Violence against women, no more

For too long, honour killings and domestic violence has been associated with the lower income groups. Its a myth.

Sadya Siddiqui November 30, 2011
The Women's Rights Bill unanimously passed by the Pakistani parliament is indeed a great achievement. For what it's worth, it is an acknowledgement by the State that yes, indeed, there should be legislative measures to protect women.  

Nighat Daad, a lawyer and the social activist behind Take Back the Tech initiative hopes that the proposed Prevention of Anti-Women Practices (Criminal Law Amendment) Act 2011, which now awaits passage in the Senate, doesn’t face the similar fate as the Domestic Violence Bill passed by National Assembly in 2009. Daad says:
"The Senate allowed it to lapse while saying that this law will enhance the divorce rate in the country. While the intent of the Bill is undoubtedly commendable, its execution leaves a lot to be desired. There is also the possibility of the misuse of the clause related to inheritance matters".

There are still cases reported in US, UK and Europe where South Asian girls have been killed by their own families for wanting to be with someone of their own choice. Here in Pakistan, like most Asian cultures, domestic violence is not openly discussed. When I asked around in my own circle for personal stories of domestic violence, not one person came forward, even though I suspect that at least one of my friends is in an abusive marriage.

For too long, honour killings and domestic violence has been associated with the lower income groups. This myth was shattered by the tragic case of Samia Sarwar in 1999. Samia belonged to a well to-do family and her father was the President of the Peshawar Chamber of Commerce. Her act of walking out of an abusive marriage and seeking a divorce was so unacceptable to her family that she had to seek protection in a women's shelter. This act of defiance sullied the 'honor' of her family and her own mother had her killed right in front of her eyes.

Violence can be silent

According to Dad, Domestic violence occurs in all ages, races, genders and social classes. The form of abuse differs- in lower class it ranges from physical abuse to mental torture and in upper class it may restrict to emotional abuse. While doing different awareness raising events, under the umbrella of Take Back The Tech( TBTT), Dad says she was surprised to see how women wanted to talk about every form of violence they face. She believes that there is a dire need to create more spaces for victims of abuse where they can find support and strength from other victims.

Remembering the butterflies

November 25 has been designated by the United Nations as the International Day for Elimination of Violence against Women. This day was specifically chosen to commemorate the lives of the Mirabal Sisters who stood against the repressive regime of General Trujillo of the Dominican Republic. The Mirabal sisters, known as 'the Butterflies' started a revolution against the General for which they were jailed, persecuted and eventually clubbed to death on November 25, 1960. The United Nations has chosen this day to raise awareness against all forms of violence directed at women.

But Nighat Daad remains hopeful of the future
"I now see many women speaking about the issues which once considered as taboos in our society. We literally need to create more spaces for victims, start initiatives like Take Back The Tech and more counselling for victims of abuse and more awareness raising events where public at large can participate both men and women".

In India, the BellBajao campaign was successfully launched on TV and radio to create awareness and encourage action in stopping domestic violence. It may be difficult to quantify the impact of the TBTT and BellBajao initiatives, but they are much needed in the Subcontinent.

Last year, Robert Fisk, the internationally acclaimed journalist who followed up on Samia Sarwar's case, wasn't even able to locate her grave. This November 25, let's make sure Samia Sarwar and the many other silent sufferings are not forgotten.
Sadya Siddiqui A personal branding consultant based in Karachi, who also contributes to The Express Tribune.
The views expressed by the writer and the reader comments do not necassarily reflect the views and policies of the Express Tribune.


Usman | 12 years ago | Reply Very good effort indeed. Though, such problems persists in every society throughout the world as its a commob behaviour of Humans. Women is facing abusive, hard, tortured life decause there is no one to fight/speak for her right. What we are lacking in this whole issue is lack of proper Education. Education does not means only School Education, it starts from our home, lap of our Mother. Agreed with Nasheen's comment, that otherwise the life is more difficult and miserable for single parents in our society. Every women is not such capable of survival because of different life status. In the end, hoping for the best and wish things could turn positive and could rectify/eliminate the root causes of abusive marriage,torture and divorce. May ALLAH ALMIGHTY bless everyone a happy,peacfful and prosperous life. Ameen.
Sadya | 12 years ago | Reply Not just Pakistanis, this happens in most Asians communities, and even in the West except that there are laws to punish such behavior. Another link to the Samia Sarwar story
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