Isi lie you were not khirad, you would have had him bled to death!!! Nicely put btw!


  • simmering
    Mar 11, 2012 - 12:03PM

    other things aside, i really can’t ignore these two points:

    No.2: seriously? have you not read another reasonably argued blogpost on this very site about the imagery used in the drama especially of the house? How in the WORLD did the house become Ashar’s after Farida’s husband’s death? Doesn’t the Mr’s death make her the matriarch of her family? Ashar could have left the house if he wanted, but he did not have a right to kick his mother out of her own house. Get over your patriarchal mindset please.

    No.6. you have a problem that Sara killed herself in the final episode but are apparently okay with the fact that Ashar didn’t mourn his “best friend” even for ONE MIN? that is a HUGE flaw in the script.

    The drama was average at best. I still can’t believe people are comparing it to our classics.


  • Mar 11, 2012 - 12:04PM

    After Fareeda Aunty’s mental breakdown…I seriously thought She will kill either Khirad or that Parii ..That would be an interesting ending …But No ..The same Lame Game…:(


  • Asif waqar
    Mar 11, 2012 - 12:06PM

    this show was a sad reflection on the misogynistic mentality prevalent in our society.given how popular this was amongst the female population especially the regressive,self hating segment,it’s not difficult to imagine the reasons why so many of our girls continue to stay with boyfriens/husbands who treat them like trash.

    this self loathing and hatred of one’s gender is the reason why women consider themselves to be inferior to men and why they stick to partrners who beat them up and treat them like inferior beings.The hero in this drama threw his wife out on a mere suspicion and the sort of girl that admires such a man can never raise a self confident,independent daughter with good self-esteem.


  • Sadiq Ali
    Mar 11, 2012 - 12:07PM

    absolutely right!


  • meher zubair
    Mar 11, 2012 - 12:13PM

    LOL =P


  • RJ
    Mar 11, 2012 - 12:16PM

    I want to know why the spineless and brainless Ashar didn’t believe a word Khirad said to him for 4 years but one letter managed to convince him what an awful husband he was and how he was played by his own mother…Was the letter sprinkled with something that made him finally come to his senses?


  • roflcopter
    Mar 11, 2012 - 12:17PM

    you forgot the punjabi accent of farida auntie.. in the last go go mad scene “sara aye the usay GHAAAR nai anay dena” lmao that was one hilarious moment


  • Salman
    Mar 11, 2012 - 12:20PM

    the author has humsafar obsession for sure. I guess she is still missing the drama badly


  • Khuzafa
    Mar 11, 2012 - 12:21PM

    Foolish….Article was written just to gain maximum reads and attention by HUMSAFAR title…though I agree “SARA MAR GAIE” and a bit with another point…room of improvement can always be there but verdict of millions of fans shows it was good..and for GOD sack leave everything ….wasn’t it enough that a Pakistani product made viewers to flip back their desi channel after so long…so whatever it was…It was Good…!


  • Humsafar
    Mar 11, 2012 - 12:26PM

    Leave me alone !


  • Sana
    Mar 11, 2012 - 12:26PM

    Blah! Blah! Blah!
    Get over it girls, it was just a drama and is over too now. Why give so much importance? Ab tou khatam hou gaya, qabar mein utar gaya, ab tou jaan chor dou pleaseeeeee!!!
    And ET you too, stop posting opinions/blogs about this drama. Enough yaar!


  • smssr84
    Mar 11, 2012 - 12:32PM

    I wish there was a “dislike” button… for this blog!!
    You might have to watch the drama from very start… or understand human nature!!


  • arsalan
    Mar 11, 2012 - 12:49PM

    “Had I been Khirad, he could’ve bled to death and I’d still not take him back” … thats why your r not khirad


  • Khan
    Mar 11, 2012 - 1:24PM

    Oh drop it. So what if the characters didn’t do exactly what YOU wanted them to do?


  • Jeddy
    Mar 11, 2012 - 1:39PM

    It is fantastic that this particular TV show has become the talk of the town.


  • Sara
    Mar 11, 2012 - 1:49PM



  • Humsafar hater
    Mar 11, 2012 - 1:53PM

    after reading this….I wanna say BAMM! That’s how its done. You’ve got a writing flair and an unbeleivable sense of humour


  • Farah
    Mar 11, 2012 - 2:14PM

    hahaha Lmao !! witty Saba! it was worth reading.! keep up the good work gal


  • Xbox
    Mar 11, 2012 - 2:19PM

    Am just fed-up of these “10 things…..” titled articles. Have Express Tribune writers completely lost their creativity/originality? I say, borrow it, rather than borrowing the titles, over and over again. Disappointing. But keep writing :)


  • oliver
    Mar 11, 2012 - 2:37PM

    I knew that “10 things I hate …. ” is going to be bad, but still like all forbidden things I couldn’t resist reading this piece of crab* !


  • Mar 11, 2012 - 2:40PM

    Time wasted.


  • alicia
    Mar 11, 2012 - 2:57PM

    AWWWSOME That is my thinking too.
    The drama had some serious flaws in it and people should not compare it to classics like dhoop kinaray, boota from toba tek singh.


  • HHK
    Mar 11, 2012 - 4:01PM

    What a foolish analysis ….. !!!!!


  • A
    Mar 11, 2012 - 4:46PM

    Haters gonna hate. Good drama with superb acting and direction. Don’t care about the script’s flaws.


  • Kathy
    Mar 11, 2012 - 5:23PM

    Its just unbelievable to see how can a foreign returned businesswomen, stylish and modern, is unaware of the latest medical research called DNA?


  • Mar 11, 2012 - 5:39PM

    I agree with all points but 5 and 6


  • Stricker
    Mar 11, 2012 - 7:23PM

    strong textI never watched even a single episode… Waste of time… Wake up Pakistan do something Productive…


  • MQ
    Mar 11, 2012 - 7:44PM

    Great article!


  • basma
    Mar 11, 2012 - 8:06PM

    iam in love with the drama characters n song superb


  • aasma
    Mar 11, 2012 - 8:15PM

    Nothing in the world is lawless. Apart from that, is it not enough that Humsafar, and eventually the Pakistani stars, got popularity all over the world? People here have problems with everything that becomes popular among the public.


  • Saman
    Mar 11, 2012 - 9:14PM

    I personally think that the writer was just having a personal thought about this. I’m pretty sure everyone had SOME kind of problem with the ending and ranted about it after they saw the final. So I really don’t think it’s that big of a deal to argue about. I agree with many views of the writer’s. I also agree that it’s not that necessary to create an argument on the internet over a drama that has ended already. I’m just satisfied that this drama is over and we can all have some other topic to discuss in future social gatherings. This drama was pretty stretched…but overall it was good. And that’s the reason we’re even discussing it…otherwise we would have stopped watching ages ago.


    Mar 11, 2012 - 9:41PM

    10 things I hate about 10 things


  • Bilal Sheikh
    Mar 11, 2012 - 10:17PM

    Buhat hi aala yaar !! very well written (Y) lol …


  • Ahsan
    Mar 11, 2012 - 11:06PM

    Agree with point # 9!
    All well written …

    thanks for sharing!


  • m
    Mar 11, 2012 - 11:49PM

    what nonsense


  • maverick titan
    Mar 12, 2012 - 12:45AM

    These ”10 things I hate” articles are becoming lame and lame everytime.ET should stop them and think of something new to put in.


  • famf
    Mar 12, 2012 - 1:31AM

    well like someone said above… as we wasted time at the gatherings and on the phone talking and discussing “humsafar” , same we are doing here, writing, reading and then commenting about it.
    this surely Does Identify tht THE DRAMa had some pulling force to it.
    the actors or the writing or the direction….
    u have to admit we all watched atleast two episodes of it waiting to see what unfolds next….
    so it had been a well spent span of 4 months at home in front of the tv on sats at 8 :)
    good writing :)


  • zalim singh
    Mar 12, 2012 - 7:21AM


  • Mar 12, 2012 - 8:38AM

    Think positive and stop criticizing just to criticize it .we must be proud of being a Pakistani drama viewer as every ones who speaks Urdu around the world is talking about this drama in their drawing rooms.
    If you have 10 bad things I know 100 grid things about this drama.


  • x
    Mar 12, 2012 - 9:48AM

    @simmering, get your facts right.
    firstly, after the fathers death, the wife inherits 1/8th of the property ONLY , the rest goes to the child(ren).
    secondly, after his best friend moved heaven and earth to destroy his marriage, tarnish his wife’s repute, be complicit in the plot to banish his pregnant wife from his life and then stalk him for the ensuing 4,5 years and then kill herself because her plans failed, he was supposed to mourn their ‘friendship’?seriously?


  • Mar 12, 2012 - 9:53AM

    My hate for “10 things i hate about” of express tribune goes to animation.

    Check out how i feel on each sunday on reading the article on this series


  • TMohsin
    Mar 12, 2012 - 10:12AM

    Great analysis..thats exactly how many other people feel…and one more thing to add..Ashar did’nt cry even a tear over his best friends suicide..which she actually did because of him ..but i think now we should get over humsafar..it was a good drama. That is it.


  • Mar 12, 2012 - 11:59AM

    Hate against “10 things i hate about” goes to animation


  • maliha abidi
    Mar 12, 2012 - 1:15PM

    About the few points which are expected to have obvious solutions – please note that the drama is based on an Urdu novel, which portrayed a story of a time which was was perhaps at least two decades old (please correct me if I’m wrong). In those days, there were no cell phones, there was no DNA testing, and even foreign educated guys were still back to their home land mentality because of how we raise our kids and the culture we live in. In that time, if a psychotic girl who has already attempted suicide once, commits suicide once and for all after 4.5 years of waiting and trying and having done what not to get the wife kicked out, and fails, it makes total sense. The drama tried to adapt the novel to recent times by introducing technology and reference that the viewer could relate to more easily. In that, there are bound to be a few gaps. Give the team some credit. They managed captive audience, brand objectives achieved, money made, what more do they want? ;) If you cant stand it, change channels, or admit the eye candy is worth it :p


  • areena
    Mar 12, 2012 - 1:32PM

    after his best friend moved heaven and earth to destroy his marriage, tarnish his wife’s repute, be complicit in the plot to banish his pregnant wife from his life and then stalk him for the ensuing 4,5 years and then kill herself because her plans failed, he was supposed to mourn their ‘friendship’?seriously?



  • Hirra
    Mar 12, 2012 - 1:41PM

    What about that scene when Ashar says to his mother: “Aap ko Khirad nahi pasand thi to mujhay bata detain, Mai issay ghar say nikal deta” with Khirad standing right there. What a wimp! Seriously! Recommend

  • wardah
    Mar 12, 2012 - 2:18PM

    hats offf!!!..


  • Samar
    Mar 12, 2012 - 6:18PM

    Agree with no. 4, 5 & 10


  • shaheen shah
    Mar 12, 2012 - 7:18PM

    @M.Aswad Mehatb:
    i agree! its adrama..trying to make logic out of it??err u really want to get into that era ?? okay so lets take it there sha ll we??
    a) i agree fareeda decides to have a mad eye crazy look and decides to have nothing but a mental break down was totally notthat great but the second point …what do u expecty that he throw his mother out on the streets after she is crazed? but ofcouyrse thats reasonmable isnt it? coz obviously she is a widow and well now a lunatic….throw her out seems the BEST option?
    b) if mr asher was the descendant of the devil herself….uhh hello DNA?? remember he was the son of her father AS WELL(DITTO FOR MISS HAREEM)?? so lets not go there shall we now? :)
    c) hell is surely not filled with all the ashers and cuteys…but imagine this,,,if u see the first episode it has been entrenched in her mind that asher was gouing to be her life partner since childhood,,,,now lets put miss classy sara who got everything she wanted…and looses her only true love to a weird hyderrabadi girl..ok so she hates her and plots and plans…but 4 very integral years of her life are flushed completely down the gutter when she makes a comeback with nothing but a doctors report ….i agree its not sucidal…but dude EVERYBODY has gone through that phase ,….lolz you and i both know it darn well how stupid we were…childish yes..hysterical..a bit of that too so when a drama needs a flavor u give that
    d) DO you realize that it was QB who made the world stir with her words? u know it she did and this was her debut..moreover the ending was great
    what i do agreee….please show some respect woh marr gaye?? and you forgot to mention when sara’;s mother informs miss fareeda of saras death…she hangs up the phone and starts looking for asher…uhhhh excuse me?? lolz yah thats wrong!! and ashers apology was over due…but i guess splashing in the rain washed away all her anger :PRecommend

  • manal
    Mar 12, 2012 - 7:23PM

    @ saba: i love love love the way you put all your articles!! i honestly want you to write something about your personal self in your blog!! the way you wrote about how fake ashers mom was had me rolling in fits of laughter!!thank god its finally over!!!Recommend

  • Owais
    Mar 12, 2012 - 8:34PM

    let it go….drama khatam ho gaya!


  • Mar 12, 2012 - 10:24PM

    Lol :)) take a look at hate # 8 about DNA test simply brilliant !


  • Mar 12, 2012 - 11:35PM


    Who put THAT letter in the box?
    “SARA MAR GAYI” is quite RUDE.
    Ashar didn’t mourn about his BEST FRIEND’s DEATH even for a second.

  • Sara
    Mar 12, 2012 - 11:48PM

    hahahahah…agree…absolutely..made me laugh out loud….:-D


  • Maheen Khan
    Mar 13, 2012 - 3:19AM

    ahhh… Come on this is what we have in our newspapers. I loved humsafar and I agree it had some flaws which were negligible because of overall supremacy and perfection but these are not such points which need to be mention or discussed except for fareeda aunty’s impossible challenge. This is really an immature article. After reading this, I think I can be better analyst. lol
    Saba need to watch starplus for flawless drama :P
    Humsafar drama na ho gaya osama ki halakat ho gai, bui humafar pakistani drama viewers k liye ik zabardast DRAMA tha koi matric ka board exam nhi. logo ko acha laga unho ne passand kia now dun make fun of their emotions.
    Fareeda aunty k qamyab challenge k bad me ap ko challenge deti hun hollywood, bollywood or from anyever, give me super hit piece and i’ll tell you 20 flaws which will be more sensible than these.
    Last but not the least grow up and welcome to real world. :P


  • sallu
    Mar 13, 2012 - 12:44PM

    Dear saba!
    actually this all drama is based on the novel written by Farhat Ishtiaq.It is a good effort but if u read that novel ,OMG that is extra ordinary wonderful novel and full of emotions,specially the emotions are presented beautilfully and completely that ur all 10 abjections will be removed automatically i m dead sure.


  • Roop
    Mar 16, 2012 - 1:42PM

    very nice analysis of Drama Husafar. I 100% agree with Saba Khalid. Pathetic grama and some dialogues were very much illogical,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,


  • ShaheeN shah
    Mar 17, 2012 - 2:30AM

    @Maheen Khan:
    I agree!!!!!! Completely please one article on star plus soap operas Saba!!!!! Please!!!


  • Manal
    Mar 17, 2012 - 7:07PM

    Oh wow what an epiphany that the dramas are based in novels… Err we kindaknow thatn I’m sure so does Saba. The monogamy n thecontinois women woes were not soared in this serial either … N plx being a happy trooper parading around this very known factor os pretty disturbing . Moreover please recheck that any thing when translated into English or another language will never bring that magic to the originality. Hence it’s about time apropos wrotescripts instead of plagiarizing off books. It’s absurd. DVDs are available all u humsafar fanatics go get it n spare us!


  • Zehra
    Mar 18, 2012 - 2:22AM

    they just killed it in the last episode. this cud have gone down as a classic. it didnt cuz of stupid ending and bad acting in the last one.


  • Sana
    Mar 19, 2012 - 10:37AM

    Love the article! I totally AGREE! Ashar doesn’t deserve forgiveness. He is a loser but we all take solace in the fact that this was just a story and not real life. Otherwise him and his mommy dearest need to be locked together in an asylum forever!


  • Samreen
    Mar 20, 2012 - 8:49AM

    Well i think the last three episode wa a total failure….infact the line asher told to his mom”Ap ko khirad passand nai thi tu mai useey chor daita(i dont remember the exact words)…..

    I dont get it how a writer can give such a messgae to her viewers…If a mother is not happy with her daughter in law ,the son can leave his wife just because his mother dont like his wife….Well we talk too often about our religious teachings …so nobody tell Farhat Ishtiaque its not gud to leave one’s wife because of sum minor issues….

    Atleast writer,director and producer have the social repsosibility to teach the audience in a way that is appropriate for our society….

    I hope next time atleast media would take repsoibiliy of what shud be aired on media.


  • arif
    Mar 23, 2012 - 9:58PM

    Miss Saba, Here is my take on this

    1) Ashar read the letter Khirad sent him in the second last episode which cleared the misunderstanding and guess what??? all the dramas these days circles around misunderstanding

    2) What Ashar did, I would have done the same thing because men are different in nature and they don’t take revenge like women. If his mom did something bad to him, do not expect that he would have been harsher than that. Men are born to give in and move on and sometimes they don’t even give a damn at things women hold so dearly

    3) Khirad wanted to be with him coz she loved him back but lying to herself all along… It is not called hypocrisy but it is more like denying the truth

    4) In regards to Ashar Apology, don’t expect anything further from Men.


  • Mar 27, 2012 - 10:26PM

    So when it’s all religiously Tribunish to follow the Tribune subculture once again, we get yet another read on prevalent social mayhem. As if perpetual bickering on all media had not made the average writer sick of it. That aside, the list format really does attract a lot of readers, myself included. Good job, regardless.


  • Shumaila
    Mar 30, 2012 - 4:55PM

    Didn’t catch the last episode, but now that I know what happened, won’t bother youtubing it. Hilarious article though! Soo agree with you! hahaha!!


  • Summaya
    Apr 3, 2012 - 9:51AM

    First of all…hats off!
    I totally agree with you.As a matter of fact,I didn’t even watch Humsafar.Everyone was gone crazy for it..hello?


  • Fatima
    Apr 4, 2012 - 9:59AM

    Nice writing power, saba! But u know i think the drama was seriously gr8 no matter wat!!! :)


  • Mishaal
    Apr 27, 2012 - 6:08AM

    Lol , a pretty good list! Especially # 5. I totally thought that! Who says that about their own daughter? Marr gayee hai? But to be honest, looking at it from a perspective that it is a DESI drama, you will understand why it is the way it was :P There has to be some cheesy unrealistic stuff.


    Apr 30, 2012 - 5:35PM

    its really nyc drama i like saraRecommend

  • Sarfraz
    May 7, 2012 - 3:00PM

    I agree to certain points, but then afterall it was a entertaining drama.


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