In recent days, the case of Onya Andrew, a US citizen who refused to leave Karachi after a failed romantic relationship, has garnered significant media attention. According to reports, Onya came to Pakistan due to her love for a local teenager. However, after the relationship did not work out, she resisted departing the country, causing disruptions at Karachi Airport. Her emotional distress and refusal to board her flight have sparked debates not only about immigration laws but also about the psychological implications of her behaviour. From a psychological perspective, this case presents a complex interplay of emotional trauma, attachment issues, cultural shock and public scrutiny.
One of the most significant aspects of this case is the emotional distress that Onya Andrew exhibited. Romantic rejection can lead to acute psychological reactions, including denial, anxiety and depression. The human brain processes romantic rejection similarly to physical pain, activating the same neural pathways. This could explain why Onya found it difficult to accept her situation and comply with authorities, as her emotional state likely overwhelmed her ability to make rational decisions.
Furthermore, her behaviour may reflect an anxious-preoccupied attachment style. People with such attachment tendencies often struggle with separation and may exhibit obsessive behaviours when faced with rejection. If Onya had envisioned a future with her partner in Pakistan, the abrupt collapse of this dream might have caused a psychological crisis, making it difficult for her to leave the country willingly.
Cultural differences and cognitive dissonance also play a crucial role in her distress. Moving to a foreign country for love is a major emotional and psychological investment. When such expectations fail, individuals may experience severe inner conflict. Onya’s reluctance to leave could be a result of struggling to reconcile her expectations with reality.
Finally, the public and political scrutiny surrounding her case might have worsened her mental state. High-ranking officials, reportedly made remarks about her situation, possibly intensifying her feelings of isolation and humiliation. Instead of political rhetoric, a compassionate psychological intervention, including counselling, could help her transition through this distressing experience.
Dr Intikhab Ulfat
Karachi
