Pain and loss: Model Farwa Ali Kazmi reveals she had a miscarriage

'Losing a child is not the mother's fault nor in her control,' the model shared in an emotional Instagram post

2020 has been a year where celebrities vowed to bring in awareness about certain taboos. One of the unlikely topics stars hoped to normalise in society was miscarriages. Known personalities such as Chrissy Teigen, Beyonce and the Duchess of Sussex Meghan Markle bravely shared their stories of losing a child on social media to extend support to couples going through the same ordeals. 

The recent celebrity to talk about miscarriages is Pakistani model Farwa Ali Kazmi. Taking to Instagram, the model shared a post with a picture of her ultrasound and wrote a detailed caption.

"While everyone looks back at this year and shares good memories, I am sharing my story that doesn't have a happy ending.
I went through something called a "missed miscarriage". People seldom talk about miscarriage because a lot of guilt, shame and pain is attached to it," she began. "I feel we need to speak more about the uncomfortable and difficult topics because not talking about it makes it feel worse. Losing a child is monumental and should be mourned for as long as one wants. It's not the mother's fault nor in her control."

 

 

 

 

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She went on to add, "I was scrolling through my notes today and came across a love letter that I had written for my baby that was never born and I couldn't even look at it. It brought back all the painful memories from the day I ended up in labour room."

Kazmi added that she "does not want to go into details of it but it's unimaginable pain and loss for someone who hasn't gone through it."

She went on, "What it feels like, to think at one moment that you'll be bringing a baby home in seven months and the next second you know that you won't because your embryo doesn’t have a heartbeat. It's doesn't end here. The process of terminating pregnancy is like the worst nightmare. It's like so much pain without any gain. I'm still dealing with complications after the miscarriage that I would like to talk about in detail in another post."

"This year hasn't given us many reasons to celebrate but we have survived despite all the hardships and that's celebratory. I received love and care during these difficult times, that was unknown to me before," Kazmi continued, adding, "It is because of my family and some of my friends (you know who you are) that I was able to process this trauma and can now talk about it openly. I am so so grateful for you all."

Lastly, she hoped and prayed for 2021 to be kinder, happier and prosperous for all. 

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