Man reunites with father after 1971 war

Published: January 5, 2016
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Ibrahim Sani was hardly six years old when India and Pakistan went to war over what was then East Pakistan. PHOTO: fb.com/musa.chulunkha

Ibrahim Sani was hardly six years old when India and Pakistan went to war over what was then East Pakistan. PHOTO: fb.com/musa.chulunkha

GILGIT: 

Abdul Gafoor couldn’t believe his eyes; was the bearded man approaching him really his son Ibrahim Sani, his son whom he last met more than four decades ago. “Oh my child, is it really you?” said Gafoor as he held Sani tightly in his arms.

The father and son met at Skardu airport in the week of December 28 after 44 long years. Local journalist Musa Chulunkha who witnessed the rare reunion said the scene made many teary-eyed at the airport where Sani had landed from Islamabad after a long journey from India last Monday.

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“How lucky am I to see my son again after such a long time. I can’t believe my eyes. God had perhaps kept me alive for this very day,” Gafoor told The Express Tribune over the telephone before emotions took hold of him and he started weeping.

Gafoor and his son are victims of the 1971 war which in one December night drew a searing line through the very heart of families in Ghanche district of Gilgit-Baltistan.

Ibrahim Sani was hardly six years old when India and Pakistan went to war over what was then East Pakistan. As the war rapidly escalated, the Indian army crossed the Line of Control (LoC) that divides the Himalayan region into Pakistani and Indian territories, and occupied Chulunkha, Tyakshi, Thang and Turtuk of Chorbat village in Ghanche district on the Pakistani side. The morning came and people who used to live in Pakistan were suddenly a part of an area controlled by another nation.

Gafoor and his family used to live in Tyakshi, Chorbat close to Ladakh. But it was his luck of the draw; when Indian forces took over Chorbat, Gafoor, then 38, was in Skardu. He had left his wife, a daughter and son behind in search of a job. His wife and children, however, woke up to find Tyakshi was Indian-controlled territory.

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“Just like that, I was told my land and my family were no longer mine,” said Gafoor. “I had lost everything but hope to that war; hope for a reunion one day. Perhaps God kept me alive for this very moment.”

As time passed by, Gafoor married another woman and they had a daughter and a son. While one family took root across the border, Sani the child grew up listening to stories about Gafoor, conjuring and resurrecting a father he did not know.

“I don’t remember when all of this happened,” said Sani, who is now 52. “My mother kept me telling stories of war and my father till her death some years back,” Sani told The Express Tribune in an exclusive interview over the telephone from Skardu town.

“This [reunion] is my second birth. I’m so thankful to God for making this happen. Our father had been the centre of our family’s conversations in all those long years.” Sani said, “We would just think of him and try and imagine what he liked to eat and how ecstatic he would be to see us again.”

The first letter

It was after nine long years of separation, Sani said, when the first letter arrived from relatives across the LoC, re-establishing ties which the arbitrary nature of war almost severed.

Gafoor’s relatives who could read and write used to translate the letter into Balti so the father could read about his family living across the border.

The correspondence continued till telephone service was established in the region in the early 2000s. At present cellular service is the source of communication between the two ends but holding a plastic device connecting crackling voices is hardly a substitute for meeting your own flesh and blood in person.

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Where the two ends meet

The journey between the two ends which once took only a few hours on foot stretched to weeks of arduous travel requiring proof of a life in paperwork. Sani had to first visit the Pakistani embassy in Delhi, a five-day trip. “The embassy gave me a one month visa for Pakistan,” said the man who sounded fatigued just talking about it.

“Next I had to travel to Wagah Border where I had to fulfil other formalities.” Once in Pakistan, Islamabad was the next destination where he had to spend two weeks to complete visa formalities which included an application for the extension of his visa for another three months.

“Let me tell you again – I was lucky enough to get a PIA ticket immediately which took me to Skardu.”

Sani is now with his father and other relatives in Skardu. He is hopeful his visa will be extended for another three months. But Sani lacks peace of mind he says; that he does not know when he can set foot on what was once his own homeland haunts him.

“Will I ever be able to see my father again? What will happen to my father once I go back [to Tyakshi]?” said Sani. “Isn’t it possible for both governments to just open the traditional route between the two ends of our worlds to let the relatives meet each other once in a while?” Sani stops to think but fails to answer his own question.

 

Published in The Express Tribune, January 5th, 2016.

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Reader Comments (9)

  • Fahad Raza
    Jan 5, 2016 - 9:34AM

    MashaAllahRecommend

  • Muhammad Fateh Toheed
    Jan 5, 2016 - 10:35AM

    Masha Allah. a heartwarming reunion. :)Recommend

  • azmat
    Jan 5, 2016 - 4:00PM

    what a heart wrenching and heart warming story at the same time. The story of son’s desire to see his father whom he had only heard about and the story of a father’s resilience and hope.All this against the story of cruelty of the two states and their utter disregard for the welfare of the people effected by the war. Its worthy of making in to a filmRecommend

  • Usman
    Jan 5, 2016 - 6:56PM

    It is an utter injustice that movement of people between the two nations is so so hard, war or no war. This has more to do with inefficient bureaucracy than India Pakistan relations.Recommend

  • Abbas Ali
    Jan 5, 2016 - 7:38PM

    Pakistan reluctance to open Skardu Kargil route to reunite the divided families is incomprehensible .Pakistan government sent the nationalist leader of Gilgit Baltistan in prison on demanding to Open Skardu Kargil road and supporting the 1971 refugees. Recommend

  • Disgusting
    Jan 5, 2016 - 10:04PM

    Shame on this father who instead of finding his family remarried. The son should have lgnored him to live his own life.Recommend

  • Sehi Banda
    Jan 6, 2016 - 7:49PM

    @disgusting,

    You don’t know the facts. As the article states, Once Indian Army violated the LOC, the people on both border could not travel. It was not allowed. Those on Pakistan side were not allowed to immigrate or move to Indian Occupied side. The Visa travel only facilitated recently, even that takes months. In this story, the Father was not educated enough and most definitely did not have a passport, means or knowledge of how to travel to a hostile territory taken over the another country. You can not blame the old person, without even trying to learn a little bit of facts.Recommend

  • Dr Mehdi
    Jan 7, 2016 - 4:40PM

    Common
    You all don’t no
    The son find no place n respect in his own village that’s why now he may try to find his
    Otherwise why both of them silent since 1971 there are thousands of other option available to reunite Recommend

  • Jan 12, 2016 - 9:48PM

    This father know where is his family but kept quite and got married to some other women and started living separately. India withdrew their troops during 1973 itself after negotiations by Bhutto. Many families reunited then, but this story seem to be strange.Recommend

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