Is your online life more 'real' than your reality?

Our online lives have taken over so much that we have started shying away from real-life encounters altogether.

Riffat Rashid December 01, 2013
Your online identity has seen you do a bunch of crazy things from naming yourself after your favourite Star Wars character to putting up highly fantasised pictures of your human self on Bitstrips

Bitstrips has become a craze among the young and old, with people creating pictures of their human selves online. Photo: Bitstrips (Facebook Page)

However, what started as fun and games has long since existed to be only that. You are now as much of an amalgamation of your online experiences as your real-life ones and who is to say which one is what?

With phone alerts punctuating almost all our human interactions, the time and importance we give to knowing why Karachi is trending on Twitter is way more than how we actually spend an ordinary day in the city.

However, where does our online life end and where does the real life begin?

Moreover, does our real life even matter anymore?

Though a seemingly preposterous idea, our increasing participation in cloud communities, online food groups, art pages and movie review forums, at the expense of real-life interaction with fellow mortals says otherwise. Even when it comes to things such as developing skill-sets or finding a living, we are more likely to spend time on activities that are valued on the internet as opposed to real life things, like getting out of bed.

Busy adorning our cell-phone experience with the furniture of apps, we are slowly doing away with the need of having tangible things around. Notebooks, calculators, chess boards, canvases, alarm clocks are all examples of things that have slowly disappeared from our physical surroundings, only to appear in our virtual one.

Online apps are slowly doing away with the need of having tangible things around. Photo: AFP

Remember how you hid the other day from that acquaintance at the mall?

It is a fact that we shy away from having real-life encounters and are wary of stepping out to buy say, brownies, but willingly struggle to earn extra lives in Candy Crush – okay maybe, that one is a tough call, but you get what I mean, right?

People struggle to get to the next level of Candy Crush as if their life depends on it. Photo: Reuters

We abandon our comfort zones to protest against the banning of websites and it is only when we are blocked on online pages that we truly begin to value our ‘fundamental’ rights.

With our rooms slowly transforming into bat-caves where we wish we could store a week-long supply of food, our online lives are taking over, leaving little or no room to develop our offline identity. We know how to respond to various online situations with standard acronyms like YOLO (You only live once), ROFL (Rolling on the floor laughing) and of course, the staple LOL (Laugh out loud), but often find it next to impossible to tell someone off in real life – a fact I am now convinced of after a friend disclosed that she had taken an online course on ‘How to say NO and stand up to your peers’.

Even though we would like to think that this is a problem that affects only a certain strata of society, upon closer inspection this does not seem to be the case. From daily-wage earners to salaried drivers, sometimes it is getting lost in the world of their mobile phones that keeps them going.

With people adding filters to their photos on Instagram to cropping out their photo-bombing friends, our online appearances have started to matter just as much as our real selves, if not more.

It has become more important to share one's picture on Instagram than meet people in person. Photo: AFP

Who are we turning into and who are we leaving behind?

The question to ask yourself is,
“Are you for real, bro?”

If you still think that I am exaggerating, here is why I am not - Mark Zuckerberg’s sister thinks one should register a baby’s online identity at birth!
Riffat Rashid The author is currently a Media Science student at SZABIST. A literature, food and art enthusiast. She tweets here
The views expressed by the writer and the reader comments do not necassarily reflect the views and policies of the Express Tribune.


Tyler Duerden | 10 years ago | Reply You're not your Facebook status. You're not how many friends you have. You're not the smart phone you own. You're not the apps of your phone. You're not your freaking iPad. You're the all-planking, e-consuming crap of the world. -Another repeated post from someone who lost count of the times he watched Fight Club
waqas | 10 years ago | Reply Yeah, true that someone so cool online turns out not so be in reality and thts how ppl get wrong perspective of ones true personlity...
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