Rule over me for the whole year and behave like my slave for a few days: KRQ's advice to wife

Khalilur Rehman Qamar’s controversial and at times, misogynistic remarks have often landed him in hot waters, earning him a problematic reputation in the industry. But the nonchalance displayed by the screenwriter towards the backlash is what drives most people insane.

This time, the Meray Paas Tum Ho writer has aired his views on harassment, divorced women and marriage, in a recent appearance on a local talk show. And safe to say, he has stirred the pot once again.

Upon being asked what constitutes as harassment for the writer, he said, “What is harassment? If a guy is staring at a girl and she likes it, then it’s not harassment. But if he’s staring at her and she doesn’t like it, then it’s harassment. What is everyone talking about? It’s rubbish.” When the host suggested that even an unsolicited “good morning” message can count as harassment these days, the London Nahi Jaunga writer rolled his eyes and said, “It’s ridiculous. Ghatiya baat hai yeh.”

The host reiterated that this is where consent comes into play but Qamar insisted, “Do women not check out boys? If you’re saying it’s not both ways, then lawyers will always be fetching harassment cases. Every day a new person would show up with rage. With such cases, what witnesses will you even bring? Should people start walking with cameras in their hands all the time now?”

Moving on to the subject of marriage, Qamar shared the three advices he strongly follows in his marriage. “I always tell my wife that she is immature right now and so, she should not befriend any woman who has gone through a breakup or gotten divorced.” He assured that it was not because he felt divorced women are bad women. “Not to say divorced women are bad but frankly, they can never be happy in your happiness, because they’ve just lost what you have. It’s human nature. Maybe, once you’re mature, then you’ll see who to befriend and why.”

As for the second “advice”, Qamar shared that he requires his wife to “behave like his slave” for at least four to five days a year so that his ego is satisfied too. “Rule over me all year but for four-five days, become my slave so even I can have my ego satisfied and feel like the dominant person I am.”

The last advice sans complaint Qamar had was from the “male community.” He said, “When men pull up the ghungat after nikkah, the first thing they say is ‘respect my mother.’ Why? Is your mother not deserving of respect already that you’ve to tell your wife that?”

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