11 rules for the Pakistani do-gooder

Here is a burger bacha's guide to dealing with the gritty reality of community work in Pakistan.

Madeeha Ansari November 12, 2011
There’s much to be said about the spirit of volunteerism and philanthropy, so deeply ingrained in desi culture. In a material world, it’s great to see people making the effort to venture beyond their personal spheres. 

Before leaving one’s comfort zone, however, it might be important to be a little prepared. This is true not only for the good-hearted burger-bachas, but also their proactive supervisors, armed to the teeth with terrifyingly good intentions.  After squirming in my shoes watching just such an army of angels at work, I thought it might be useful to have a Community Service Orientation Pack, to ease the transition for people like you and me.

Before you enter:

1. Know your community profile beforehand (ethnicity, religion, economic background).

2. If you want to be able to integrate, leave bold fashion statements for a different day. Girls - even if you don’t want to cover your heads, taking a dupatta along might make people feel like they’re dealing with less of a 'mem sahib' (wealthy woman).

3. Know what you’re going to do. If you’re going to spread 'public service messages', make sure they haven’t been spread already. Repetition is not always effective, it can get annoying.

4. Don’t presume that you’ll know more.

While you’re there:

5. Try not to stand in awkward groups, whispering amongst yourselves. Be interested in introductions, and if there’s nothing to say afterwards then silence isn’t such a terrible thing.

6. Please don’t pity the 'less fortunate'. Take your time to talk to them, you might make friends. Cricket is generally a safe topic to start with or even – wait for it – the weather. It’s suddenly so cold, yes, winter is here.

7. Try to communicate in Urdu or the local language if you know it.

8. If you have something to give, let it be given in the most natural way possible. Take pictures if you must, but let it not be just a photo opportunity with people having to pose multiple times. If you want to take photos, ask for permission.

9. A good facilitator will help break the ice, and will not be talking about the communities in front of them. People can generally hear when this is happening.

10. Don’t give your cell-phone number to strangers, even if they are much younger. Be polite in the event that you are asked, but unless there is a specific purpose, slide out of it.

11. Smile. Friendly but not vacant, friendly but not too familiar. Friendly.

It’s so very easy for many of us who read the ET blogs to be blissfully unaware of an alternate reality, one that exists beyond Gossip Girl, or great literature, or serious political talk. We all choose our own boxes and it isn’t easy to step outside them. When taking that decision, however, it just might be good to remember that one has to respect the space inside someone else’s box, in order to be welcomed into it again.
WRITTEN BY:
Madeeha Ansari
The views expressed by the writer and the reader comments do not necassarily reflect the views and policies of the Express Tribune.

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barney stinson | 8 years ago | Reply | Recommend i do social work like this.....way more fun...:d http://bp-theplaybook.blogspot.com/2011/09/social-attack.html
Madeeha | 8 years ago | Reply | Recommend Just a disclaimer: pictures are furnished by the publishing powers that be. And titles are at the discretion of the editing powers. It was just a little rant inspired by a specific (rather horrific) experience at work, kept generic to avoid offence. As mentioned, it wouldn't do to discount generosity of spirit and the courage it takes to explore alternate realities. But if one shouldn't be condescending towards the people who give, then it doesn't hurt to say that one can be careful about being condescending towards those at the receiving end. Am the first to say that development workers can be most callous and self-righteous, striding in and assuming that they know best. :) That's just it. It's worthwhile to take the time to figure out that other people are intelligent, sentient beings who may know their own needs better.
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