Hadiqa Kiani reflects on how ex-husband's insecurities led to collapse of first marriage

The ‘Dobara’ actor spoke about taking red flags seriously in recent interview with Nida Yasir

Musician and actor Hadiqa Kiani, in a recent appearance on Nida Yasir's morning show, opened up about her first marriage, elaborating on its tumultuous nature and eventual collapse.

The Raqeeb Se actor, in a candid conversation with the host, detailed how she and animator Hammad Hassan eventually parted ways because of his family’s disapproval of her career choice. Hadiqa shared that while Hammad, a 3D animator, who worked with her on the music video for her song Tu Agar Mil Jata, fell in love with her, their decision to tie the knot was completely arranged.

Recalling the rishta process, Hadiqa revealed, “My only condition was that I would not leave music. I told them to think of me as stubborn if they must but that I know I’m not doing anything wrong. Why should I degrade my path? My soul is connected to my voice. I took a stand for myself. My sister didn’t, even though she also has a beautiful voice.”

On her career choices, the musician added, “Hammad never stopped me from pursuing music. He never put any restrictions on me when it comes to clothing either.” She continued, “The main reason for the collapse of the marriage was his mother’s disapproval of my music. I always say, ‘Make a commitment you can honour.’ Don’t end up ignoring the ground realities when you are in love with someone. That’s immature.”

Reflecting on the red flags that she observed before marriage, Hadiqa added, “During my engagement, I was not satisfied. I felt the friction developing between us… He attempted suicide by consuming pills when that happened. An intellectual, educated man. I should have backed out then, but I ended up thinking, ‘A man is willing to give up his life for me. He’ll always care for me. We’ll be happy.’ But that wasn’t the case. It was more about getting what he wanted. So, when relationships are based on ownership, you are never truly appreciated. You are given a role. You aren’t stopped from pursuing music but when you return home from a show, you are berated.”

The Dobara actor went on to say that due to insecurities on part of her ex-husband, she had to diminish her success and her marriage eventually came to an end after over five years.

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