I am blind, not disgusting

The man selling the corn refused to touch Hamza's hand just because according to him he was blind, thus, 'dirty'.

Fatima Khalid December 03, 2012
His name was Hamza and he wasn’t born blind. He was the only son amongst five daughters and was not very well off.

A cricket ball plunged to the back of his neck took away his eyesight but was not able to take away his desire to learn. He had a beautifully haunting yet a wise way of looking at the world and accepting it.

I was assigned as his teacher during an internship at the Ida Rieu School for Deaf and Blind in my final year of undergraduate school. He was placed in the special class, where students who weren’t born blind but had lost their eyesight as a result of some illness or accident, studied.

When I entered that classroom, I had no idea that I was just as blind as these students.

I didn’t know my life was about to change drastically. I did not know that the little boy, who lost his eyesight at the age of ten, would be the cause of this change.

I sat next to him and helped him practise his Braille, pushing him to try and understand the difficult technicalities of the Braille alphabet. We slipped into our roles of a teacher and a student and he was perfect, accepting criticism and pushing himself to work harder.

At the end of the day, we both congratulated ourselves for learning something new. Him, the Braille alphabet and me, the patience to teach, listen and teach again.

One day, when the bell rang at the end of the school day, Hamza stopped me before I could reach for my bag.
“Miss, aap mujhay meri van takk chorr deingi?”

(Miss, will you drop me to my van?)

I agreed and helped him with his bag. When we started to move towards the door, I automatically stood in front of him and offered my elbow to him to grasp so that I could safely lead the way without him bumping into things.
“Miss koi baat naheen”

(Miss, it’s ok)

I was confused. I asked him what he meant.
“Aap ko problem hogi, mein khudd aajaonga”

(You will have a problem. I will come myself)

I assured him that it was no problem at all and he hesitantly grasped my arm just above the elbow. We carefully made our way down the stairs to the parking lot where the student’s vans were parked.

I asked him the number of his van and the driver’s name. After ten minutes of futile search he said maybe the driver is running late.
“Aap chali jaeyn, mujhay koi bitha deyga van mein”

(You can go; someone will seat me in the van)

I told him not to be ridiculous and helped him sit on a bench and we both waited for his van to come.
Miss agar aap bura na manaeyn toh mein ek baat bolon?”

(Miss if you don’t mind, can I say something?)

I told him to go ahead and speak his mind.
“Mein yahan doh saal sey parh raha hon aur aaj takk kisi teacher ney mujhay unka bazu naheen pakarnay diya”

(I have been studying here for two years and till this day no teacher has ever allowed me to hold her arm)

I was so shocked that I didn’t know what to say.

Hamza smiled as if he could read my expression and said,
“Miss itna chaunk kyun gai? Mujhay toh aadat hogai hai. Khush kismat log humein achoot samajhtay hain”

(Miss why are you so shocked? I am used to it. The lucky people think of us as untouchables.)

I couldn’t help it. I reached out and grasped his hand. I choked on my words but somehow managed to swallow the hard lump in my throat and tell him that it was them who were the unlucky ones.

Hamza smiled but didn’t comment.

I looked around, desperately looking for something to say or do to make him feel better. I spotted a man who was selling corn kernels near the van. I asked Hamza if he would like some.
“Jee miss, lekin ami ney paisay diay hain. Aap mujhay sharminda na kerna mein khudd khareedna chahta hon”

(Yes miss, but my mother has given me money. Please don’t embarrass me. I want to buy them myself.)

I realised that Hamza, like every special person I have ever come across, desperately wanted to be treated normally. I agreed and we walked over to the corn seller.

I asked him for two packets of corn kernels worth Rs10 each.

When I opened my bag to take out the money, I noticed the look of distaste on the man’s face as he almost threw the packets at Hamza. He quickly retracted his hand and wiped it on his clothes.

I was outraged and asked him the meaning of his behaviour.
“Baji maaf keejiayga lekin andhon ko choona mujhay pasand naheen”

(Sister forgive me, but I don’t like touching blind people.)

He said this with Hamza standing right there, hand outstretched to pay for the corn kernels.

I was so angry that I took my packet and returned it to the man, fixing him with an icy stare I said,
“Allah tumhein mauf keray.”

(May God forgive you!)

I handed Hamza his corn kernels and we walked back to the bench.

We sat in silence as Hamza ate the corn.
“Miss please ghussa nah hon. Usney aaj pooray duss ruppay kay daanay diay hain warna paanch ruppay k dey k kehta hai duss ruppay do aur jao yahan sey”

(Miss please don’t be angry. He gave me Rs10 worth of corn today, usually he gives me a packet worth Rs5 and tells me to go away.)

I was so upset I didn’t know what to say or how to respond.
“Miss mujhay guddi kay baal bohat pasand hain aur school kay bahar miltay bhi hain lekin guddi k baal jo bechta hai who hum sey baat bhi kerna pasand naheen kerta”

(Miss I love candy floss and they sell it outside the school but the man who sells it doesn’t even like to talk to us.)

I silently thought to myself, in amazement, about the kind of people that lived in this world, even educated people like Hamza’s teachers didn’t allow him to touch them. What use was their education to them?

After helping Hamza safely on to his van, I noticed the van driver shouting at the other blind children getting on board and occasionally calling them names when they couldn’t find a place to sit.

It depressed me to no end to see these children, who have already lost so much, to be treated like this by people around them, just because they weren’t as perfect or normal.

I silently prayed for forgiveness, for these ignorant and heartless people, who didn’t realise that if God had the kindness to bless them, He also had the power to take it away whenever He wanted.

From that day onwards, I made a conscious effort to thank Allah (SWT) for all He had blessed me with and to apologise for being so blind, ignorant and thankless.

We are the lucky ones, for God has given us the sense to see His miracles, the tongue to thank Him for it, and the ability to appreciate them.

Ironically, it took a 12-year-old blind child for me to see it.

Read more by Fatima here, or follow her on Twitter @fatimakm
WRITTEN BY:
Fatima Khalid An aspiring writer and poet, graduated from the University of Karachi, specialising in Special Education, English Literature and Psychology, interned in various special schools for children including Ida Rieu Welfare Association, Quaideen School for Special Children and Deaf Education Welfare Association (DEWA). She tweets @fatimakm
The views expressed by the writer and the reader comments do not necassarily reflect the views and policies of the Express Tribune.

COMMENTS (49)

shocked (former) pakistani | 8 years ago | Reply I can absolutely relate to this article. The people in Pakistan have a great deal of animosity against disabled people. I can give my example- I was born with a slight defect- my right hand does not have four fingers. It does not hinder any of my activities like driving, carrying weights etc. I was brought up in Africa and people there were very carefree and treated me like everyone else so much that I never thought of myself as any different from anyone else. When I was 20 I moved to Karachi with my family and stayed in Karachi for 3 years. Almost every day at office people would ask me about my hand- from the Peons to the Directors. Some showered their pity on me, other retracted and showed their disgust. Thankfully I moved over to Europe and in Europe (just as in Africa) I am treated as normal as anyone else. Recently my mom took me to Pakistan to get a Bride and I was surprised that all families (we went to about 8 or 9 families through a rishta aunty) rejected me. Some even showed their displeasure that we dared to go to their homes for a rishta!! Despite a slight defect, the Pakistani society never accepted me. I am lucky that I dont live in Pakistan and do not have to cope with the 'pious Pakistanis' but really feel for those who are disabled and are stuck in the pakistani society. But my message to all the Disabled people, who are hated by pak society is that there is an authentic Hadith of Prophet (saw) that on the day of resurrection when the people that went through trials/calamities are rewarded, the others that remained safe will wish that their skins had been cut off in this world.
reader | 8 years ago | Reply heartfelt article indeed my sister's kids (2 of them) are special too. their mental growth is impaired. but they are a blessing for us and the happiness they bring to our family .I hate it when i take them to the park and the ignorant people around us look at them as if they are animals of some sort and specially the women telling their normal children to stay away from them coz they might hurt them...i actually beat up a guy senseless once when one my kids kissed his baby and the baby started crying and he said " band ker k rakha karo in ko ghar mein". these are the people who are literate but downright ignorant. i applaud you for this article because this might bring some sense into people who dont respect the creation of Allah
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