Waiting for miracles to happen is not the most effective solution — but it is the only option Noorma, who is Malaysian by birth, is left with.
Hollow-eyed and with wrinkles which are proof of more than just her aging years, she sits quietly outside a meat shop in the narrow streets of Pirabad, a Pashtun majority area of Orangi Town.
With longing in her eyes, she is waiting for the day when she gets to go back home to Kuala Lumpur — the city she left over 65 years back, involuntarily.
“Going back to Kuala Lumpur to see my family again is my last wish,” says Noorma with a hint of a tear in the corner of her eye. Hundreds of flies hover over her head as she tries to cover her red-dyed hair with a white shawl.
Thirteen years old at the time, Noorma was brought to Karachi when she married Asghar – a young Pashtun hailing from Torghar, District Kala Dhaka of Khyber-Pakhtunkhwa – who used to work with her uncle in Kuala Lumpur.
“He (my husband) tricked me and got me here. He promised that we will go back to Kuala Lumpur after six months when I insisted on staying back.
“His promises turned out to be false and that was the last time I saw my brothers and sisters,” says Noorma, who reached Pakistan via sea a year before the partition.
Young and confused, alien to the rugged terrains of the tribal belt, she could hardly understand Pashto. One day, observing little
girls dancing in her house amid fireworks and songs, a horrifying realisation struck her.
She was a guest at her own husband’s wedding.
Asghar had married another girl, a year after they reached Torghar, without telling her.
“Asghar’s little sisters told me that it is their brother’s wedding night and then I understood the fraud.”
Gathering strength and resolve in moments of utter betrayal was not easy, but Noorma decided to leave. But little did she know that her husband had burnt all her documents including her passport, her addresses in Malaysia and contact numbers.
Forced to live in her anguish, she spent the rest of her years collecting wood and grass in the mountains till 1988 when her husband died. Out of six of her children only one survived and she came to Karachi with him.
“He (Asghar) was never good to me because of his second wife. I’ve led a painful life because of him which is why I never miss him,” she says matter-of-factly.
Noorma’s troubles are far from gone — like most other residents of Karachi, she prays for the safety of her son and grandchildren when ever they leave home.
Given the deteriorating law and order situation of the city and an uncontrollable need to reunite with her long-lost family, she does not want to live in Pakistan anymore.
“There is too much suffering and pain here. Life has not become any easier.
Besides I am always worried about the safety of my son and my grandchildren. Every time they walk out of the door, I wonder whether they will come back alive or not.”
Her son works as a waiter in a small hotel and money is never enough. Debt is rising and she hates the fact that she has to hide her face when she’s walking in the street, to avoid confrontation with her lenders.
The youngest daughter of her parents, Noorma believes that her siblings would recognise her if they see her today — although she hasn’t been able to contact her family since she left Malaysia.
With old age and a weak memory, she hardly remembers her mother tongue. But she does remember the names of her four brothers and two sisters.
Covering her face with her shawl to avoid her neighbours, she grabs lunch for her grandson and wonders which route to take to her house — the streets might be familiar but it is far from home for her.
Noorma might have lost everything in Pakistan but there is hope in her eyes.
“I can find them [my family] no matter how big the city of Kuala Lumpur is. I still remember my home.
“My grandson will go with me when I finally go home,” she says against all odds before disappearing off in the city of lights.
Published in The Express Tribune, June 11th, 2012.
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@Tan Sri Mohd. Zaman Khan: Tan Sri. Kindly pls help to assist this kind old lady..it brought tears to my eyesto see her hardship in that troubled country. With you connection, i do realise that her final wish eventho i know deep inside tht her family is all gone, tht she will come to this beautiful country of ours that she once called home. GodBless Tan Sri.
@Tan Sri Mohd. Zaman Khan: God bless you. Please help this poor woman to find her way back here to her family.
This story makes me feel sad. May all things be made easier for him to return to Malaysia.
this story is same with my late granmother told about the lost sister in pakistan my late grandmother name maryam binti jamil and the late mother sila binti buyong.is the name of the parent family true? My family try to find the lost family at karachi pakistan.Maybe her is one of it? When can i get detail information about her?please contact me or give the person incharge contact number to me.i need detail about her. Contact me at kuala lumpur malaysia noraini son of maryam binti jamil 60341065322 thanks
I have dropped an email with the Consul General of Malaysia in Karachi along with a link and brief description of the story. I hope they act fast and reach this woman soon.
Further to my earlier comment. The Red Crescent of Pakistan should get the RC of Malaysia to track her root in Malaysia. I have requested a friend who is an official with the RC to assist. I shall do my best. Anyone who wants to be in contact with me can do so; ny email is g3386@yahoo.com.
She was too young to remember her home or address also at that time Malaysia was like Pakistan and know everything has reached to the limits.It is very difficult to trace her relatives. The embassy to assess her financially so that she can have some good time. She would be looking for that Malaysia which she left 65 years back. Very sad story.
Assalamualaikum, You may realize from my name that I have a connection with Northwest. My late father left his village soon after the 1st. WW to search for greener pastures. with his father. He hailed from a village - Batamurai or some time pronounced as Batamuri - not far from Shinkari. You will find people of Pashtun origins in the northeast states of Trengganu and Kelantan and in Thailand. Many of them married Malay ladies and raise families. Some of them sold their properties and would migrate back with the families to Pakistan; such is their patriotism to NW. My father too wanted to return to Pakistan. But my mother would want to follow him and also would not allow him to take the children back. He decided to stay back - a blessing for all of us. If I have followed. I do not what I will be. I retired as a Commissioner of Police.
The woman in this case is definitely a half breed; a mixture of Pashtun and Malay. Her mother must be Malay. I am prepared to assist her return to Malaysia and some one should help to get details such as, full name, the village she is from in Malaysia, her brothers and sisters and relations. This is important. She may have forgotten. Most of them would come from the state of Trangganu, Kelantan and from locations such as Besut, Jerteh, Kota Bahru, Slor, Machang, Pasir Mas..
Feel so sorry for her. I wish some write picks up her story and writes a novel; that will convey her lifestory to a wider audience around the world.
Not only Malaysian Embassy if someone else may help her then I think its the best option to the very best for Allah's sake.
In this day and age, her story should be published in KL papers, and the rest should be easy. Of course Malaysian govt has to do something for her. Without the proper papers and visa, I am not sure without a visa even if she has money she might not be able to go. May God bless her.
I feel so sorry for the lady. She must be assisted by the Malaysian Embassy.
Please provide some detail about noorma... If anyone wants to financially help her so they can get in touch with her.
This is not the first lady who is tricked from Malaysia. Unfortunately the innocent ladies from Malayasia are tricked by our fellow Pakistanis and there is a considerable population of People from North West living in Malayasia and I have seen that usually they marry but owing to the family pressure they divorce these ladies after getting papers or else they simply decieve them by getting married once in Malayasia and then from Pakistan. Even in Malayasia there are some ladies with kids searching for their Pakistani husbands and they are nowhere to be found.
A very sad story. Malaysian Embassy should do something.