Walk away when it is time, advocates Juggun Kazim

Actor reflected on love and not being taken for granted

In a recent appearance on Imran Ashraf's Mazaq Raat, actor and television host Juggun Kazim found herself on the other side of the questions as she opened up about her previous marriage and the importance of walking away at the right time.

"I think I learned more from that experience than I ever learned at school or college," reminisced Juggun as she recalled her the trauma of first marriage. The Hadsa actor has previously shared painful revelations of how she remained a victim of domestic violence in that relationship for a year and a half until she walked out with her child in tow.

"I had a lot of love for my son Hamza's father, but there came a point where I could not tolerate the violence and abuse," she reminded viewers and explained why everyone cannot choose to leave in such circumstances. "A lot of people do tolerate it, however, because that is their way of handling the situation."

Having experienced the overwhelming feelings of a mother, Juggun explained that it was wrong for a woman to seek love only from a man. "We had a child together, I definitely had feelings for him," she recollected about her ex-husband. "But then I learned that if a woman does not get love from a man she is in a relationship with, she can get it from her child. The love you get from a child is enough. You do not need crazy infatuation to live your life and be happy; what you need is a love that is sustainable."

Juggun went on to lament the ease with which some people allow themselves to be taken for granted and observed that some have a tendency to lose sight of what they have.

"The people who have the biggest heart are valued the least because others always assume that they will be there," she rued. "Also, people only value what they don't have – which is why people change the minute they sign the marriage document." The actor insisted that it was not just men who took women for granted, or vice versa.

"You will note that where they would once talk to their fiancée on the phone, boys suddenly start going on their boys' nights out," remarked the Agar actor. "And women do the same thing in their own way. The fact is, as soon as you get something, you lose the value of it. You should always fear you will lose the other person."

As someone who has already been a victim of domestic violence once and found the strength to walk away, Juggun advised viewers to guard their boundaries, and warned of the dangers of letting anyone cross their limits.

"If someone is taking you for granted, it is a full stop," she stated firmly. According to Juggun, no one else can help you know what your boundaries are, and that it is up to you to take a stand to take charge of your life.

A firm advocate for agency, the host also reminded viewers that they did not have the power to change anyone else. Reiterating the importance of walking away once a line has been crossed, as she had once done, the actor added, "Ultimately, only you know how much you can tolerate it. You cannot change anyone else. You only know what your own limit is. You do not need to punish yourself. You can walk away."