I was four the first time I was sexually abused: Nadia Jamil

Published: January 14, 2018


After the horrific Kasur incident, where an eight-year-old girl was found raped and murdered, many celebs came forward to voice their anguish over the matter.

Famed actor Nadia Jamil was one of the first ones to express their despair over the matter and called for justice on the terrifying incident.

Now, the actor herself has opened up about her own dreadful episodes of sexual abuse.

“I was four the first time I was abused sexually,” wrote Jamil on Twitter.

She went on to add that it didn’t stop there. “I was in college when it blew out of proportion. People tell me not to talk to respect my family’s honour. Is my family’s honour packed in my body? I am a proud, strong, loving survivor. No shame on me or my kids. Only pride for being me,” added Jamil in the same tweet.

She went on to share the horrendous happenings and wrote, “When I sexually abused it was by my Kari Sahab, my Driver & then by a highly educated elite family’s son. Now, a happily married business man in London. It’s across the board. Men abuse across the board. My family still wants me to stay silent. But the shame IS NOT MINE! Never ever.”

“Every time a child is sexually abused he/she is me. I will never shut up about it. & I will always say to the child, the child’s families, you, there is no shame for the abused survivor & we can help lead the to a joyful positive productive life. The shame is on the MEN who abuse,” added the actor.

In Jamil’s opinion, the only way to stop the abuse is to educate masses. “The cure is literacy, poverty alleviation and an empathetic education that counters all patriarchal, misogynistic discourse on women, womens bodies and male entitlement to sexual gratification for power. PLUS awareness and protection workshops for kids, schools, parents.”

She further urged women and victims to not feel shame while talking about their stories. “I only share it so more women & men who have been abused STOP feeling SHAME and see their is a light inside them Allah has kept burning. Shine it! There is a way out of the hell of humiliation & pain. We can make it out & up to a beautiful place of gratitude! Always! Shukar always!”

Previously, many other celebs joined #JusticeForZainab protests.

Actors such as Faysal Quraishi, Mahira Khan and Shahzad Roy joined protesters at Press Club Karachi.

Qureshi said, “We have addressed a similar issue before. We have made various dramas about it as well. But here’s the thing…How can a five or six-year-old girl resist a grown man?”

He further added, “We are blaming the parents, blaming the issue and not being aware enough. But there is sound awareness regarding sexual abuse in American schools and it’s happen there as well. The only difference is that we see results there. Justice is served.”

Faysal Quraishi, Ayesha Omar and Nadia Hussain join #JusticForZainab protests in Karachi

The Raees starlet came forth and said that she wished a time would come when no one will have to come out on the streets demanding justice for any more such cases. “It’s high time we need to put this in our syllabus so that all the children get to know about it. The parents also need to be educated regarding sexual abuse,” said Khan.

Singer Shahzad Roy added that we need to change the social fabric of Pakistan. “We need to create a society where a child who has been abused can talk to their parents and they can take necessary steps to help the child instead of being in denial about it,” he said.

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Reader Comments (12)

  • rao amjad ali
    Jan 14, 2018 - 3:29PM

    You are rock solid!

    It takes an enormous amount of moral courage to come out and share the kind of torture you endured more than once, starting at age 4.

    Indeed, the adage, that you will not be remembered for what you have achieved but what you have been able to overcome, fits you perfectly. May you move from strength to strength and keep fighting for the cause of child protection, rape and murder.Recommend

  • Parvez
    Jan 14, 2018 - 4:36PM

    I appreciate this courageous step of opening up. We must shame the act of abuse and stand by those who are victims and specially those who speak up. Nadia, I salute you for carrying forward your life and for speaking on this issueRecommend

  • Pats
    Jan 14, 2018 - 5:14PM

    Having multiple wives deprive other able men find a suitable bride for themselves. When they see other men having multiple wives, the anger, sexual urge in them force them to find little girls and Innocent boys. Restrict wife count. The problem will automatically disappear.Recommend

  • Abdul sami
    Jan 14, 2018 - 5:17PM

    I am a survivor my self was abused by family acquaintance… it’s not just the female child that gets the abuse; male child gets abuse as well and both are huge taboos in society to talk about… it’s not about being poor or rich a child is the most vulnerable individual in a society…Recommend

  • Farooq Ahmed
    Jan 14, 2018 - 5:54PM

    Serious social issues can only be tackled by taking them headon. First accept the problem then fight for permanent solution.Recommend

  • Dr ijaz habib
    Jan 14, 2018 - 7:48PM

    Right to expose the abusers! Its time for mandatory awareness information in the course material for school kids..and sensitize communities on the their kids sex education and preventive measures.Recommend

  • ahsan
    Jan 14, 2018 - 7:54PM

    To Nadia Jamil, you are a very courageous lady. It is very rampant in our society and these acts of violence are committed against the most innocent in the society.Recommend

  • Shahana
    Jan 14, 2018 - 11:24PM

    If a child is abused by Kari’s drivers or any relatives the parents should be. Held responsible! Its their negligenceRecommend

  • Parvez
    Jan 14, 2018 - 11:58PM

    I am a big fan …… your strength and honesty deserves the highest praise. Recommend

  • Erum
    Jan 15, 2018 - 12:11PM

    So proud, inshallah your courage will help many.Recommend

  • Bunny Rabbit
    Jan 15, 2018 - 12:57PM

    Truth be told – those days the aware ness was not this much like today . lets stop blaming our parents / guardians who are in their 80s today . they did their best then with their limited resources . Recommend

  • Jamal
    Jan 15, 2018 - 1:06PM

    Hashtag MeToo by Pakistani “celebrities”. Question is, if you were allegedly abused in childhood, what you have done to stop this happening with others? Raised any awareness in your community? Recommend

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