If a man hits you once, he will hit you twice: Mathira

The actor and host shared ordeal of being in an abusive marriage

Actor and host Mathira Mohammad has shared some intimate details about her personal life with regard to marriage and motherhood in a recent interview.

The popular TV personality had tied the knot to Farran J Mirza - aka Flint J - a Punjabi singer, in 2012. The couple however split in 2018 and co-parent their son, Ahil, who was born in 2014. However, the Blind Love diva has now revealed the nature of her marriage with the musician and the trauma that followed.

The 29-year-old spoke about how abusive her marriage with the singer was and expanded on the injustices she witnessed during the six-year-long relationship. She became a victim of domestic violence during her toxic marriage and it took her years to reflect and break the chain of manipulating oneself.

“If a relationship is abusive, it will remain abusive (forever). If a man hits you once, he will hit you twice," said Mathira in a statement. Reflecting on her former marriage, the actor shared, “When I got married, my bold character wanted to prove something to myself and make things work. I decided to contribute to household chores ten times more than a ‘normal’ housewife. I should not have done it because I was not a maid," she added.

Mathira went on further to label the conundrum of wives in abusive relationships waiting and wasting years on their husbands to change for them. She called it ‘mental slavery’. She added that it’s always a ‘team effort’. She also thinks that one cannot stay in a one-sided relationship and make all efforts to save a marriage. “That was a mistake I made,” she added.

Coming to motherhood, in another instance, Mathira appeared on Nauman Ijaz’s chat show, G Sarkar and talked about her son other than Aahil Rizvi, her child with former husband Flint J. She revealed the rapper was her second husband. Her first marriage, however, happened when she was very young. Hence, the actor had her first baby when she was only sixteen. Her first baby boy is now twelve years old while Aahil turned seven this year. 

She confessed that she likes to keep certain aspects of her personal life, such as her children, away from the media to avoid public scrutiny and security threats.