Singer and actor Mohsin Abbas Haider, on Monday night, opened up about suffering from depression in a rather worrisome post on all of his social media accounts.
The Na Maloom Afraad star has been much loved by his fans for his acting prowess and multiple other talents. While he might be doing great professionally, his mental health appears to be anything but. “Depression is all set to kill me soon,” he wrote in a now deleted post. “Just wanted to say thanks to the people who caused it.”
Soon after Abbas’ message, celebs and fans came out to support him and asked him to get help. Osman Khalid Butt was one of the first to offer the Meri Guriya actor his assistance. “I’m here any time you need to talk or vent. Stay strong. You are loved.”
Chalay Thay Saath actor Mansha Pasha also reached out to Abbas to ask about his well being. Other than her, model Amna Babar, actor Tooba Siddiqui, singer Natasha Baig and VJ Anoushey Ashraf sent love to Haider as well.
Ayesha Omar also asked him to hold on. In her comment, the starlet wrote, “You’re not alone, Mohsin. Just talk to someone and get help. Talk to anyone you feel like but talk. Don’t be afraid to get help or open up about what you’re feeling. It is completely okay to not be okay. There are so many people who love you and your energy. I’m one of them.”
She further advised him, “Just take 15 minutes at a time. Surround yourself with people who lift you up. Forget everything else. This is about you and you got this. Put on Surah Rehman when you feel helpless. It will give you peace. And then get help. Professional and friendly. Do not let anyone’s opinion define you. They are people, just like you.”
Comedian Ali Gul Pir and model Fia Khan went on to share their own ordeals with depression and offered help to the actor.
“I was a patient myself,” Khan confessed. “You have to fight this battle on your own. But you would need help and trust me, that brings peace. I started yoga and began praying regularly that took me out of that (depression). You have to constantly tell yourself that you can’t let (the other side) win over. It sounds weird but it really helps. Sending lots of positive energy your way.”
Pir wrote, “I don’t know you personally but I suffer from anxiety, which might not be anything close to what you are going through. However, I want you to know that it is tough but it will get better. If you ever need to talk to talk or listen or tell you jokes, I’m your man. I know we don’t know each other but I’ve heard great things about you and would love to get to know you.”
According to Deborah Serani – a psychologist who suffers from depression herself – the best thing to do for someone with depression is just to be there.
There are many other ways to lend support if you’re someone who’s uncomfortable with emotional expression. Serani recommends small gestures like sending cards, cooking a meal or leaving a voice note.
What you say can have a very powerful impact. Serani suggests avoiding statements such as, ‘I think it’s all in your head’ as it can imply that the other person has a “choice to feel a certain way” or that they’re “choosing” to be depressed. It’s not only insensitive but can alienate the patient even more.
Educating yourself about depression can be a big turning point in helping someone who suffers from it. Once you understand the symptoms and consequences, it will be easy for you to identify and support your loved one.
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