In an attempt to discover answers, people don't realise that they had been searching in the wrong places all along
KARACHI: In such sensitive and critical times, stay-at-home measures are ideal for many who enjoy completing work from the comfort of their own homes. But for many, having to stay at home constitutes living by the standards of those supervising or even controlling the house. In such a situation it may seem difficult to follow one’s individual schedule since they have an added burden of abiding by the expectations of other household members.
The latter, which may seem common in many South Asian households, becomes an overarching list of fulfillments that an individual is required to complete, in order to maintain a certain reputation within the confines of their own home. In the arches of trying to define or understanding how such patterns are unhealthy to begin with, an individual seems to miscalculate the measures needed to curb something detrimental. This is where grief makes its presence. In circumstances where an individual is unable to define the behavioural patterns expressed through the kingpin of one’s home, blame is automatically internalised by the one who is experiencing it. It is through that culpability that the individual experiences immense grief which soon manifests into frustration.
In an attempt to discover answers, the individual does not realise that they had been searching in the wrong places all along. The instinctual response of an infant in pain is to cry in order to make their surroundings aware of their pain. Similarly, the individual needs to stop forcing themselves to seek answers and instead approach another loved one, or a professional, for understanding things that are beyond them.
Nisa Hafeez
Published in The Express Tribune, June 8th, 2020.
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