Tall and muscular with a beard supporting his scruffy look: this man represents the ‘alpha-male’ — the type we imagine to be the first to rush into a burning building. But the era of the so-called macho man is under threat from a recent, but better-groomed, rival — the metro man. Can these two coexist peacefully or will they battle it out to the end? Who decides which makes the better male? Advertising agency Euro RSCG’s strategy planning director sums up the conflict: “The definition of what it means to be male is changing.”
As the global phenomenon of the ‘metro man’ grips the urban classes of Pakistan’s major cities, a man’s grooming kit expands from razor and toothbrush, to form a pouch containing shower gels, moisturisers and the ever essential, hair wax. The demand for such products is evinced by the fact that the global market for male beauty products is worth £16 billion each year, according to The Daily Mail.
The Pakistani market of such products has also developed with the surge in outlets which cater to these demands by introducing various services ranging from facials to manicures and pedicures, and from hair straightening to hair streaking. When asked if local men avail these services, Nadeem Ahmad from The Men’s Salon by Peng answered: “Yes. It’s not like these men come here before weddings or special occasions. They visit regularly.” According to Ahmed, the most commonly availed services are facials, followed by manicures and pedicures.
Well-known stylist Tariq Amin supports the concept of metro-sexuality, as long as men don’t compete with women. He maintains that men should “stay within the realm of men” when grooming, and urges them to “look presentable while keeping their identity of being a ‘man’”. When asked why it was acceptable for celebrities to groom themselves extensively if normal men shouldn’t, Amin is quick to reply: “If a guy wears make-up for his professional duties, there’s no harm in it, but one shouldn’t turn up to an audition wearing make-up.”
Stylist Ruqayya Adamjee encourages men to look after themselves: “It’s high time men started to groom themselves.” She, too, believes that men seeking to groom themselves should stay within certain limits, though not defining exactly what these are.
When asked if men should go beyond a simple haircut, actor Adnan Siddiqui didn’t hesitate: “Why not?” Siddiqui, who is also the owner of men’s salon Get Smart added, “There is a thin line between being a sissy and remaining a man.” He claims that today’s rising trends owe credit to his previously owned salon, Clippers: “People always wanted these services. Clippers provided them with an outlet.” The increase in numbers has “not only been due to European influence but also because of increasing awareness among men.” Combating the notion that personal grooming lessens ones ‘masculinity’, Siddiqui says that some of his clients have been sportsmen. And indeed, renowned sportsmen, such as Fernando Torres, Christiano Ronaldo and even some of our local sports stars, have advertised grooming services, while remaining symbols of masculinity.
The wave of metro-sexuality is not limited to the posh areas, but spreading all over Karachi. When asked whether men avail grooming services, the man in charge of a small barber shop in Gulshan-e- Iqbal, responded with a firm, “Yes”. However, the prices at this shop are much lower than those in salons of posh localities, with about Rs500 for a facial, instead of Rs2,000. The barber maintains that men of all ages come to get facials and hair straightening. When asked if he thinks utilising these services coincide with the general concept of being a ‘man’, he smiles and diplomatically states, “I am not against it; primarily because it’s my sole way of earning a living.”
Saad Ahmed, a student at Canada’s McGill University, accepts the change: “Grooming doesn’t involve becoming a girl or sacrificing one’s manliness. It’s about keeping clean.” Another college student, Mujtaba Shahbazker, disagrees vehemently: “Grooming is fragile. Men should be tough.”
Times may be changing but conflicts between the two types remain, with perhaps the more diplomatic among us asking whether ‘macho’ and ‘metro’ are really even diametrically opposed.
Published in The Express Tribune, August 17th, 2011.
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Didnt know we had so many sissies as tribune readers agreeing to the grooming thing
My name isnt "taha ali(?)". And its not really about courage, I dont really like to share information about me on random websites.
taha ali please have the courage to comment from your own name instead of using 'lol'
Anas isnt really criticizing the article, its his opinion, which can be as "antagonistic" as he wants. Even if he was criticizing, he isnt in any way inclined to be "constructive". Patronizing the few negative comments with flashy words with remarks highlighting his grammar just shows a level of insecurity you feel about your article, if you want to write in the future, learn to accept the good with the bad. Cheers
To Anas:
Punctuation and simple powers of observation could have strengthened your comment: A) There were two writers credited: perhaps you meant "You aren't good writers". A subjective viewpoint, and one you're entitled to hold, of course - although some evidence/examples to show why, could shift the tone of your message from merely antagonistic to constructive. B) None of the people directly quoted in the article seem to have commented. Perhaps one or two were questioned in the early stages of planning the article: it's natural for their interest to have been piqued enough to subsequently read, comment, and even appreciate the article in its entirety.
Thanks for your time.
Why do the same people you interview praise the article ? You arent a good writer or people apart from your friends would praise you.
Macho men probably spend as much time working out as metro men do dressing up. They both care about their image, the only difference being the latter adopts the policy of publicly admitting that he desires to look good. In essence, the macho man is in fact a hidden metro - his gymming and I-don't-care-how-I-look style is his version of "grooming". Agree Mr. Suria and Ms. Khan?
The image of metro-man came into Europe/US a few years ago and has been dismissed as too much of an feminization
Nowadays there is a middle between the old macho and the new metro which means you still want the basic feautures of the old alpha-male combined with a few new attributes like caring about one's look in detail, having hobbys which were considered bad in the past....
class 2?
Wonderful article and a must-read!! Really looking forward to more articles from you!
Very interesting and very well written
Interesting article and writers like you keep me coming to this site. I may be at university but i'll always find time to read a well thought out article on the tribune. Like others have said, well done Mr. Ammar
Learn to spell the name properly, its cristiano ronaldo and "christiano".
To 10th:
Given that our article highlighted how "the global phenomenon of the ‘metro man’ grips the urban classes of Pakistan’s major cities", we thought it appropriate to obtain comments from members of these classes, who are the ones likely to avail the services described. It may not be a sample representative of our entire society, but it seemed appropriate for the purposes of this particular article. Obviously, obtaining comments from only the stylists themselves would not provide a measured viewpoint. "Increasing the word count" was not a consideration.
Thanks for your views, though!
a great article. well researched and really getting the point out there. well done ammar suria!
I thoroughly researched and well presented article. Good job by Mr.Suria and Adeela. Comments made by the trend setters in the fashion world were what really hit me. Well done.
I don't think anyone cares about the views of college students like Saad Ahmed and Mujtaba Shahbazkar. If you're writing an article, please refrain from mentioning such random people just to prove a point. There are better ways of getting your point across or increasing the word count.
I have to strongly agree with the authors of this article. This trend is on the rise and it will become the norm in a few years if not months. Men should not be ashamed of trying to look good, they should instead embrace it with open arms. Its about time someone gave this topic some attention!
Very well written and researched.
A hybrid would be the best! That is, a groomed macho man. I don't mind manicured nails as long as he's not wearing nail paint on 'em.
the definition of what it means needs to change in our society,our present image of a mard means a person who uses violence rather than debate to resolve conflicts,a man who is the boss of his house and lets his wife know her place,a man who can't stand if his wife goes out and earns and who'll go stark ravingmad if she earns more than him. any man who is not conan the barbarian type in pakistani society is immediately labelled as gay by our people. our women have to share a lot of the blame in perpetuating this image of a man, pakistani women have got to be the most homophobic in the world, they half expect their husbands to beat them up and this i've heard from countless of my female friends from an elite university,they refuse to divorce their husbands although they beat their wives up,our mothers,sisters,girlfriends and wives should stop inciting their males to violence to prove their mardangi.