Breaking stereotypes: Bangladeshi bride wears no makeup, jewellery on wedding day

"A girl should not need a whitening lotion, a gold necklace or an expensive saree to be accepted as a bride"


Afp August 15, 2017
PHOTO: TASNIM JARA/FACEBOOK

A Bangladeshi bride who posted a picture of herself on social media wearing her grandmother's cotton sari with no make-up or jewellery has sparked a heated debate about the high expense of weddings in the impoverished country.

Tasnim Jara, who runs a charity providing medical care for the poor, said she wanted to challenge the widely held view that a bride must be dripping in gold on her wedding day.

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"Personally, I feel that we need to change this mindset," she wrote in a Facebook post that has been liked by more than 114,000 people and shared nearly 30,000 times since Friday.

"A girl should not need a whitening lotion, a gold necklace or an expensive saree to be accepted as a bride or to make her feel confident," she further shared.

Jara said she faced opposition over her choice, even from relatives; some of whom refused to have their picture taken with her.

"I was troubled by the singular image of a bride that our society has - with tonnes of make-up, a weighty dress and mounds of jewellery weighing her down."

"Don't be fooled, this lavish image of a bride does not represent the financial well-being or agency of a woman in the family."

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The post sparked a debate in the Muslim majority nation, where families spend huge amounts on weddings, often landing themselves in debt for years.

One reader said Jara had "no right to criticise" others who wanted to spend money on make-up and jewellery.

But the vast majority of the 1,400 comments the Facebook post prompted were supportive.

"Thats an awesome step... I too hate that culture," read one.

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COMMENTS (13)

doc patho | 6 years ago | Reply a strong minded spirited woman along with an open minded supportive husband .its a union between equals.may their marriage be blessed with happiness and contentment.
faisal | 6 years ago | Reply Really fantastic to see this...Definitely a step in the right direction.
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